now you might not have seen in coming
or you might so be pre-empting it.
Most people's sex lives change
dramatically once they are pregnant
today I'm
joined by love and relationship expert
Henry Silver to talk about sex during
pregnancy
hey Hilary it's so nice to have you here
to talk about this of difficult topic
and you talk about it so openly this is
great. Once you're pregnant
obviously there are lots of hormonal changes,
your shape changes as well and libidos
are going to go up or down and and I
think a lot of women
sex won't be the first thing on their
agenda but their libidos might
actually go up and feeling rejection
from the partners just because they're
pregnant whether they're showing or not
can be hurtful and can can put strain on
the relationship so what would you
advise to these women and and is it
normal that men to stop enjoying sex
or wanting sex even if they had a really
high libido before their partners
were pregnant?
- well yeah so it's totally normal that
some men might be put off by having sex
with pregnant wives for many reasons
first of all of course the obvious is we
don't look the same or pregnant right
what we're attracted to you when we
first get together is absolutely not
what we are looking like when were
pregnant and that's just the physical
visual stuff and guys that we know are
super visual but then there's also some
of that other stuff like am I gonna hurt
the baby and you know is the baby gonna
know that we're having sex and you know
it's awkward and uncomfortable and the
positions are strange and so yeah it's
really normal if any of our spouses
lovers partners are not interested in
having sex with us when you're pregnant
but it's also true that some men are
actually turned on by this super
feminine body right it's just kind of
that quintessential visual
of a woman in her most feminine state
and so some of men are actually highly
turned on so to each his own and
everybody has their own unique erotic
template the things that turn north on
its all is unique to each one of us as
our fingerprints
yeah I i love that so what expectations
would you give the pregnant couple of
what things right now on how to optimize
their sex life really number one is to
take the pressure off you never know
what you're gonna get when you're
pregnant you don't know if you're going
to get sick and uncomfortable and if
you're going to get huge like I got so
huge i thought i'm 52 and i thought i
was going to be this teeny little
pregnant thing with a little baby bug
and I was enormous and bloated
everywhere and I did not feel sexy and I
couldn't do anything to make myself look
cute
I just did not feel attractive at all so
you just really never know what you're
gonna get when you are pregnant and so
the pressure is off i know it feels like
a long time to have a strain on your sex
life as a couple but big 30,000 foot
view your big perspective here is that
it's a very short period of time in your
life for this you know for your sex life
to be affected this way so number one
would really just be take the pressure
off you know there are lots of things
that you can do besides not having you
know actual intercourse you can you know
do all kinds of foreplay you can get
creative you can change the places in
the house that places that you do it you
can you know optimize the belly and use
it and it's really just about getting
created this is my second tip just get
really creative about what you're going
to do with this pregnant belly and how
you're going to use that in your sex
life for fun and and and you know some
people do get really self-conscious and
so if that's the case then just take
that into consideration for me remember
i said i was not feeling confident so I
just wasn't feeling all that interested
I didn't want him to see me in that way
and I didn't you know I didn't feel in
control of my body and it was an awkward
experience for me not at all what I
expected and some women feel completely
attractive and they embrace this
pregnant thing so it really just depends
on what your experiences and so that's
why it's number one was most important
to take the pressure off and it just is
what it is for the two of you as a
couple and then what else can i say to
optimize your sex life do it as long as
you still feel comfortable doing it and
do it as much as you can while you still
feel comfortable and when it's time to
call it quits then you just stopped
having sex for a while then you do but
just remember you're not going to be
able to have sex for six weeks after
baby is born and then after that six
weeks most women are exhausted and
hormonal and cranky and totally
completely focused on baby so sexy white
isn't likely to return to normal for at
least six months so as long as you're
still able to enjoy and you still want
to have sex when you're pregnant
please do it excellent thank you so much
Hillary you heard her
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