hello everyone and welcome back I'm Lynn JT
from Achieve The Birth You Want
and today we're not doing any pregnancy
tutorials no birth preparation lessons or
anything like that if you're like me and
thinking about baby number two already
you're absolutely desperate dreaming
about having a second third baby then
you want to watch this interview chat
that I'm having with the lovely Lauren
Catty Mum Lauren hey I'm Lauren and I vlog
over on my youtube channel Chatty Mum
check it out because she makes really
fun honest family blog and she's mummy
to two beautiful girls: Sophia who is
3 going on 4 and Sienna who is just about
and one so I've got a lot to learn from
her
so learn my first question is how do you
plan for baby number two while we always
knew we wanted a sibling for super yeah
and we actually got married after we
have to be sol have to fear in april
2013 we got married in july 2014 and we
immediately started trying for another
baby because we thought that sees that
would be a bite two years difference in
age between member i kinda-sorta it
would be really easy to fall pregnant
again because with our first daughter we
fallen pregnant kind of even trying
because she was a bit of a surprise so I
just felt alright once we decide to have
a baby you know it'll just happen but it
turns out that's not always because so
that age your second baby
it can sometimes take longer or and
friends who had first baby even quite a
long time full pregnant with the first
baby and then reads we have a second
baby so our bodies can be a bit weird
sometimes
nobody can understand why it was only
after nine months altogether but it
seems such a long time when that nine
months of disappointment really because
it's something we really really wanted
men from the january i started to write
this is
happenings we're going to have to maybe
not a bit more so I started being
evaluation test I got the clear blue
digital ovulation test and I'm so
recommends getting knows if I was ever
to have a third baby i would probably
start using knew straight away because
actually the window of falling pregnant
is so small that if you miss the two
days or whatever it is a short window
but you have then you know you've missed
I for that month and have to wait a
whole nother month so the great thing
with the obligation passes that it tells
you when those days are and will be
clear blue ones that I used it shows you
when you're high fertility is when your
peak fertility is it still takes you
months even with using those because yes
bodies can be weird sometimes
okay so while I want to consider that
conceiving second time round isn't a
given tell me it wasn't been hard to be
pregnant when you really had a toddler
nipping at your heels
oh my business yes I find my second
pregnancy much much harder and my first
I love being pregnant first time I felt
great i mean i had a sickness that but i
was tired but I really did enjoy being
pregnant especially wants the first
trimester remover with my second
pregnancy I just felt tired the whole
time I'd really bad knowledge as well
that was weird it was different i didn't
I have witnessed the first pregnancy and
I was nauseous and the second but not
sick so he can't but people always think
of different symptoms it will be a
different sex of the baby but and I had
two girls that has different symptoms
but it was much much harder being
pregnant with her second child because
your account online battle day when
you're exhausted you have another little
person to get up to 4 and the caster
until you know is very demanding of you
physically and of your time and also
physically missing them you know because
to be with me too and so obviously i was
lifting her not because she still was
quite little I'm and she was wanting to
be up with me a lot so
it was quite physically demanding also
with the second pregnancy I gotta pump
much earlier so I was much bigger and so
it was kind of harder as well to kind of
hold to be a around the bump because
shoes more and i had worse box and this
can probably from bandung looking after
toddler and also because my hump was
bigger so yeah it was harder
the other thing i repaired by typing
pregnancies you get a lot less than with
a problem your other half
very pregnancy very much more like old I
think you're there for you let me help
you Adam don't carry that and then
you're great with the second one there
like at just get on with it just do it
oh I felt like there was no sympathy and
even when we were moving boys and having
underwent play rugby and i went today
we're really sorry like uh I mean half
was pregnant and probably this on my own
are you crazy i think certainly think
you can just do anything it should take
out while you've been through it once
you can do it again I find it hard but
you know obviously be still feeling the
kicks feeling the movement all of that
you know it's just exciting it doesn't
lose its magic you know what looking
really nice really sure he's being to
know that the second pregnancy is just
as medical but will it be for the first
child did Sophia show any signs of
jealousy or regression or things like
that when L came along
I'm quite concerned that if we had
another child it was just walk the boat
and it's such a beautiful dollars at the
moment there weren't any need your
issues and I think I've been really
lucky because we are absolutely loves
her little sister like really loves her
sometimes bit too much social screen
very much and I'm like okay it started
up and the general she really really
love her but the biggest issue we had
wasn't i guess it would stand from
jealousy but and it was something that's
fear did rather than her being to her
little sister
I'm not what she started wetting herself
my superior has been potty trained for
white nine
by the time we had see an association
really great was generally always dry i
always went through to preschools in
pump Street and she never had any
accidents but a month after we had
sienna she started wetting herself on
his back to couple of times even proved
herself and it's very unusual because
she hadn't done that for nine months
apart native quite common that it is a
reaction to having a new baby that they
want to try and be like a baby
themselves so they in a way they see
their little sister or their little
sibling whatever sex they are and they
see them having enough machines and they
start thinking I kind of want to be like
a baby again I want me to change my not
be and she definitely kind of progressed
in lots of ways she wanted to be cuddled
more and be more and i think i
understand that because you know what
used to be just me and her or she has
that all the time not once one time and
then suddenly there is another little
person who's taking up a lot of my time
so i guess of course it's fine to meet
them a little bit jealous in terms of
sort of any physical jealousy or you
know physical attacks because of
jealousy there wasn't anything major but
there was one incident I remember where
I just gone into the kitchen and come in
from the night the car and happy and the
carseat my setup on the super has run
into the kitchen just get something but
our kitchen is literally right side are
living room listening whole white suits
are just right side each other next
thing I hear see and scream here solids
and CN scream run straight into the
living room and her car seat is on this
or not the easy and obstruct in the car
seat was the right way out but obviously
Sienna was really scared assume she's
very young about spiritual me a few
weeks old and sophia has pushed her off
the super booster car seat off the soup
from and so obviously then that was a
wee bit of a worry and I just felt I had
to always make sure I didn't leave them
on their own but no it's fine i mean if
he has grown up a lot to nearly four and
I and she's really good with a little
sister artifacts keep trying to get her
and carry her but yeah those who demand
jealousy issues that
don't think that I find really difficult
and generally they really love each
other it is the cutest thing
the relationship between them ciana
thanks her big sisters just like the
funniest thing in the world with
laughter and severe to constantly cuddle
Fianna and very cute and it's lovely to
see the bombs between them or you know
what I that is the sweetest thing and I
totally get it
I have a younger sister and even though
we did you two fight when we were
younger we wear like that cuz i really
wish i could give that thing gift to
take one day so to finish out what are
your final tips and bits of advice for
myself and other ones out there were
thinking about having a second baby my
first I could be do it
I'm it is brilliant it can be hard work
but honestly the positives outweigh the
negatives and exhausting but just you
see with that in several attention he
just hopped through sometimes ipod sleep
deprivation for a year it has been I
killer but i love the girls so much and
they gave me so much joy that just get
you through all the tough times and i
would say that
don't be disheartened it takes longer to
conceive the second child it did the bus
there were no medical reason for it
I'm it just sometimes doesn't keep that
long but as I mentioned earlier if you
are trying i was definitely trying to
get ovation case because it will just
help you you know just make sure that
you are doing it up the ultimate I'm
increase your chances of falling
pregnant and then also just try and
explain to your other half that it's
still going to be hard on that because
you have another child and after that
you do you still need help no one that
actually it's still exhausting trying to
get help as much as you can and get help
from family to help you out because you
will be hired and you have to look after
yourself happy
Wonder Woman so you know when you're
pregnant you do need to take it easy
especially towards the end the pregnancy
or beginning if you're feeling really
sick
here try and get some help we put to be
it into preschool a couple of days a
week and not really really help
and first of all when I was pregnant can
give me a little bit of time to kind of
rest and relax but then once the baby
was born one Sienna was here it really
helped that i had fabulous mornings
where I just happy Anna so its focus
just on her because I think sometimes
you know you want that one-on-one time
with your baby
yeah just be easy on yourself it is hard
work and didn't put too much pressure on
yourself to have like a constantly clean
points of two kids it's really difficult
very toys everywhere all the time but we
just in the daytime have the toys i can
just shove the way anything think that's
the best way to cook with it in terms of
age gap and what i would recommend for a
second child we had initially wanted two
years or thought two years the perfect
age got something two years is good but
it ends up being two years my months
actually
for us that's worked perfectly and end
it would be it would be potty trained
okay i know she regrets but generally
she was 43 and she did get back on track
after her few weeks of wetting herself
again and she was potty-trained switches
a bit older bit more responsible she
could communicate better and tell me
things
it was much easier and it's good because
I didn't have to have enough bees
she's also added the prom so i only had
although we do have a double frown but
we've never actually used that
contributed to just sound on the back of
the crown and and you let me get things
a lot easier i have friends who had a
year between their babies and I know
that first year that is very very
difficult you're trying to have all
these both neutrality not be changes
those your cabins carry those and that
can be very difficult but then as they
get older that suisun age and then maybe
that makes things easier so everything
has its pros and cons so that's just my
story about having a second baby
the laws are asked me a bunch of
questions on what my approach to getting
pregnant is going to be good
yes that is on the cause this year and
share some tips on leading a healthy
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ever let me be involved and hope
everyone enjoyed this video
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