Hi I'm T1J. i'm some guy on the internet and sometimes people ask me for advice.
It's kind of weird when you think about it, but lets try to help them anyway.
How do you navigate friendships with people that have different beliefs than you?
This is kind of an interesting question, because I feel like a lot of people are unprepared
and/or unwilling to deal with the fact that people have different beliefs or opinions
than them.
And we get into this really tribalistic territory where we're looking for people who are on
our "team," and it's like, 'ohh, I don't like your
view on that, I guess you're not on my team after all!'
I guess it's up to you to decide what you value in a friend.
But for most people I think things like honesty, kindness, or being fun to hang out with are
usually considered more highly than what beliefs people have.
Now obviously, there are clear deal breakers.
Like if you're a literal bigot, I certainly don't want to be your friend.
Or if you've ever uttered the phrase "taxation is theft" then I'm guessing you're probably
pretty obnoxious.
I'm just kidding, I have several friends who have Ron Paul as their desktop wallpapers.
Probably.
But that's what I mean.
Having friends with different opinions than you shouldn't be stressful or frightening.
In general you should be open to being challenged.
Especially by people you consider friends.
But friendship is not about specific beliefs and opinions.
It's about shared values and shared experiences.
You're not always going to be eye to eye with your friends, but that's okay.
It's a good thing.
Embrace it.
How do you make men care about sexism?
Well, in general, you can't control what other people care about.
At the end of the day, people are going to believe whatever they want to believe.
The thing that I would advocate for is making good, fact-based arguments.
I think sometimes we expect people to naturally understand and care about things in the same
way that we do.
But unfortunately it usually just doesn't work like that.
Often, people need a little push in the right direction.
Like I used to be pretty anal about correcting people's grammar.
"Actually, It's Y-O-U-apostrophe-R-E!"
"Hey.
YOU'RE being a dick."
But the fact that sexism exists is something that you can make a very good argument for.
If you want people to come to your side, sometimes you're gonna have to be patient with them
and meet them where they are.
I just made a whole video about that.
And sometimes people are gonna be stubborn and disagreeable but like I said there's
not much you can do about that.
But I believe that there are a lot of people out there that just haven't heard these
ideas expressed to them in an effective way, and you can be the one to do that.
I'm into 2 people and they're both into me, and I don't want to hurt either of them,
what do I do?
First of all do you absolutely know for sure that these people would not be interested
in a non-monagamous relationship?
Like have you asked them?
It sounds like you're down, and In my experiences, I've learned that way more people are open
to this sort of thing than most people think.
I mean maybe it's worth asking.
But beyond that, relationships are hard, and very often there is no super clean easy answer.
Sometimes you just make a choice and run with it.
I would say that you probably shouldn't get into a relationship with someone if you're
going to be too distracted by someone or something else to put in the effort to make the relationship
work.
I got dumped one time because I just wanted to watch tv and go to the bar instead of hanging
out with my girlfriend!
Who knew that would be dealbreaker?!
Also you don't have to be in official romantic relationships with people in order to be intimate
and close.
Sometimes you just go with the flow and live your life and make connections and try to
be happy.
Especially when you're young.
I know I didn't really give you an answer, but that's life, life's hard.
Sometimes there's no easy answer.
But hopefully I gave you something to think about.
I'm going into my senior year and I'm super depressed and don't know what to do.
Okay, so I'm definitely not a mental health professional, and it sounds like you might
benefit from speaking to someone who is, so if that's an option for you, I would strongly
recommend that.
But assuming you're talking about highschool, here's the thing about high school, Just.
Get.
Through it.
Highschool is a very emotional and weird time for most people, and when you're in high
school, it's your whole world, it's the only thing you know.
For most people, life gets better after high school.
There are people who say that high school years are the best years of your life, and
those people must just have real sad lives.
It's not even close.
You have more freedom, you have more money, you know more stuff, you get to actually be
in the world, you start making real moves in life.
And in general, hanging out with adults is better than hanging out with teenagers.
Look, I get accused of being ageist sometimes, but yo that's just a thing that's true.
Adults can be trash don't get me wrong.
But when you find some good ones, you're set.
So I would say, your goal in high school is to just survive.
Because it does get better.
But I reiterate.
If you think that you have a mental health issue that is beyond the normal frustration
of dealing with high school bullshit, I encourage you to find a way to talk to a professional.
Hey its been a minute since I checked the voicemail let's do that.
(CALLER) Hey, the1janitor.
I was just wondering what do you think about this whole Oprah for president movement that's
going on, when nobody really knows.
about oprah's policies or anything like that?
So I like Oprah, she's an inspiration, her career has been groundbreaking.
She's done a lot of things that a lot of other tv personalities were too afraid to
do.
And she's done a lot for awareness for social issues in America.
So I back Oprah.
But I agree with you, I have no idea what Oprah's political positions are, and I wouldn't
consider supporting her for President or any other office until I did.
I suspect that Oprah would have a generally agreeable platform, but I don't know that
for sure.
Not accusing you of this, but this question is usually designed to be a "gotcha" question
posed toward people who criticized Trump for not having any political experience,
"because Oprah doesn't have any experience either!"
But here's the thing Trump is garbage, as we've covered before, on many occasions.
His lack of experience is the least concerning thing about him.
Oprah, on the other hand, is awesome.
So here we have two people who have no political experience, one who is garbage and one who
isn't.
That' why some people back Oprah and not Trump.
I hope that clears up any confusion.
And now a special announcement from—
Hello, all you virtue signaling beta cucks!
It's your friendly neighborhood Angry Stack of Beverage Napkins!
But you can call me Angry Stack.
And I'm really not sure why you're taking advice from this regressive SJW Soyboy.
Me on the other hand, I don't fall into the trap of this postmodern neo Marxist era
of political correctness.
I tell it how it is.
I'm a straight shooter.
So if you want any advice from ME, drop your questions in the comments below.
And I'll answer them in a future video, right after I take my daily dose of Brain
Force Plus.
So yeah, if you have any questions for me…or him….leave it in the comments below, and
maybe we'll answer them in a future video.
You can also leave a question at these places, if you hate YouTube comments like I do.
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Thank you for watching, byeee!
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