Today's whole program is based on the power of focus we if you recall in our
last session we're talking about how to really direct our states of mind and
emotion we said that everything that we really want in our lives no matter what
it is whether it be family or friends a relationship or money or business
success or acknowledging all those things the only reason we want them is
what we think we'll get out of them which is a state change a certain level
of feeling within ourselves we also found out on our last tape that all
emotions every feeling we have is the result of how we use our body but
emotions literally are nothing but physiological storms in our brains if
you will and that we learned that by using our bodies in certain ways by
using our voice our gestures our breathing our facial expressions we
could radically change our states and we also talked about the idea if you're a
call of measuring our states where are we on a scale from zero to ten ten being
absolutely empowered unstoppable passionate zero being dead and noticing
are we at the appropriate level for what we want to accomplish and that for most
cases not all in life but most would it be nice to live at level 8 9 or 10 or
above on a consistent basis how much more juice would you have and so you
develop some exercises and discovering how to move your body not like me not
like somebody else but like you do when you really are feeling absolutely
excellent today what we want to do is take on the second way we can manage our
states and the second way to change your state at any moment in time as quickly
as you can think it is to control and direct the focus of your mind
what do I mean by that well think about this the only experience that you have
of life comes in two forms what you're physically feeling because of the
condition and use of your body at that moment in other words if you've got
physical pain that's obviously going to affect your state there's some kind of
tension for example or if you haven't had any sleep that's certainly an effect
your state as well or if you've eaten something that's blown your blood sugar
sky-high then obviously that's gonna affect your emotional states as well the
only other thing that really controls your state is what are you paying
attention to right now at this moment I mean let's take an example
have you ever had a headache maybe even a massive headache that you thought
there's no way you would ever go away you're really deep pain now what do you
do well most people go get an aspirin what if instead have you ever had it
happen where somebody asked you a question or something needed to be done
or something acquired your total focus somewhere else outside of yourself and a
lamo immediately the pain disappeared in fact you forgot about it and later on
when you thought about it you notice your headache was gone haven't you had
that happen at least once or twice in your life now how did you do that see my
whole life has been studying what makes people successful if someone is able to
do something if they're able to get rapport with somebody else if they're
able to create the results they want physically in their life that is lose
weight feel energized if they're able to create the relationships that they
really desire if they're able to feel as good as they ever wanted to feel I want
to know how do they do that and so I began to study how could somebody get
rid of a headache that quickly so we wouldn't be dependent on some drug like
aspirin or Tylenol or anything else and I began to realize that what it was is
we changed our mental focus and that whatever experiencing in our body really
comes from what we're paying attention to that's what really determines how you
feel and of course how you feel determines usually how you're gonna
behave doesn't that make sense when you're feeling really lousy you don't
usually do really well and I know there are exceptions but those exceptions are
because you control your focus you don't focus on feeling lousy you focus on
what's got to be done there was tremendous power and controlling the
focus of your mind now what do I mean by this specifically well there are two
things we can control in terms of focus we can control what we're focusing on
that is what we're picturing in our mind what we're saying to ourselves what
we're paying attention to in our physical body or we can control how
we're focusing how we're focusing means let's say the dimension of the pictures
in our mind the brightness of the colors in our head the volume of our sounds if
we change how we're paying attention to things not just what it radically
changes our state as well let me give an example pretend for a moment that your
brain is a camera and you go to a party how are you gonna feel at that party
well the only thing you're gonna have feelings about other things you focus on
it I mean in that room literally they're almost unlimited
number of activities and probably emotions and conversations and things
that are going on but your experience of that party is based on what that camera
focuses on now if it focuses on two people that are fighting and that's what
it focuses on for the entire party you would leave that party saying oh that
party was really intense I mean people are really upset with each other if your
focus was on two people in love who or maybe kissing passionately and say wow
that party was really moving I mean those people are really connected if
your focus was on some people that were really boring or bored
it's a nobody really enjoyed that party here's the problem the problem is your
camera that is the focus that you have does not usually take in everything
simultaneously your conscious mind can't there are only so many things you can
consciously focus on I mean think about how many things right now you are not
paying attention to that are happening at this moment there's the blood
pulsating through your right ear you may not even pay attention to it I mention
it now you might focus on it there's the beat of your heart where you even
noticing that until I mentioned it there's the feel of maybe some air
coming from an air conditioning maybe if you're nearby or there's the heat on
your skin or there's the blinking of your eyes there are unlimited number of
things that are happening right now but see here's the thing about human beings
since we can't focus on everything and consciously perceive it all what most of
us do is we become what I call deletion creatures what do I mean I mean that
most of the time most of us delete that as we fail to pay attention to or we
ignore most of what's going on around us at any moment in time so what's the
price of all this deletion well the price is we walk around believing or
hallucinating might be a better word that our experience of the world is real
now would you think that if you were looking through a camera that was
focused on one little portion of the party that that was truly the party it
wouldn't be very intelligent with it in fact you know what else is a problem
that camera may even create close-ups where it makes things bigger than they
actually are where they look bigger and brighter or worse than they were is that
possible - do you think your brain does that as well you better believe it does
so the key is if you want your life to be a party
you're happy with I'm not a party that you're upset with you got to realize
that any moment in time there's enough going on in the party of your life that
you could find something to be upset about all you've got to do is focus on
all you gotta do is look around that party find out areas that don't match
your expectations make them big and bright and close and you'll be upset and
you know what most people are good at this they've done it over and over and
over again the other thing that's equally true is that virtually any party
at any moment in time there's somebody having a good time and if you were to
focus on some area of your life at that moment of time you can make yourself
feel absolutely great or you could take some little thing something that's just
kind of nice but make it bigger and brighter and immediately you can feel
better about it as well so here's my point my point is if you
want to look at the quality of life and know what it is it's the quality of the
states that you live in day to day I mean isn't it really true isn't it how
you feel day to day that determines how you treat yourself how you treat other
people and how great you feel or how poor you feel about your life what
determines it one how you use your body so you want to develop some new habits
and to what and how you focus on things now that's the only way we can explain
how people have come from unbelievably painful experiences and turn them around
w Mitchell secret is he has controlled his physical body specifically the way
he uses his face this man has learned with what's left of his body to smile
and move his face in ways that makes him feel incredible and the second thing is
he focuses continuously on what he wants what he's got what he's grateful for and
as a result he feels incredible now nobody would blame him for looking
around and seeing he has no legs and he has no fingers he's got the toes there
instead and he's in a situation where he's in physical pain a lot of the time
nobody would blame him for feeling sorry for himself but see he doesn't focus on
that he loves life because he focuses on the part of the party that's the best
part for him don't you deserve to give yourself the same gift now take a look
at John Belushi example we used earlier also how could a guy like Belushi or
Presley or take somebody like Elizabeth Taylor here's a lady that would have
everything going forward by most people's standards she's an incredibly
in telogen woman she's absolutely beautiful
she's a great actress she has thousands and thousands probably millions of fans
to be more accurate who absolutely love her she has as much money as most people
could ever imagine needing or wanting she has a lifestyle that's absolutely
phenomenal she has family and friends that care about her and do anything for
her and yet what happens with this lady she has not learned to manage her stay
and she pays the price as great as she is great on the stage but in a personal
life over and over again she has to turn to food or to drugs to try and take care
of the challenges within herself see how could someone have it all and still be
unhappy because no matter how good it is you can always focus on something that
isn't perfect or doesn't match your expectations and that is called ultimate
failure in life you want to know what I believe success is success is creating
consistent pleasure in your life and causing yourself to grow failure is
being able to find pain no matter how good it is
that's failure the bottom line is you have that power and you can change it
right now by understanding that you make decisions about what to focus on now it
may be true that you've got some bad habits it may be true that right now you
look at what's worse or you look at what's wrong or you see what's not
working in your life and it's habitual so you don't think about it consciously
but you still make the decisions you can turn off the automatic pilot and take
control and when you do you can instantly change the quality of your
life the lady I married my wife Becky one things I loved about her more than
anything in the world the reason I married her probably more than anything
else is this woman is so incredible in her ability at any moment in time to
focus on what is great in a situation what is beautiful the most little things
she and I share that power where we can be in the middle of anything the middle
of turmoil and upsets and frustrations and in a heartbeat we can stop and we
say hey look notice that flower notice that sunset or look in each other's eyes
and say how did I get so lucky to get you we have that ability and we share we
reinforce it in each other and it gives power to our relationship and to our
lives you have that control all you have to do is
exercise it so what I want to do is be more specific with you now and how to do
it now first of all let me demonstrate this is really true to you I mean you
may say well yeah this makes sense well let's take a quick example now this may
be an unfair situation if you're in a place that you're familiar with but
let's try this right now and if you're in a place you're familiar with you
might want to try it later on in the day when you're not familiar with something
but let's take an example here what I want you to do right now is I'd like you
if you would let's test the power of something I want you to look around your
room the room you're in right now or if you're in your car you can look out the
windows also but I want you to notice everything you can see everything you
can see and only gonna give you a few seconds that is brown quick look around
the room everything you can see that's brown look around your car look outside
everything you see is Brown quickly everything make sure you don't miss
anything everything sees Brown quick quick quick okay stop close your eyes
with your eyes closed now close your eyes if you're driving this is difficult
okay so you might want to try this later as an exercise but I would like you to
do is close your on it and what I want you to do with your eyes closed now is
tell me or you know since I'm not there literally although I maybe you never
know but just for now outloud say everything that's in this room that is
green Oh hooked you a little bit huh you more
waiting for Brown tell me out loud come on everything that's green try this
everything in that room that's blue
everything in the room that is white and everything in the room that's red
and now open your eyes and look around the room and notice everything you can
see in this room that's green come on take a good look now some of you may say
well there's nothing that's run this game look behind you there there's
something green behind you that's right what's blue in this room now do you see
a lot more green do you see a lot more blue now than you did the first time
unless you're in a room you already are super familiar with that is you've
already got a picture in your head and you know it like maybe it's your bedroom
you know everything even then you may not have noticed everything but if
you're in a strange room or you're in a place you're not used to what I find is
99% of time people see a lot more blue and green when I asked them about that
specifically later on in other words when I asked you to focus on brown bats
what comes up you notice mostly brown you tend to delete a lot of the other
details isn't that true now how does that relate
to life see a lot of people in life stare at and focus on the brown in life
the shall we say feces of life and other people they look for the green they look
for it's growing they look for what's alive that's what you need to do see in
life we get whatever we focus on whatever you pay attention to that's
what you experience in your body instantly so how do we control our focus
well that's a good question for years I've been looking at it you
know I read all the books on positive thinking where they said hey you want to
do good you've got to feel good that makes sense and if you want to feel good
you've got the doctor yourself good and picture good well the challenge with
that the challenge with positive thinking is what we've already talked
about probably positive thinking is you got to think about it and it's a little
bit difficult we got to get ourselves conditioned to think more positive plus
I kept asking the question how do you think positive it's a B positive
how well I said you know make good pictures why didn't get yourself to do
that and so what I've analysed for years is what determines since there are
zillions of things you and I could pay attention to at any moment what
determines what we focus on well some of what we focus on or most of it is based
upon our beliefs of what's important in our values and we're going to talk about
that in the next tape but for right now the thing that at this specific moment
determines what you focus on is how you're evaluating things
now that sounds like a big chunk but what do I mean by that well the way we
evaluate things determines how we feel but what is an evaluation evaluations
are nothing but questions the way I found this out is one day I was
realizing well you know W Mitchell is pretty happy because he's evaluated his
life in a way that makes him happy John Belushi's not here because of the way he
evaluated things he made himself actually feel bad I mean he had plenty
could have felt good on if he just focused on that part of his life's party
if you will so I thought how do I explain what an evaluation is and then I
noticed that I had asked a question to try to evaluate how to explain
evaluations and I thought well is it possible that evaluations or questions I
thought wow that's a question too isn't it uh-huh
that's a question isn't it I thought is that really what evaluation is is a
question you notice that was a question pretty soon I've whipped myself in a
frenzy began to realize evaluations are in fact questions and I try to mismatch
it as I try to look at the opposite side and I've tested on all kinds of people
maybe you can find the opposite of what I'm saying
but I don't know I have found that thinking is nothing but the process of
evaluating things you're always evaluating what does this mean to me and
what should I do those are two questions your brain is
asking on a continuous basis see if I take my fist then I go wham and I bring
it within two inches of your face I guarantee you your brain is gonna make
some evaluations the question number one what does this mean question number two
what should I do and your brains gonna value it it's gonna search your brain
for your beliefs about what does this mean do I need to move is it gonna hit
me what does this mean and what should I do do I hit back do I adjust what what
does my body need to do we're always asking those two primary questions but
the questions we ask determine what we focus on here let me be more specific
and I'll think you'll have an example of what I mean I've said to you so far in
this tape that what you focus on determines how you feel I've also said
that the questions you ask yourself determine what you focus on think of
questions this way imagine your brain is the ultimate computer and in that
computer is the answer to any question you could possibly have and by the way I
believe that that metaphor is really how your brain works it can come up with the
answer to any question you ask it Bible says ask and you shall receive a very
true and real statement beyond what you might believe religiously even if you
have different religious beliefs it is reality in my experience of how our
brain works now if you have this great computer and in front of you the only
way you get information out of this computer is to ask for it you tap in to
this keyboard and you ask questions and bam and answer the questions you will
get responses on the screen your brain works the same way you ask questions you
hit the keyboard with questions and it will fire off the answers in your brain
but here's what's different about your brain than most computers whatever
question you ask if you ask it with the absolute expectation that you're gonna
get an answer and if you ask it consistently and you give it a brain
time to search for the answers you will get an answer by the way any question
you ask you'll get an answer to even one that doesn't have a basis in reality in
other words this computer will do anything it'll search its files and make
things up in order to answer your question what do I mean well if you go
around ask your brain why do these things always happen to me well guess
what your brain will search all its databases and say why do things always
happen to me and it'll take every possible form of input of what people
said to you in your life what you've ever said to yourself which you've ever
read or saw on TV and I'll make up an answer for you it always happens to you
because you're a turkey that's why right and I'm sure enough now you feel lousy
you see gosh I'm a turkey you feel bad and everything's not working out see
whatever you ask you to get an answer to if you say how come I'm so lucky you
know how did I get so lucky your brain will search all kinds of things and show
you that you're lucky in other words our questions determine how we feel now if
you've got certain emotions certain feelings that you have on a daily basis
that you don't like habitual emotions I'm here to tell you that the feelings
you feel or come from what you focus on so what you have is habitual focuses and
those focuses come from habitual questions in other words if you feel
certain ways on an ongoing basis it's because you're asking certain questions
on an ongoing basis might be useful if we discover what those are I'll give you
some samples questions that people ask themselves on a regular basis that make
them feel lousy question number one is why does this
always happen to me I want you to notice in that question is something we call a
presupposition a presupposition means you are presupposing in the question the
things already happened to you that may not be true but as long as you ask
questions that way your brain will make up an answer for you hey I'll give you a
good example after the 1988 Republican National Convention when George Bush
selected Dan Quayle as his running mate CNN ran a public opinion poll will you
call the 900 number and vote yes or no to the answer to a question but here is
the question it blew my mind question was does it bother you that Dan Quayle
used his family's influence to stay out of Vietnam and again in the National
Guard now I'm paraphrasing just slightly but
that's what they said now tell me what's wrong with this
picture and challenges they presuppose that he actually did it they said does
it bother you so your brain stops evaluating whether he actually did it or
not and focuses on whether it bothers you or not does this happen every day
with you do you ask questions that presuppose that you've got a limited
level of intelligence or skill or ability and therefore get lousy answers
in your brain listen if you ask yourself questions like why am I so fat that
question guarantees you're gonna stay fat you know why cuz you go why am I so
fat your brain will go okay let me figure out some reasons wham-o here's
why you're fat cuz you eat continuously and you have no control your brain goes
oh god I don't need control and you feel useless and you feel like you're
disempowered what would be a better question to ask yourself then why am I
so fat how about this one how can I become more thin right now or what could
I do today to start myself on the road to becoming more thin and what do I need
to do consistently to create the long-term results of health that I want
if you ask a better-quality question you will get a better quality answer or I'll
give you a step beyond that if you ask a question like how can I become more thin
now you'll get an answer but what if you ask a question like how can become more
thin now and enjoy the process ah magical when you ask that question
what happens now is you literally come up with only an answer of how to lose
weight but also how to enjoy it and since your brain likes pleasure there's
a much better chance you're gonna follow through am I making any sense to you I'm
here to tell you that the quality of your life comes down to the quality of
the questions you ask yourself on a daily basis so if you're asking
questions like well how come I can't ever learn anything just listen to that
question or why can't I ever learn anything that's even worse why questions
tend to be what I call endless loop questions like why did this happen to me
see your brain probably can never come up with a definitive answer it'll come
up with all kinds of reasons but you'll keep going into a loop now I discovered
the power of questions in my own life because at one time my life I was really
really angry and anyone have changed my physiology and my movement to make
myself feel better but I didn't want to you ever been in that state like
somebody said to me well Tony just changed your physiology I don't want to
write I was upset but the reason I was upset is what I was focusing on I was
focusing on somebody who had taken a bunch of money from my company and
embezzled it and I got pretty upset to say the least and I was walking around
in a frenzy going how could he do this how could he have the audacity to do
this I may have even had an expletive her too who knows but the point is that
by asking those questions I was whipping myself into frenzy how could he possibly
do this why would he do this situation to me well guess what you're never gonna
get an answer to that all it does is whip you into more and more of a frenzy
can you hear it so finally I said okay doing this is leading to more and more
pain isn't making my life any better I better ask myself a more empowering
question so I thought what's something that's important to me my answer is I
love to learn I already shared that with you so I said okay what can I learn from
this well guess what my brain likes learning so it was willing to focus on
that question and you know what out of that question of what can I learn from
this over the next three months I literally developed a whole new level
of understanding about what makes human beings do what they do I develop
literally a whole new technology which I call destiny technologies
now to a whole seminar called your date with destiny and we help people
literally design their life so they are literally pulled forward in the
direction they want their life to be rather than having all this
self-sabotage and challenges that come up for people it's the most incredible
program I do it'll all came out of me taking a horrible situation and asking a
better question what kind of learn from this what can I get out of this that
would enhance my life and other people's as well how can I use this situation to
create much more power in my ability to help people and help myself asking these
questions allowed me to search my brains data banks and create tremendous power
out of that situation after I was in that situation I had other times when I
get upset unbearably when I get upset it's cuz I was asking a why question why
did this person do this I don't understand or how could they possibly
have done it cuz I would never do that how could they do that I'll never get
the answer based on that so I learned to ask the question what can I learn from
this now for you that might not be the right question maybe learning is not
important enough for you a brain to go while I'm willing to focus on that now
instead of the problem but my brain I pick learning or I pick something like
well if I'm angry at somebody I might say well what do I respect about this
person now I remember one particular guy said what do I respect about him there
was this guy who'd stolen a bunch of my stuff and I thought well at least he's
using my stuff you know I respect him he's at least using it he isn't just
sitting back there right sitting on his haunches here in stop he's at least
using it I respect that what else I respect about him well well he's at
least going for it and you know and even though I don't think he's doing for the
right reasons he's probably opened a few people who knows you know and I began to
literally feel better that again asked myself this question
what's actually funny about this that I hadn't noticed
great question ask yourself what's actually funny about this I hadn't
noticed now again when you ask a question you got to be willing to really
search for the answer if you got well it's great about this that I hadn't
noticed or what you didn't notice what's humorous about this I didn't notice and
guess what there's no way your brains not gonna go for it but if you ask with
a sincere interest and desire for an answer you will get one if you keep
asking and so all sudden I started noticing things about their humors I
started laughing hey listen we've all heard the phrase someday we'll look back
laughs on this situation well that's really true why wait why not look back
and laugh on it now wait four years before you can feel good about something
again and the way to do it is change your focus the way to change your focus
is use questions they're much more powerful than any other tool I've
noticed I'll tell you why questions basically do three things when you ask a
question number one when you ask somebody a question it instantly changes
what they focus on and therefore it changes the way you feel instantly see
if you're feeling lousy and I come along and I get you to answer a question like
well I missed your question what is great in your life right now you oh well
nothing I go on I know nothing is but if there was something that was great you
know what what could be great in your life if I get you to really think about
it what it makes your brain do is search your files and you know what no matter
how bad your life may seem there's something great going on there's no
doubt about it you know here you are and all your friends is weaking or skiing
but you're home studying for a big test do you feel cheated you feel left out
you feel hurt hey listen all you need is a little contrast for yourself what's
great right now this weekend you're studying things that can make a huge
difference in the quality of your life forever
these people are gonna work their muscles and come back and probably
forget about that situation right or you're not in a Nazi concentration camp
there's a little contrast for you you get to be learning because you choose to
not because you're forced to you're studying something that you chose to
study you're actually creating a future for yourself you're getting to use your
brain there's so many things you could focus on you're in a free country
you're alive you've got friends yet people that care about you during
millions of things you can feel good about all you have to do is change your
focus and if you don't you end up like the John Belushi's of the world think
about see the choice is yours so if I ask you
a question like what could be great in your life or what's great right now if
you really think about it you can come up with something think about it right
now what's really great in your life right now what's something that you feel
really great about think about it or what could you feel great about if you
wanted to as you think about things that make you feel great
notice how it makes you feel when you think about that what about that why
does that make you feel great how does that make you feel inside when you feel
those feelings and you know what you can change your state instantly just by
focusing on that at any moment in time so the first thing questions do is they
change our focus and therefore our state immediately the second thing that
questions do is they change what we're deleting now remember in order to feel
unhappy you have to focus on the things that would make you unhappy and you have
to delete all the great things that are happening in your life
isn't that true in other words every one of us right now could get depressed
piece of cake all we have to do is focus on all the
tragedy that's happening the world right now even little pieces of it children
they're dying right now starvation we can make pictures in our head of those
bloated stomachs hearing the cries of babies just as they pass off into death
sing flies eating their flesh how's that for graphic at the same time every one
of us could be an absolute total pleasure interrupts that pattern of a
picture you're looking at and think of something that could create total
pleasure and you know what their resilient things but to do that you have
to stop focusing you have to delete all the negativity in the world and focus on
things that make it feel great so you could focus on a relationship you have
you could focus on how much you've already learned in the last six or seven
or eight days you could focus on the people that loved you you could focus on
your ability as a human being to change your life at any moment in time you
could focus on what learning means to you you could focus on the Sun you could
focus on breathing fresh air you could focus on the fact you live in a free
country you could focus on the fact that you have a connection with your Creator
you could focus on anything and feel incredible you could focus on new babies
being born this moment they have a greater opportunity in life than any
time in our history there's so much we could focus on it
feel good about the challenge is this you must control it through questions
questions change what we delete we're always deleting human beings we're
not gonna stop deleting things as long as we're gonna delete things why not
delete things that disempower you and focus on the things that empower you
does that make sense the third thing that questions do is they help you to
get access to resources within yourself I'm a big believer that anything you've
ever wanted to accomplish you've already got the resources inside of you to make
it happen that doesn't mean you shouldn't go out and learn from somebody
else or model the success of others I'm just saying the things you need to
succeed are already in your core the resources are there you just need to get
access to them by asking better questions I'll give you an example if I
ask myself questions like gosh can I really do this that creates a feeling of
doubt do you hear how that does that and that feeling of doubt will keep me in a
state where I'm not gonna get the most out of myself but if instead I ask
myself a question like how can I make this thing happen right now more
powerfully than I ever dreamed of and have fun doing it
if I keep asking that question my brain will get access to more of my ability
because whatever I asked for my brain will give me but if you ask your brain
can I really do this and you do it with a tone of voice of doubt you are gonna
get access to the resources called doubt does that make sense if you will think
about it the greatest communicators the greatest teachers of all time were not
people that so much taught us as they did ask us they shared things with us
but they got us to use our own resources they asked questions all the great
speakers have done this hey Martin Luther King asked questions about a
dream John F Kennedy asked don't ask what your country can do for you ask
what you can do for your country he wanted you to take the resources out of
yourself and contribute and expand our country you must learn to ask habitual
questions that empower you I want you to know that I believe the success in my
life has all come down to one basic skill state management on a consistent
basis I've learned how to manage my state and therefore I've been able to
get myself to breakthrough and take action with very few people around me
were able to do the same they were able to that's probably not the best
description they weren't using their power because they didn't
have access to all of it and I've done that by everyday doing things that would
increase my physical ability flexibility power energy by the way I'm moving the
way I breathe and also by consistently and daily conditioning myself to ask the
kinds of questions to create the kinds of focus that moves me towards larger
levels of contribution and joy and fun and success and passion instead of the
things that would pull me down that would pull me to areas of frustration
and anger and giving up listen there is no capability difference between you and
someone you consider to be an ultimate role model of success the only
difference is they learn to use their mind and body with more power on a
consistent basis they've learned a manager state they've learned to use
their body effectively whether they know it or not consciously doesn't matter a
lot of people do things without being aware of how they do it and they've
learned to control their mental focus remember whatever we concentrate our
focus on consistently and strive to learn from and make new distinctions
about we will get great at I don't care what it is if you focus on it daily and
you strive to do better you're gonna make little distinctions that'll make
you more and more effective every single day so you better decide what you want
to focus on in your life and what you want to experience on a daily basis
because that's where your power is gonna come from that's where your power is
gonna emit from that's the genesis of your power I want you to know that many
things that you think are impossible or difficult are only difficult or
impossible because of the way you're focusing on things you're focusing on
how it can't be done and you can remember whatever you focus on is what
you get so if you focus on how it can't be done you are absolutely right and no
one's gonna prove you wrong so why not focus on what's possible and create that
I mean that's how I created things like the firewalk seminar all I did was hold
a new level of possibility instead of focusing on how it couldn't be done
when I was a terrible thing or something like that I focused on hey this is an
incredible example of possibility and if other people can do it my focus and my
question is if they can do it then how can we do it how can I share with other
people how could it be used as an empowering experience it's a lot of fun
I did the same thing with teach people wood breaking you know I teach people
how to break wood karate style not in two years but in about
minutes again not to make them this powerful person but to show them that by
simply changing their mental focus by controlling their physical emotional
state and by modeling someone's success that they can get results in 30 minutes
that takes most people two years and they have what we call a breakthrough
literally I want you to know that you have every right in any moment of time
to feel lousy to feel bad to feel sorry to feel hurt I am not saying by this
tape program that you should never be disappointed or frustrated or angry or
anything else because all of those emotions have their place in their
proper proportion hey some of my greatest frustrations or angers or
upsets or would have driven some of my greatest successes because it's made me
search for more but see what's interesting is the pain drove me but
what changed me from other people who just gave up is I ask better questions
I found a way say what can I learn from this how can I grow from this how can I
expand from this what can I take from this experience that will empower me
what can I learn from this so I never have to experience it again and by
asking empowering questions how can I take advantage of this what's the actual
benefit in this situation
today's whole program is based on the power of focus we if you recall in our
last session we're talking about how to really direct our states of mind and
emotion we said that everything that we really want our lives no matter what it
is whether it be family or friends a relationship or money or business
success or acknowledging all those things the only reason we want them is
what we think we'll get out of them which is a state change a certain level
of feeling within ourselves we also found out on our last tape that
all emotions every feeling we have is the result of how we use our body that
emotions literally are nothing but physiological storm
today's whole program is based on the power of focus we if you recall in our
last session we're talking about how to really direct our states of mind and
emotion we said that everything that we really want in our lives no matter what
it is whether it be family or friends a relationship or money or business
success or acknowledging all those things the only reason we want them is
what we think we'll get out of them which is a state change a certain level
of feeling within ourselves we also found out in our last tape that all
emotions every feeling we have is the result of how you
today's whole program is based on the power of focus we if you recall in our
last session we're talking about how to really direct our states of mind and
emotion we said that everything that we really want our lives no matter what it
is whether it be family or friends a relationship or money or business
success or acknowledging all those things the only reason we want them is
what we think we'll get out of them which is a state change a certain level
of feeling within ourselves we also found out on our last tape that
all emotions every feeling we have is the result of how we use our body that
emotions literally are nothing but physiological storms in our brains if
you will and that we learned that by using our bodies in certain ways by
using our voice our gestures our breathing our facial expressions we
could radically change our states and we also talked about the idea if you're a
call of measuring our states where are we on a scale from zero to 10 10 being
absolutely empowered unstoppable passionate zero being dead and noticing
are we at the appropriate level for what we want to accomplish and that for most
cases not all in life but most would it be nice to live at level 8 9 or 10 or
above on a consistent basis how much more juice would you have and so you
develop some exercises and discovering how to move your body not like me not
like somebody else but like you do when you really are feeling absolutely
excellent today what we want to do is take on the second way we can manage our
states and the second way to change your state at any moment in time as quickly
as you can think it is to control and direct the focus of your mind
what do I mean by that well think about this the only experience that you have
of life comes in two forms what you're physically feeling because of the
condition and use of your body at that moment in other words if you've got
physical pain that's obviously gonna affect your state there's some kind of
tension for example or if you haven't had any sleep that's certainly gonna
affect your state as well or if you've eaten something that's blown your blood
sugar sky-high then obviously that's gonna affect your emotional states as
well the only other thing that really controls your state is what are you
paying attention to right now at this moment I mean let's take an example have
you ever had a headache maybe even a mad of headache that you thought there's no
way you would ever go away you are really deep pain now what do you do well
most people go get an aspirin what if instead have you ever had it happen
where somebody asked you a question or something needed to be done or something
acquired your total focus somewhere else outside of yourself and a lamo
immediately the pain disappeared in fact you forgot about it and later on when
you thought about it you notice your headache was gone
haven't you had that happen at least once or twice in your life now how did
you do that see my whole life has been studying what makes people successful if
someone is able to do something if they're able to get rapport with
somebody else if they're able to create the results they want physically in
their life that is lose weight feel energized if they're able to create the
relationships that they really desire if they're able to feel as good as they
ever wanted to feel I want to know how do they do that and so I began to study
how could somebody get rid of a headache that quickly so we wouldn't be dependent
on some drug like aspirin or Tylenol or anything else and I began to realize
that what it was is we changed our mental focus and that whatever
experiencing in our body really comes from what we're paying attention to
that's what really determines how you feel and of course how you feel
determines usually how you're gonna behave doesn't that make sense when
you're feeling really lousy you don't usually do really well and I know there
are exceptions but those exceptions are because you control your focus you don't
focus on feeling lousy you focus on what's got to be done there was
tremendous power and controlling the focus of your mind now what do I mean by
this specifically well there are two things we can control in terms of focus
we can control what we're focusing on that is what we're picturing in our mind
what we're saying to ourselves what we're paying attention to in our
physical body or we can control how we're focusing how we're focusing means
let's say the dimension of the pictures in our mind the brightness of the colors
in our head the volume of our sounds if we change how we're paying attention to
things not just what it radically changes our state as well let me give an
example pretend for a moment that your brain is a camera and you go to a party
how are you gonna feel at that party well the only thing you're gonna have
feelings about other things you focus on I mean in that room literally there are
almost unlimited number of activities and probably emotions and conversations
and things that are but your experience of that party is
based on what that camera focuses on now if it focuses on two people that are
fighting and that's what it focuses on for the entire party you would leave
that party saying oh that party was really intense I mean people are really
upset with each other if your focus was on two people and love or maybe guessing
passionately and say wow that party was really moving I mean those people are
really connected if your focus was on some people that were really boring or
bored it's a no but really enjoyed that party here's the problem the problem is
your camera that is the focus that you have does not usually take in everything
simultaneously your conscious mind can't there are only so many things you can
consciously focus on I mean think about how many things right now you are not
paying attention to that are happening at this moment there's the blood pull
sitting see I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy and you really create
the physiology of happiness you know what I mean by that by using your voice
that way then what you've done is the affirmation didn't do it so much that's
putting your body in that state so affirmations are great but what only
most questions are even more powerful because now you have a reason to be
happy you're not just jumping yourself up and run around with what I call a
perma grin where people go why are you happy and go I don't know but it feels
good it's better to have all these reasons so every morning you stack more
reasons to be happy you come up with more reasons that you're proud more
reasons to be grateful more reasons to feel excited about life more feelings of
love if you stack those every day you literally anchor them in your nervous
system this is part of what I call destiny technology's controlling your
state you're asking yourself effective questions this is the power of focus and
here's your exercise pull out your success journal and right now I want you
to write down five questions after you've designed these five questions
what I'd like you to ask yourself to do is this first of all let me ask you this
if every single morning you got up and asked yourself five custom design
questions that put you in peak States and they gave you lots of reasons to
feel phenomenal so you weren't just some guy out there again just babbling about
how excited you are without any reasons for it I'm not talking about being
somebody you just all pumped up for no reason
but if every day you came up with lots of
reasons and felt these powerful emotions what would that do to the quality of
your life what would that do to your days would it be worth developing some
new habits if your answer to these questions is yes then I'd like to
challenge you to do something I'd like you to develop a new habit a one that
will literally conditioned your nervous system to associate powerful emotions
with waking up in the morning wouldn't that be nice
here's what I want you to do if you're willing to take on the challenge for the
rest of this program approximately what twenty two more days each morning I want
you to answer those five questions and every time you answer them you've got to
create some feelings so if one of your questions was what am I most excited
about my life you got to come up with at least two different answers and you got
to think about why you're excited how great that makes you feel you got to
actually feel the answer the question two answers to each of your five
questions each morning again this is not added work you're already asking
questions you just may be asking questions like oh gosh why do I have to
get up at this hour that may not be the best question to ask when the alarm goes
off maybe you want to install a new one that empowers you would you be willing
to do that for the rest of this 30-day program now I don't want you to do this
for the rest of your life because you might get addicted to feeling excellent
for the rest of your life and gosh only knows what would happen to you then so
don't go any longer than these thirty days for sure but at least for the
thirty days would you be willing to try it okay then go for it so you know your
assignment design five questions that will get resources out of you make you
feel phenomenal each day that'll make you get access to your real powered
ability every single day also I want to say to you please use your success
journal to write down each day a little bit about what's happening to you what
are you noticing have you already begun to notice that your attitude has changed
obviously but also if you notice that maybe you're willing to take some
chances through being more decisive you're taking some actions you've been
maybe more powerful in some of your communication have you decided maybe to
take some actions like lose weight or stop smoking and you're like day three
or four of that or are you just feeling better about the possibilities of your
future other words each day you might want to just keep a journal jot down a
couple of key ideas about what you learn that day or what you're experiencing in
your daily life besides this program I've kept journals for years because I
believe that if my life is worth living it's worth recording and for me what
journals are is a way to go back and notice my growth because otherwise what
happens for a lot of us is we get caught up but if you have a journal you can
look and see I you've grown in your development and your ability and where
you are in your life in addition your journals and things that you can give
later on to your children someday they can look back and learn from the lessons
you've learned in your life sir and valuable I hope you'll decide to keep a
success journal an ongoing basis after this program but see if you get yourself
in the habit right now for the next 30 days over the next 30 days
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