In this video, we will discuss with whom we should keep friendship
to live in this world we need company
Many times this company is fulfilled by relatives or friends
sorrow and happiness is shared with friends
In young age most of your life is spent just within relatives
but when you grow up you spend most of your time with friends
Relatives are preordained
in which a person doesn't have any choice
but friends are chosen by the person themselves
If you want to recognize who someone is just look at their company
The type of company one keeps reflects who you are
This can't be possible that his friends will be thugs and he himself will be a saint
and Sants and Bhagats don't have thugs for friends
In this video we will discuss that according to Gurmat what kind of friends should you keep
and which friends should you renounce
In the end of the video we will discuss what Gurbani says about friends
so please watch this video till the end because you will gain a lot of spiritual benefit from this
The type of company and friends one keeps has a profound effect on him
The qualities of those we keep company with naturally come into us
Because it is a Gurmat principle that whoever we think about
we are subconsciously thinking of their qualities
those good and bad qualities that we contemplate come into our Hirda
This is the reason that one who keeps company of thieves becomes a thief
one who keeps company of educated people becomes educated
one who keeps company of bodybuilders becomes a bodybuilder
same way one who keeps company of Gurmukhs becomes a Gurmukh
and one who keeps company with hooligans becomes a hooligan
this is why a Gursikh should keep friendship only with Gurmukhs
If some Gursikh says that he keeps friendship with people who do bad deeds but he is not effected by them
then first of this is not possible that he isn't effected by them
Because Gurbani's Furman is irrevocable
So this is not possible that keeping bad company will not have bad effect on you
but if we were to believe for a minute that some Gursikh has a divine armour
because of which bad company doesn't effect him
but he will still have a bad reputation because of them
If a Gursikh keeps company with lechers
then it is possible that he will remain safe from Bajjar Kurehit
But he will have a bad reputation in society and will be a disgrace on Sikhi
some Gursikhs don't stop keeping company with alcoholics
because of keeping company with alcoholics they start drinking liqour as well
but even if they don't they fall under the scrutiny of people that he must drink liqour as well
So a Gursikh should only keep company with Gurmukhs who do devotion
so he can be coloured in devotion
by keeping company of alcoholics, lechers, you can't have a high spiritual state
This is because a selfish person's reason to keep friendship with you will be his own selfishness
as long as his selfish motives are being fulfilled he will keep friendship with you
but when he doesn't need you anymore he will leave you
if some non-Sikh does stay by your side throughout this life he can't stay with you in the afterlife
So why waste your time keeping friendship with someone who can't endure it till the end
We have seen many Gursikhs who were naturally of good character
but because of bad fortune, they made friends with Manmukhs
Manmukhs often ridicule Gursikhs by calling them Baba or Gyani in schools
because of which many Gursikh youngsters develop an inferiority complex
they lose their confidence
when Manmukh friends start drinking liqour
then they say to the Gursikh to drink as well
they always push the Gursikh to cut his hair
they themselves are in illicit relationships and they push the Gursikh to do it as well
sometimes the girlfriends of these friends tell the Gursikh that they will hook him up with some girl
many times innocent Gursikhs get stuck in these webs and end up committing Bajjar Kurethi
In Canada when a Gursikh with Kes comes first they push him to cut his hair
then they push him to do Bajjar Kurehit with a prostitute
if some innocent boy doesn't agree they taunt him saying he is boring or just a kid still
who knows how many Gursikhs have lost their Sikhi due to this
In Canada there are not just 1 but 1000 such cases especially since students have started to come here
Sikh Naujavans ruin their Sikhi by getting into bad company
So if you want to better your life then eschew the company of bad people and keep company with Gursikhs
some people say we are inciting hatred by prohibiting friendship with Manmukhs
First off a Gursikh doesn't hate anyone
he sees Vaheguru's Jot within all and loves everyone from the heart
he loves nature as well
so how can he hate Manmukhs
when we say keep friendship with Gurmukhs and not Manmukhs
then the same motive is there behind this that
those parents have when they tell their kids who are going to school
keep friendship with good keen to study kids
don't make friends with tramps or violent kids
this has nothing to do with hatred just has to do with following Guru Sahib's Hukam
which are clear that we should keep friendship with Gurmukhs and not Manmukhs
on the other hand spiritual selfishness also plays a part here
spiritual success is not possible until we break ties with Manmukhs
until then worldly bonds are not broken
until bonds are not broken with Mayadharis and joined with Gurmukhs
there is a difference between friendship and casual conversation
there is nothing wrong with having a conversation at school or work
by friendship we mean having a deep heartfelt friendship
casual talk which is needed for work is not prohibited
if someone shows interest in spirituality
meaning if you think that through your Sangat someone can come into Sikhi
then you can do Sangat with them so they will be helped
but care should be taken that this should only be done within the boundaries of Gurmat
if this friendship forces the Gursikh to go clubs and stuff
then there is no need to do this kind of help
benevolence can only be done within the boundaries of Gurmat
now let us contemplate some Gurbani Panktis which give us direction on keeping friendship
Guru jee says break friendship with false people
and find permanent Sant Sajan
Sajan mean friend here
Guru jee is saying that those friends who are not Sants
break off with them because they will not endure till the end
but Sants stay at your side even after death
They get Mukt themselves and help you in Dharam Raj's court
So keep friendship with Gurmukhs and break off with false friends
The sight of them banishes my evil-mindedness; they are my only true friends.
but such friends are rare
Guru Sahib says don't keep frienship with two types of people
with a fool and a pompous person
friendship with a fool and pompous person are like lines drawn in water, leaving no trace or mark
This Shabad gives a very powerful order on who to do friendship with
Guru jee gives Hukam
Friendship with Manmukhs lasts for only a few short days and this friendship is broken in an instant
this leads to corruption
why keep friendship with those who do not fear the True Lord within their hearts, and they do not love the Naam
Don't become friends with those whom the Creator Lord Himself has misled
otherwise the Nadar of Vaheguru with not remain on you either
In this Shabad Guru Sahib has made it clear
to not keep friendship with someone devoid of love for Vaheguru
So it is duty of Gursikh to follow this Hukam
But now Sikhs are not following this Hukam which is why they are in falling spritis
Those who are outside of Khalsa Panth
those who keep friendship with them
those who eat from them
they can never understand praise of Vaheguru
meaning they cannot engage in praising Vaheguru
evil always remain inside of them
Guru Sahib has forbidden friendship with Kirarh
this does not refer to the caste of Baniyeay
but refers to someone who loves money
never have friendship with someone who loves money
he is always greedy and Guru Sahib has done Hukam in Gurbani
meaning don't trust a greedy person because he will screw you over where no one can help you
by doing Sangat of a Manmukh your face get blackened
greedy people's faces are blackened and they lose from this world
So never keep friendship with greedy people
Friendship with the Manmukhs is an alliance with Maya
meaning this friendship is done for Maya
these friends run away when hardship comes
and never fulful the bonds of freindship
As long as they get food and clothing, they stick around
But on that day when they receive nothing, then they start to curse
With whom should I become friends, if all the world shall pass away?
this means that to have permanent love with a temporary thing is not a smart thing
If someone keeps love with a flower
then he will be disappointed
Guru Sahib says that if you are keeping friendship with a Manmukh then why are you asking for Sukh
if you want Sukh keep friendship with Gurmukhs and enjoin your conscious with Vaheguru jee
Guru Sahib has strictly said you can't find happiness from friendship with Manmukhs
and you should only keep friendship with Gurmukhs
The motive of making this video is that Khalsa Panth should remain Niyara and in Chardikala
this will start by joining Sat Sangat and giving up bad Sangat
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