as in war the victor only seems to win
what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and I am from my little vacation and over the
weekend a couple things took place VidCon and panic on so in this video I'm
gonna be talking about what really happened at Tanic line and I do want to
stress I want to stress this so much like my channel is not a gossip channel
my channel is not one of those YouTube commentary channels I'm a mental health
Channel okay I work with clients at a mental health treatment facility
I tell them stories all the time as cautionary tales I want them to look at
it and rather than criticizing the other person I want them to understand what do
they do in their life that is similar to this and maybe just not as extreme but
it's causing issues in their life that is destroying their mental health so
when I tell you these stories it is not to come down harshly on a person even
though I am someone who gives a lot of tough love I'm gonna be doing so with
Tana mojo but like I want you to learn from it I want you to look at the
situation and say oh wow maybe I do that and maybe this is affecting my mental
health in a very poor way alright so what I do want to talk about today when
it comes to Tana Khan is something that I haven't seen anybody else touch on
which is the malicious intent as well as the revenge aspect of this so all my way
back from California today and me and my girlfriend we were sitting there in the
car and we were driving back and we were listening to a bunch of different videos
about what happened at Tanner combine what happened how did this thing go to
hell what is a thing that happened and a lot of it if you don't know like it just
went downhill really fast basically what happened was the venue did not hold the
capacity of people who showed up and a lot of it had to do with like over
15,000 people showing up for the free entry and here's the thing so a lot of
people are talking about how nobody expected 15,000 people show up and
things like that and you know is it is it the management's fault whose fault
is it all right and one thing I will say is this when you put your name on
something when you run anything it's your fault all right I have talked about
this when I talk about internal locus of control and external locus of control if
you start taking the mindset of everything is my fault you're in much
more control and you you make smarter decisions all right so what people
aren't taking it into consideration is why Tanner had panic on in the first
place so Tina has this like long video how she was poorly treated at VidCon
very good like I'm glad she made that video like I don't think what VidCon
does is right even though I've never personally attended and watch the Toni
videos about it I think there's a balance but that's a whole nother video
all right Tanner felt mistreated by VidCon okay cool if any of you watched
my video about 13 reasons why and the psychology of revenge
this is what happened to Tanner this is what happened to a bunch of the other
creators who are going to Tana Khan all right it was pretty much a big fu to
VidCon how do we know this how do we know this if you watch a lot of the
videos about people who are poorly treated at VidCon right you could tell
that they have this kind of revenge attitude this anger like when we get
angry we want to get a person back this is part of our evolutionary psychology
we feel like we need to get them we need to screw them over right so that quote I
said at the intro of this video is something that I've dealt with time and
time and time again pretty soon I'm gonna be focusing a week on anger alone
because I used to be the most angry person you would ever meet and one thing
that I loved doing was getting revenge if you got me I was gonna get you 15
times worse but when I set back and I looked at it and I was improving my
mental health I realized that time and time and time and time and time again
this didn't work out for anybody especially myself so what people aren't
addressing is the fact that TANF scheduled Tana Khan for the exact same
weekend as VidCon now does that sound like she had no malicious intent intent
surely she didn't have it for the fans okay I truly believe that she cares
about the fans but she was trying to screw over VidCon
she purposely planned it for the same weekend but get this the venue that
Tennant got the one that was too small was right next to VidCon okay
so it would be foolish of her or anybody else to say that she didn't plan and
arrange all of these things based on trying to screw VidCon over she was
hoping to get some of their audience she was hoping to get these people now when
you start putting the pieces together like this the fault makes a lot more
sense because the venue size is it possible that the vineyard size wasn't
big enough because she purposely wanted a venue next to VidCon to steal their
audience right now the audience size is it possible that the audience size was
way bigger than what she expected because she was pulling in people who
were originally going to go to VidCon it's been an insane amount of money
think about that for a second all this was based on revenge and the thing is
here's the thing a lot of people were hurt a lot of people were hurt in this
not necessarily physically but definitely emotionally right their pride
their ego let's talk about the creators like Shane Dawson what a good guy what a
good guy like he has been there you know talking on Twitter saying like you know
her Hall wasn't a good place and stuff like that now I love Shane Dawson but I
wouldn't say that her heart was in the good in a good place based on what I'm
discussing in this video because her whole plan for this thing was to get
back at VidCon so there is a point where the heart was not in a good place okay
maybe when it came to the fans but the planning of this event wasn't so right
there's a lot of apologies going around and stuff and you know maybe you can't
plan such a big event in a month or two well why was it so rushed why was it so
rushed because she picked the same date as VidCon imagine if she pushed her back
imagine if she changed the location think about that for a second how many
people would have showed up if she would have done in some world I live in Las
Vegas tannaz originally from Las Vegas much
bigger venues much more accessibility because you're not in a city where one
of the biggest YouTube conventions is happening that same weekend so just some
things to think about now I was originally planning on making a video
about her terrible response and I was gonna say or make a video
about how to properly apologize but thank goodness for Shane Dawson and I
forgot the other guy's name James something my girlfriend told me but
anyways tena came out and she did a series of
tweets and she did a good apology and she took fault she took the blame and
everything like that that's what you got to do when you apologize when you make
an amend you have to take 100% fault and the best way to apologize is to put
yourself in the other person's shoes like think about it would you want to
hear like put yourself in that situation would you want to hear excuses would you
want to hear passing the blame would you want to hear these things of course you
wouldn't so when it comes to apologizing it's all about you and nobody else you
know but her original palsy came with like oh you know all these people were
faking that they had VIP there was this and this that's like calm down but
anyways that's not the point of this video so anyways like I said this isn't
like to you know harass Tana or anything I want you I want you watching this to
think about that think about has revenge ever suited you or has it all gone to
crap like when we sit back and look like and we ask yourself one simple question
is this useful or is this not useful to me okay look a revenge or anger 99.9
percent of the time it is not useful to us alright so I hope you take a lesson
from this and you can step back and reevaluate some of the situations in
your life like how can you do this and be the better person how can you do this
without setting yourself up for failure how can you do this without hurting
thousands literally thousands of other people in tannaz case alright so I hope
you took a little lesson from this video okay but anyways thank you so much for
watching and if you liked this video please give it a thumbs up and if you
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