Hi everyone, it's Katey, and today I wanted to talk to you about something that I
heard raised in a Facebook group recently or about a month ago and that
was the concept of 'nice washing' tarot decks, and I just loved this term, I thought it
was brilliant whoever coined it I'm not sure but I loved it. Essentially it's
kind of a counterpart to fluffy, and we often describe you know Oracle and tarot
decks as being fluffy, or people and their practices being fluffy, but I liked
how this related specifically to Tarot and to the tarot system and a
phenomenon that this person raised was that they see a lot of people nice
washing tarot decks, especially in modern times, and they and plenty of other
people disagreed with that. And so I just wanted to share my opinion on this topic,
partly because I think that word is so great but also because I have a few
thoughts and feelings on it. Now obviously recently I did a video about
negative cards in the Tarot and how sometimes I think we try to
problem-solve them a little bit too much rather than just letting them be,
allowing space for that negative feeling or experience to exist, and I stand by
that and I hope I don't sound like I'm contradicting myself because I feel like
you know my opinion on nice washing and my opinion on negative tarot cards can
coexist, but I just wanted to confirm that I haven't changed my mind in a
month, in a space in the space of a month, but I do think this is a very
interesting topic. So I will start by saying that I am actually rather in
favour of nice washed tarot decks, I don't see them as you know inherently
problematic at all, and there's a few different arguments that I hear against
nice washing. One is more to do with you know changing the Tarot at all and
people not liking you know changes to the system. I'm not going to focus so
much on that, rather I'm going to focus on the other argument which is more
related to you know the idea of people being fluffy the idea of people being
too positive or you know like this law of attraction, affirmative sort of
approach to life. Essentially it boils down to the idea that people are
refusing to accept the negative side of life, they're refusing to look at the
shadow and only want to live in the light. I of course can't speak for
everybody but me personally I don't think that that argument really
holds a lot of weight. I'm sure there are some people who are more that way
inclined, I wanted to more talk about people like myself who try to live
fairly balanced in terms of light and shadow, and personally I think there is
absolutely space in my practice for nice washed tarot decks. A little bit of
personal history in case you're new here, I have a pretty, pretty heavy experience
with the shadow side of life. I have bipolar and I've been kind of off and on
unwell since I was about 13 or 14, and in 2013 I attempted suicide and I spent the
next three years in and out of psychiatric hospital. So I am very
familiar with the difficult, shadow, uncomfortable side of life. This idea
that only people who are obsessed and are living in the light now are using
nice washed tarot decks I think is really ignorant in many ways, I think there are
people who are experiencing dark times right now who benefit from nice washed
tarot decks. For example, I rediscovered tarot when I was in hospital for the
first time, and it was absolutely an essential tool for my recovery. I've said
that before and it's so true, but I think you know this idea that when
you're in hard times or to do shadow work you'd be using dark decks that are
really intense and full-on. I wasn't in a space where I could do that, you know I
was barely functioning, I was trying to survive, I was having the
most difficult time in my life, I didn't need a tarot deck to tell me that life
is hard, I didn't need a tarot deck to kind of help me dig to the depths of
this experience. Instead I needed something gentle and soft and something
just to kind of light and guide my way, and I was using decks like Doreen
Virtue's Angel Tarot cards and fluffy Oracle decks like Denise Lynn's Gateway
Oracle, things like that, the sort of things that people will put up as
distinctly fluffy or nice washed, that is what helped me. And I suppose I've also
heard the argument from there that if you're not in a space of being ready to
hear all of the things that tarot has to tell you then you shouldn't be
getting reading, or shouldn't be using the cards.
And again I think this comes from a really, really unhelpful perspective. You
know Tarot helped me so much, it helped me in getting my thoughts out on the
table, it helps me in just being mindful and being- sitting with myself and my
experience for a little while, it helped me in slowly and gently problem-solving,
it helps me keep on track with my recovery and give me hope and
inspiration. Tarot did all of that for me and I didn't need some epic hard dark
deck in order to achieve that. If anything what I needed in that moment
was exactly what I had, the fluffy, nice wash tarot decks. I guess I just don't buy
into this idea that something has to be serious or heavy or dark in order to be
you know helpful or productive or useful. I really don't agree with that concept
at all, I think things are useful depending on what we need and sometimes
we just need something gentle and soft, sometimes we just need that gentle
guiding light. I've said it before and I'll say it again that you know Tarot to
me is a tool, and tools are useful insofar as that they are useful to
somebody, and I don't think that just because they're a little bit light and a
little bit fluffy that invalidates their use for somebody, that invalidates the
experience that somebody has had with them. I don't think that invalidates them
as a useful tool. I think there's kind of like this level of elitism or
superiority that you know history and tradition and intense symbolism and the
occult and dark imagery and serious intense imagery- there's an elitism and a
superiority around that if we're talking about you know in comparison to angel
decks and fairy decks, and I just don't think that that's helpful, I don't think that
serves anyone. Ultimately I don't think that you know dictating how people move
through their experience, whether positive or negative,
I don't think telling people the 'right' way or what is the best way to work
through that is helpful. I think if you find something that works for you, if you
find something that supports you in the way that you need it to, then that is all
you can ask for. There's nothing wrong with working with that tool that helps
you. I also think that it's a bit of a slippery slope - I'm not usually one to
argue against slippery slopes, but I do think it's interesting that the people
who argue against nice washed tarot decks, there's so many
different perspectives that they have and whilst you know most people will go
towards Doreen Virtue as nice washed, fluffy, there's plenty of people who kind
of move along the line to what you know other people who are against nice washed
tarot decks might not consider nice washed. For example, I saw in that thread,
a lot of people starting to bring up the Starchild, which is again a deck that I
know has been very healing and empowering for a lot of people. I even
saw people mentioning the Wild Unknown and there were several people mentioning
the Wild Unknown as nice washed and fluffy and hipster and irrelevant,
essentially. And so I just think that in itself says a lot about how you know the
line of what is a 'real' tarot deck and what is a 'real' tool is different for
everybody, and so often wherever we draw that line
we think we're reasonable and that anyone over that side of the line is
unreasonable, except everybody has a different line and so there's no
clear-cut idea of what is tarot, what is helpful, what is useful, what is a 'good'
tarot deck versus what it was a nice washed, silly, flippant tarot deck.
And I'm talking about Doreen's deck because that was one of the decks that I
had, but I'm not at all saying that I support Doreen herself or that I agree
with the things that she said and done, I certainly think that the sort of things
that she said about our community since you know the past few years, I'm very
critical of all of that, but ultimately that doesn't change, at least for me, the
deck that I have, because again it's a tool and it is helpful to me, it's been
useful to me, and I don't think even Doreen has the right to take that away
from me. This reminds me in many ways that we all approach things like shadow
works so differently. You know when I'm doing that hard work I want something
that you know has substance and is willing to kind of work with me to bring
forward some of that heavy stuff, but ultimately often what I find I need is a
guiding light, some direction, something to kind of keep me on track and keep me
focused, I don't need help getting down and dark with myself because, I don't
know, perhaps it's all of the therapy that I've done or perhaps it's just more
m naturally, I don't need a whole lot of help getting down there, what I do
need is something helpful and clear to keep me on
track. And often, very often, whether it sounds contradictory to other people or
not, often that is something keeps things calm and gentle so that I can just kind
of sit with myself and move through it, move in the right direction.
I suppose, too, I see these decks like Doreen's deck, the Angel Tarot, and I
don't really see them as nice washed as some people seem to make them out to be,
and there's plenty of cards in that deck that do deal with some harder stuff,
like difficult emotions and fear and confusion and even conflict, things like
that, endings, you know there's plenty of cards in that deck that deal with those
things, they just do them in a productive way, they do them in a gentle way, and I
don't think there's anything wrong with that. I think often, especially when we're
overwhelmed, you know kind of throwing everything on top of you isn't going to
help. In a way it reminds me of exposure therapy, which is the type of therapy
that's often used with anxiety, where if you're terrified of something you know you
start really small with exposing yourself to it and then you build up,
very, very slowly. The idea comes from the fact that you know often exposing
yourself to whatever it is that you're scared of, if it's a serious fear,
whatever you're scared of or anxious about, if you expose yourself to that in
its entirety, often you're too overwhelmed and incapable of self-care
that it just kind of reinforces the trauma, reinforces the fear. I think in
many ways you know nice washed tarot decks can be that exposure therapy,
especially for when I was unwell, you know perhaps having some Mary El tell
me all of you know my deepest darkest fears wouldn't have been helpful because
I was already in that, I was really experiencing it. Instead the nice washed
tarot decks kind of allowed me to redevelop self-care tools, redevelop an
appreciation of what I was capable of and what I needed, and because dealing
with you know all of my stuff all at once would have been overwhelming, and
it's very difficult to do something productive, to work through something in
a state of overwhelm. Instead we need to be in a space where we can care for
ourselves and take care of ourselves and I think nice washed tarot decks can do that.
And so those are some of the thoughts that I had in response
to that thread. I did comment initially you know just my support of nice washed
tarot decks, basically and expressed the fact that they had helped me, and I had
several people who you know, the conversation was polite and everything,
but they were really quite adamant that they just didn't understand how a nice
washed tarot deck could be helpful, could be productive, and you know I kind of
worked through with them the fact that you know I had been- I was suicidal, I'd
attempted suicide, and these decks helped me in the way the they did because of
their approach, because they were nice washed, because they allowed space for me
to just look at my thoughts and look at my feelings in a safe way. That is
exactly what I needed, and in doing so they supported me
through recovery from you know attempted suicide, that's some pretty hard work,
that wasn't easy and yet it was the nice washed tarot decks that did, that or helped
me through that. I'm certainly quite opposed and critical of this 'always
positive' culture, this always affirmative culture. I think that can very quickly
turn into victim-blaming sort of territory, so I'm not talking about that
culture. I'm talking specifically about the usability and the usefulness that
nice wash tarot decks can have, especially for some people, and the fact that
they're not invalid, they shouldn't be taken off the shelves and burnt because
they're not heavy and dark, or because they're not you know laden with esoteric
symbolism, just because they take a slightly different, lighter, gentler
approach to the Tarot doesn't mean that they're not completely and entirely
valid and useful. But that is what I think on this very interesting, nuanced,
often controversial topic, and so I would love to hear what you guys think in the
comments below, and I will talk to you all again very soon. So much love, bye!
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