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and confidence is not something you have
is something you create and you can
create at any moment in time a sense of
confidence is nothing but a sense of
power within yourself a sense of
certainty that you can pull something
off and you can create that feeling
literally in a moment it's not something
that you live with there is no one that
I've ever met that no matter what
situation they're in is always confident
everybody gets knocked off kilter at
times the key is can you turn the
confidence on when you need it so you
can get the most out of yourself does
that make sense so far so you've got to
remember that feeling confident is
nothing but a state of mind and you can
change and create any state you want at
any moment in time no matter what's
going on around you you've got to
remember that any feeling you've ever
had in your body whether it be fear
anxiety concern depression frustration
or ecstasy power unstoppable 'ti
confidence success those emotions any
emotion you feel comes from the way you
use your physical body the only way you
can feel anything is by the way you move
the way you breathe your facial
expressions so if you're not feeling
confident you don't have to
intellectually try and pump yourself up
because it doesn't always work
I'm sure you've tried it time to go well
I need to be confident I know I should
be confident but you're still not there
let me tell you the quickest way to get
confident is to change your physiology
radically emotion is created by motion
the way you move your body physically
the way you breathe your facial
expressions instantly affects your
emotional state the way you feel and the
way you think so if you need confidence
you must move in a confident way you
must literally put yourself at level 10
or above if you're confident enough you
can develop the competence but if you're
competent and you don't have confidence
you'll never succeed
there are many competent people who
could accomplish incredible results but
they're missing the confidence am I
suggesting to you to be foolhardy no
what I'm suggesting to you is learn how
to turn on the confidence rapidly use
enough of it to learn what you need to
know to be competent in effect
and produce the results but you'd be
surprised how much more you know then
you realize if you really get yourself
in the right state of mind does that
make sense
try it try moving your body in a
confident way stand the way you be
standing if you felt unstoppably
confident breathe the way be breathing
if you felt unstoppably confident really
go for it put the kind of expression on
your face that you have if you are
unstoppably confident and make some
gestures actually move your hands out
with some powers if you're trying to
make a point with real power and what
you know that what you're gonna say is
gonna be effective and just notice how
that feels
say something say yes and the tone of
voice is somebody who is totally
confident don't lose yes with some power
and just feel that feels in your body
get a sense of it turn on more intensity
than you would normally use when another
person just feel it in your body so you
feel what it's like you want to be able
to turn it on just by turning your body
on this is critical with this is a power
you can go from being afraid to strong
in a matter of moments
now try something really stupid and
silly using your physical body
effectively can put you in a state of
confidence no matter what was happening
around you no matter how intense the
situation no matter how scary no matter
how difficult you always have that
resource
don't ever say to yourself again what
good food is break out of that jail if
you don't feel like you have confidence
create it right now it's not a thing
that somebody gave you years ago it's
not something you missed out on it's
something you create by the way speak by
the way you move by the way you gesture
control your mental focus remember what
you focus on is going to determine how
you feel so if you focus constantly on
how things might not work out and you
look it in your brain all the
possibilities of well what if this
doesn't work or what if that doesn't
happen about your mental focus of course
you're gonna lack confidence
remember we experience whatever we focus
on so if you're focusing on how things
won't work you're gonna feel the pain
that you associate to that you're gonna
create a tremendous amount of doubt and
then it usually becomes a
self-fulfilling prophecy you don't get
what you want but when you expect and
focus on one result you say this is what
it is I'm going to accomplish this I
expect it immediately your level
self-confidence goes up and you feel
active immediately because your brain
says hey if I do this I can get some
pleasure in my life does that make sense
that's the process we're talking about
we must control our focus and one way to
do it of course is to control our focus
by controlling the questions we ask
ourselves invariably people who have a
lot of doubt ask questions are creative
if you walk around in life believing
that the only way you can feel confident
is if you've already accomplished
something you got a problem you're
limiting yourself to the number of
things you can ever feel confident about
and succeed in other words some people
say well how can I be confident when
I've never done it before
listen I feel confident all kinds of
things I've never done before you say
well that's because you're a screwed up
well that's not why it is it's because I
come from a belief system that says this
that if I can imagine it I can achieve
it so if I can even imagine it I know I
can achieve it and that allows me to be
confident plus I have a belief system
that says if I'm committed there's
always a way to make it work and no
matter how tough the situation is if I
don't know how to make it work somebody
else does and I can get their help so I
come from that place and that allows me
to be confident I know I can get help I
know if I'm committed there's a way to
do it and I know that anything in the
past I've really been able to imagine
accomplishing and finding a role model
for I can't accomplish
hey listen everything you do now you
once weren't good at everything you do
now there was a time when you had not
done it why wait to get confident
besides that I know I can be confident
about what I'm about to begin because I
know look if it doesn't work out I'll
learn something and that makes me feel
confident because of that learning will
allow me to be better in the future
in other words set yourself up to be
able to be confident again I'm not
suggesting me foolhardy I'm just telling
you how to turn confidence on when you
need it and most the time you do need it
what's the potential of any human being
I personally believe it absolutely is
unlimited none of us even come close to
scratching are real potential there are
a lot of people who go out there and
take a lot of action and still get lousy
results why action by itself is great
but it is not
enough success starts with our beliefs
that is the core of your performance
think about it see the potential is
there but if for some reason you start
out with some learning beliefs like well
I don't have that much self-confidence
anyway or I don't have the background or
I've never done this before so I
probably won't succeed anyway if you
have that belief are you likely to tap a
lot of your potential highly unlikely
now if you don't think you're gonna
succeed you're not using much potential
are you likely to take massive action
hardly now when you tap a little bit of
potential and you only take a little bit
of action what kind of results do you
get a little bit of results if any now
what does that do to your brain and your
beliefs your brain goes see I told you
so now you have this reinforcing belief
matter because it points back to that
experience so what happens you have even
less belief you have even less potential
you take even less action if that's
possible you get even worse results and
now you're truly locked into the
downward spiral to the point where now
you start looking and how can you do the
very least to get by that's called death
rattle to personal success the opposite
is also true too sometimes people have
an experience in life or for some reason
they get a result or something happens
and they begin to absolutely believe not
just hope but know that they can
accomplish something when that happens
whether it because you changed your body
or you had a new experience you're gonna
tap a lot more potential when you know
you're gonna succeed aren't you and
therefore you're gonna probably take a
lot more action knowing you're gonna
succeed you're inspired you're gonna go
for it when you take a lot of action and
use a lot of your potential what kind of
results you get usually great results
when you get great results what does
that need your belief your brain goes
boom see I told you you would succeed
and sure enough now your beliefs are
even stronger so what do you do you tap
even more potential you take massive
action and you get even greater results
what happens you believes even stronger
and now you're in that success cycle
you're in that place where you literally
have momentum that drives you to a whole
new level
that's how beliefs are formed you might
say well how can I get results though
what do I do if I'm on the downward
spiral well you don't change your
potential that's always there you don't
just take action although that's a great
first step you've got to change your
beliefs and that one of the easiest ways
to do that is change your results in
advance if you want to succeed you need
to rehearse over and over succeeding
until it's so real for you your brain
begins to believe it now you'll tap or
potential you'll take better action in
real life you'll get better results
then it'll reinforce your belief and now
you're off and running does this make
sense this is the way to create lifelong
unstoppable self-confidence if you
really want to be confident know what
causes people to lack in it focusing too
much on yourself and not enough on other
people will guarantee that you'll lack
confidence what do I mean I mean some
people like confidence because they pick
themselves apart they spend all day
every day
analyzing themselves why did I do this
why don't I do that how come I never
accomplish these things they asked lousy
questions they get lousy answers and
they create a tremendous amount of
self-doubt you wanna have more
confidence stop analyzing yourself so
much and focus on other people how you
can contribute to them and as you start
giving better people you'll feel more
confident about what you can even do for
yourself that makes sense and finally
this you can feel confident if all you
do is remember some of the things you've
accomplished in your life you are a
successful competent person you've done
a lot of things in your life extremely
well no matter who you are what your
background is there are things in this
world that you are really good at things
you've really accomplished in your life
that you've got to be proud of every
human being I meet I know is my superior
because I know all of us in life have
focused our attention on various things
and whatever you focused on a lot you're
good at
and every human being I meet in my life
I know that I'm superior to in some way
as well that makes me feel confident as
well knowing I can learn from other
people and that I can give too so in
order to help yourself really have
reasons to feel confident not just put
yourself in state but to feel like you
got reasons all you've got to do is
manage your memories better pull out
some of your memories of tough
situations in your life well you didn't
think you could pull it off but you
turned it around you have some of those
don't you situations when you thought I
could never figure a way to pull this
off and yet you did you need to remember
more of those and lessen the times and
you felt overwhelmed pull out of your
memory files some of the references that
can show you that you deserve to be
confident that you're competent and
confident that you can make things
happen even in the toughest of times and
use those examples to remind yourself in
the future that whatever's going on you
can find a way
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