Hi guys what's up its Celine here and I'm so happy you clicked on this video
and found my channel which is all about "living the life you want to live" and "being
the kind of person you want to be" - so in case you're interested in those kind of
topics, make sure to hit the subscribe button to not miss out on anything. I
have a new video background! Yeah, this is how it's going to be the next few videos,
I really really do love it. I recently started vlogging so in case you're
interested in what happened here - I moved in all that stuff - I started to vlog and
it's gonna be down in the description box. "How To Find Your Purpose In Life?"
This is the question I never asked myself to be honest but I asked myself
questions which are related to that, so "how to be happy?", " how to choose the right
career?", " how to find out what I want to do in life?" How to find your purpose kind of
just sums all of that up. I'll provide lots of lots of information in that
video and just if you want to have something to go through afterwards, you
either can take notes or you can just go on my blog where I sum up all my videos
as blog posts in case you're more a reader better listener.
So I already answered why should you even find your purpose, like, why does
that matter? It's all about self fulfillment and living your life to the
fullest and in order to that be happy with what you're doing and with who you
are and now of course the question is: "how how can I find my purpose?" Well, first
of all you need to become who you truly are and again we have a "why" should I do
that and "how" should I do that. So we'll start with the "why": If you know who you
truly are you'll know what you truly want. You know your intentions, you know
your aims, you know your goals, you know what makes you happy. If you know what
you want you can start taking actions towards that goal in order to succeed
with what you want to do and if you succeed with what you want in life, that's
personal fulfillment and happiness. Because when you do what you love and
have success with what you love, isn't that like, the greatest thing that can
happen? Okay let's jump to the "how": How do I become who I truly are and why am I not
who I am? You have three kind of personality stages, the first one is the
Ego which is your true self, your most inner self. You can't really influence it,
it's subconscious and it's kind of the same when you're 7 or when you're 107 it
is your unique you, if that makes any sense?
Then there's your intentional self. That's how we want others to see us, our
actions, our behavior and all that stuff, our intentions how we want us to be
perceived by others. I wanna be perceived as an tidy, organized person so that's
what I do, I'm tidy and organised. There is the
actual "how others see us" which is - important - other people's reality and not
your own. This is why we can't even influence it. Its how others perceive you
and it's always about them, how they perceive you, not about who you truly are.
So we can't influence that so the third one is not that important to us. Let's
focus on the second and first one which is the Intentional Self and the Ego.
Because when we are able to align the Intentional Self and the Ego together
this is our true selve and this is how we can become who we truly are. So,
"Ego Self": we can influence, that's how we are deep in ourselves like, our soul
and then the "Intentional Self": who we want to be, who we aspire to be. Put
together: true self, happiness, fulfilment. Okay, let's focus
on the second one which was the Intentional Self. It is about behaviour, it
is about actions and what we do with that is we start observing ourselves. Why?
Because when we observe our self we can see our strengths, our interests, our aims,
our goals. We observe: Why do we act like this? Because we want to have this or
that in life. Also we can observe: Am i doing this because of myself or am i
doing this because of others? which I have a whole video on so if you want to
know how to filter "am i doing that for myself or am i doing that because others
told me to" click on that video it's going to be up and in the description
box as well. When we, through observing, point out our strengths and our aims it
automatically points out our possibilities and that leads to our
talents and positive traits. So when we figure out our intentions we'll figure
out what we're good in, what we want to do and what we can do, our possibilities.
Put that aside for a second, focus on the ego. Our inner, not influenceable self
which is subconscious. So many people just suppress the unacceptable things
about ourselves just to fit in, but here's the key: The things you suppress
in order to fit in are actually the things that make you you, that is your
uniqueness, your specialty, the thing that makes you you and when we suppress it,
what happens is we are like a shadow self of our actual personality and we
can't really truly become who we are because of different reasons, because of
fitting in, because of acceptance, because of education, because of our parents
beliefs, because of society, because whatever. So we need to disconnect from
that and start being proud and being happy about having those flaws which are
no flaws at all, which are what you make you, you know what I mean? Oscar
Wilde set once: "Be who you are because everyone else already taken:" and that's
just true. That does not mean you can't have role models or you can't try, you
know, you can't be inspired by someone. I just encourage
you to, you know, except all of you and when you're able to do that, except you
as you and point out what makes you unique, this is where you can align it
with your intentions. Because when you stop trying to hide something and start
making it your own advantage you can combine it with your intentions. So
that was the goal remember, we wanted to combine the ego self with our
intentions to become one so we can become who we truly are. Also, the ego
self is kind of a thing we can't or just can until a certain point influence or
change and I believe that things we can't change
are meant to be. So we do have a purpose that we have this character trait. Or
this trait also in terms of appearance has a certain meaning, has a certain
purpose and people with certain traits are in our lives because of a certain
purpose, so our purpose always serves others in a way and others purpose
serves us. Always in forms of lessons or personal growth or to strengthen our
self. So try not to suppress something, if you can't change it it's meant to be and
it'll serve you at one point and at one point you'll be really happy to have it.
So what we really need to do is value our uniqueness and I can't stress that
out enough because even if you think about it it just makes sense. Everyone
wants to be something special, something unique but everything that makes you
unique you see as a flaw or, like, most of it you see as a flaw and you see as a
bad thing in order to that, you're gonna try to hide it, you're not your true self and
you miss the opportunity to be something special. This is contradictory, so we
need to stop doing that and start accepting us for who we are in order to
find our true purpose. To sum it up: We combine our true
selves which would be our uniqueness and our character traits with our
intentional self which would be our goals, our aims, our talents and our
interests to find our purpose. Now the final question is 2Why do I need my
purpose? Why do I need this fulfilment?" and it is obvious: Because you want to be
happy, because happiness is the end goal isn't it?
Everyone wants to be happy, wants to be fulfilled and positivity attracts
positivity so when you're happy you attract positive things in your life: You
attract abundance, you attract health, you attract joy and in the end you
create a life worth living. It does not matter at all how much money you have,
how you look, where you live, where you are from. All that matters
is that you are able to value your life enough to be happy with it and to see it
as worth living. This is at least my definition of a purpose. I'm interested
in what your definition of purposes is, let me know. I hope you got something out of
this video and I know this was a lot of information, I already said it but all
this is summed up. Check out my other videos if you're into those kind of
topics, I would love to have you as a part of my community so I would be super
happy if you subscribe and leave a comment. Let's discuss what interests you in the
comments and ask me whatever you want to ask me, I'm more than happy to answer
your questions. Otherwise, see you in the next video bye bye. (A really really
important reason why you could feel tired is of course that you had bad,
less or even too much sleep ...)
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