Hi Everyone, welcome on WouldYouReact, the youtube channel that brings together the people who share the same values.
Lately you've probably heard about #MeToo and the Weinstein case etc.
That has enabled all women to have the right to a free speech.
In these stories, something caught my attention
it's the fact that every guy now that approaches a woman on the street
may be considered as a pervert.
And we, as the WouldYouReact team don't want this.
Because we are for social interactions in society.
And we asked ourselves: what would be the best manner to approach someone in the street?
For this social experiment, we chose members of our team.
There's Mike, who considers himself as fairly confident
and Ludovic, who doesn't feel confident enough
to approach people on the street.
And then, there is a third person : me
Who has absolutely no idea why I accepted this social experiment.
Everything is so far away from me... I don't know how to seduce a girl anymore !
Let's go for the social experiment, we'll come back together at the end of the video
and we'll try to reach to a conclusion and understand
what's the best way to approach girls.
Let's go !!!
[Liège (Belgium)]
Hello miss, I saw you donating to the Red Cross?
[The girls don't know that it's a social experiment)
I think it's really great.
Yes I just did it, yes.
I already donated to Oxfam less than a week ago
So I thought why not donate to the Red cross too.
Really ?
Yes I don't really care, it's only 10€ anyways.
- Are you from here ? - Yes, I'm from Liege.
[Being interested in the person instead of talking too much about you is a good idea.]
- What are you studying ? - I am about to start my first year in nursing.
- Wow ! That's brave. - Yeah, well yeah.
Do you know what to expect ? - No I don't.
[Being interested in the person instead of talking too much about you is a good idea.]
- I saw you and though you were really cute. - Thank you, that's nice.
I'd like to know if it would be possible to have your Facebook or your number?
If I come back to Liege maybe...
- Yeah, I don't mind. - You don't mind?
So 04...
25...
- I am Mickael, just so you know.
- Have a great day. - Thank you, you too.
He came to find me regarding the Red Cross so of course.. It was the context.
[Take a spontaneous opportunity to start a conversation]
- Excuse-me Miss, do you know... - Sorry, I speak English...
- You are from Liège ? - No, from Israel.
You are very friendly and I like to meet people.
Is it possible to have your name ?
- What's your name ? - My name is Michael.
- Michael ? Sophie. - Sorry ?
- Sophie. - Oh it's very cool.
I am a tourist here
so it's more easy, cause I am just looking for people to talk with them
- I think it helped. - Ok
Maybe in your country, you don't react the same way ?
Yeah, I think in my country, I don't like it.
You need to go with your heart I think, that's it.
Excuse me Miss, do you have a lighter ?
Thanks.
You are very pretty.
Such a smile !
[Social interactions are still well received by women] Can I have your phone number ?
- Nah, I can't do that. - No ? - Nah, I can't.
- Why ? - Cause my boyfriend is not going to like it.
True, I can understand that. But it's just to talk...
Yes, you can say it's just to talk, but that's how it started with him !
Ah okay, thank you anyway.
Thanks !
I'm looking for the Mediacity or something like that ?
- Ah the Mediacity ! - Yeah
You need to take a bus.
Ah okay, that's not here at all then ! Do you mind if I ask for your phone number ?
- I find you really pretty. - Nah I'm sorry, but I have someone already.
- Really ? - Yes. - Cause you really have a beautiful smile.
- Thank you. - You are really nice. - I told you I am not free.
We're doing a social experiment for WouldYouReact
To see how people are...
Ah okay !!
When talking about the body shapes and things like that..
It is bothering you if people are directly talking to you about your physical appearance ?
Exactly. It's depending on every woman though , everyone is different.
Otherwise for me, yeah it's something that could work !
- Hi, are you from here ? - Yes, what for?
I find you very attractive...
... and I'd like to know if I can grab your phone number ?
- Sorry but no. - No ? Okay.
[We're all 3 going to try the experiment with a man] - Do you think his way of approaching you was good ? - Not for me, no... - Why is that?
Cause I don't give my number to guys...
... and anyway I am already in couple with a woman.
[That's Ludovic's turn]
- Hello, excuse-me, are you from here ?
- Yes.. - I am a bit lost. Is the Mediacity around here ?
- Kind of. - I am from Brussels, so I don't know...
- Could you please give me the direction ? - You need to take a bus there.
You go straight, then on your left...
Thanks, I find you really nice.
Cause I asked other people and they were not even answering me !
[Do you think he's moving to fast ?] - Can I ask you for a drink ? - Ah no, sorry !
- Do you have a boyfriend ? - I do.
Just one more question if I may..
What do you think is the best way to approach someone ?
Do you think this kind of interaction is okay or it is a little bit...
I don't really know, personally I don't like it.
Excuse me, do you have a partner already ?
I find you quite attractive
and I was wondering if we could exchange our phone numbers and get to know each other ?
I am sorry, but I am hetero..
No worries, I understand.
But I really appreciate your courage and the compliment you gave me !
That's not my style normally, I am quite an introvert.
But I thank you for your spontaneity and your honesty, that was very kind of you.
- Thank you for the compliment ! - I'll shake your hand for that !
I don't think that the street is the best..
... I mean, people are busy, ect.
But in an other place, a public place like a bar or whatever
- Hello, excuse me, are you from here ? - I am not...
Oh and just by chance, do you know where to find the Mediacity ?
You need to take the bus 33 over there and it will take you just in front of it.
- Ok, another little question, do you have a partner ? - Yes.
I find you very pretty and the way you talk is very spontanious
and charming !
- Hello, are you from here ? - Yes, I am.
- I am looking for the Media.. - The Mediacity ?
- You need to take a bus. - Dammit !
You need to take the bus 29.
- Are you studying here ? - Yes.
What are you studying ?
- Education teacher. - Special education teacher ? - Yes.
Ah yeah, I did that in Brussels.
Not for a long time though...
- Okay, bye bye. - I find you very pretty, both of you.
You have pretty eyes, i don't know if you've been told so before ? Do you have a boyfriend ?
[80% of the communication is non-verbal]
- Can we exchange our phone numbers ? - No.
- If there is too many questions and not so much answers... - Is it oppressing ?
I reacted like that because we were two and we had the time, otherwise, alone, I would have stop it straight away.
Staying natural, simple. Not trying to hit on people by talking about their eyes...
and not asking for the phone number !
It's better to ask if we know a nice coffee shop, ect.
And then if it works, we can go have a coffee together...
- You mean, continuing the conversation ? - Yes, definitely.
It was too fast ?
Yes, too fast and too needy.
Excuse me, did we met at the train station already ?
Are you from here though ?
No ? Sorry, my mistake.
You look like a woman I often see.
In any case, you are as pretty as her !
Do you have a partner ?
No, but I am not interested.
No ? Okay...
It didn't bother me because it was not too agressive.
But he was too old for me.
I thought it was quite correct the way you approached me
It didn't bother me. It didn't felt like an agression.
Did we meet already at the "English Palais" ?
Hm, I don't know...
You really look like a woman I see quite often taking the train
to come working here.
Ha.
You're not Françoise ?
Not at all, my name is Ludivine.
Nice to meet you, I am Ludo.
It's a good occasion to meet new people !
Do you have a partner ?
No, not at the moment.
I find you really pretty.
Thank you.
How old are you ?
I am 20 years old.
I am 28, that's quite an age difference !
But I find you really pretty.
Thank you.
You have beautiful eyes.
What did you like about him ?
His smile !
Is it important to smile ?
Yes of course !
And so, if he had been closer to your age, it could have worked for you ?
Yes, definitely.
[My turn... It feels like 10 years ago !]
- Excuse me, are you waiting for me ? - No.
- Are you waiting for someone ? - Yes I am.
- Who are you waiting for ? - One of my friends.
- Okay, are you from Liège ? - Yes.
I am from Brussels, I don't know much around here.
[ So stressful ! ]
Have you ever been to Brussels ?
Yes but not often.
Maybe that's an opportunity then !
Maybe.
What are your plans with your friend ?
It's my birthday, so...
Oh, Happy Birthday !
Thanks.
How old ?
23.
Do you want to exchange our numbers for the next time I visit Liège ?
Sure, no worries !
Yeah ? What's your name ?
Sonia
Sonia, 23 years old. I am Jon.
How old are you ?
30...
06 (...)
Hang on, 06 (...)
Thank you for your trust, it's really nice.
At first, I was a little bit hesitating, then I saw you were polite, ect.
So I told myself : "Yeah, not too bad".
Worst case, I am not keen, and I can say it after.
I don't know, it was calm and relax.
It didn't feel like I was forced to anything.
Have we met already ?
- Me ? - Yes, you !
- Hm... - Yes !
Your face is familiar.
- Really ? - Yes.
Have you ever been to Brussels ?
Nope.
I am from Brussels, are you from Liège ?
Seriously ?
Hang on, truth is...
...I have noticed your eyes and I find you very pretty.
I am usually not as direct but would you give me your phone number ?
Seriously ???
No, sorry.
Why not ?
Because. I have my partner here.
Oh you have someone ?
- Yes. - Her ? Or him ?
Her !
Ah okay, you like women.
Yep.
Okay, well anyway, I find you very pretty.
Did you think the way I approached you in the street
was okay ?
It is a bit too direct.
A bit too direct yeah, it is annoying ?
HA ! It's an actor, guys !!
Don't worry !
- I'd like to know. - Oh ! They are filming me !
- It needs to be less direct then ? - Yes.
Excuse me, can I just say that I like your style ?
Where did you buy your hat ?
H&M but it was a year ago.
Truth is I find you quite attractive.
I am usually not asking directly in the street but...
... can I grab your phone number ?
I am already with someone.
Excuse me, I am usually not asking but...
No no no wait
I would just like to say you have really pretty eyes.
I am usually not saying it. Are you from Liège ?
Yes.
I am usually not direct but you're pretty
and I am not often here
but if I come back to Liège,
Would you accept to see me again ?
It's not too bad but just too much.
It's stressful.
Too direct.
What should I've done to make it better ?
I don't know !
I have a partner, so i am not the best to know how it works
Okay but if you were single...
I would have maybe say yes we can meet again ?
But, it should not be that direct.
That's an interesting remark here.
Not too direct.
Yes, it makes people want to run away.
Okay
A man should talk about what ?
Not something that says : "I am single and I am looking for someone".
Otherwise you can talk about everything.
Yes it is nice to hear "You're pretty".
That happened to me before but it's always for something.
I find you very attractive...
That's nice but I have a boyfriend, he just dropped me off here.
That's intrusive.
Really, intrusive?
In a bar, yeah why not, it is better.
And now that I am saying that, I am realising that it is unfortunate !
Do you still take the compliment as a positive thing ?
Yeah... It is not necessarily something that comes across as sincere.
You think there's always something behind ?
That's for sure !!
Excuse me, I am not usually doing this but...
... I find you very pretty.
Are you happy to hear it ?
Yes it is a nice thing to hear
but it makes me quite uncomfortable.
Why is that ?
It's in front of everyone...
Are you personally open to meet people in the street if they have the right way of approaching you ?
Yeah, if it is the right way, yeah.
More like : "Excuse me, can I talk to you ?"
" Can I talk to you aside for a minute ?"
And then they can talk more relaxed.
That's it for now guys !
Hope you liked this social experiment !
I don't know if you've noticed
but women are not against the fact that men are talking to them in the street.
They mostly encourage it.
But they were mostly saying that
they don't especially like comments about their physical appearance.
And that's quite surprising and good to know.
It is better to talk about something else
like the weather or shops
or something that just happened
or bars and cafe to visit
or why not asking them if they know about WouldYouReact ?!
For us, social interactions are very important and we encourage it.
We hope there'll still be a lot of couple that randomly meet in the street...
Now a little advice for you :
If someone is talking to you in the street, in a respectful and polite way,
don't close the door too fast ! You never know ! ;)
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