WHY I CHOSE TO UN-SCHOOL MY SON. by Edward Morgan.
Now more than ever before our society is seeing the need to take matters into our own hands
and not rely on others to get the job done for us.
The topic of un-schooling has become quite popular and with good reason.
According to Wikipedia:
"Unschooling is an educational method and philosophy that advocates learner-chosen activities
as a primary means for learning.
Unschooling students learn through their natural life experiences including play, household
responsibilities, personal interests and curiosity, internships and work experience, travel, books,
elective classes, family, mentors, and social interaction.
Unschooling encourages exploration of activities initiated by the children themselves, believing
that the most personal learning is, the more meaningful, well-understood and, therefore,
useful it is to the child.
While courses may occasionally be taken, unschooling questions the usefulness of standard curricula,
conventional grading methods, and other features of traditional schooling in the education
of each unique child."
I couldn't agree more.
It's about taking the reigns in our children's education to ensure that they are not just
getting a good one but they have the opportunity to see the great joy of learning.
After six years of leaving it up to the system, my son lost that great joy.
All Children Love To Learn All kids love to learn and my son was not
excluded from that.
After a couple years of school, I noticed that school didn't feel like a place of
learning for him.
Learning was something that naturally manifested into his life.
I taught him sign language before he ever said his first word.
He loved books, songs, art, counting and all the stuff a child his age liked to learn about.
As early as grade one, he began showing signs that he would prefer not to go there.
Recently I saw an episode of The Simpsons titled, 'Lisa's Sax' from Season 9,
which shows a flashback to Bart's first day of kindergarten.
Some of you PicMonkey Collagemay know the one.
In the episode, Bart starts his first day saying, "School will be fun."
Shortly after, his initial enthusiasm is crushed by an uncaring and bitter teacher who says
that he would be a failure at life, and he draws a violent sketch of his feelings.
I feel that's what it was like for my son (and many other kids) when they entered school
for the first time.
They go in with enthusiasm and excitement and end up with disdain and confusion.
In grade four, he began to ask me questions regarding the structure of school.
He told me he didn't like that the kids were constantly being told to be quiet and
sit still.
He didn't understand why he couldn't eat when he was hungry.
He was confused why he couldn't learn about the things that he liked or was interested
in.
He asked why the teachers stopped using games and songs and kept play time to a scheduled
time once a week.
Prompted by my son's inquires, I was compelled to do research about public education and
its origins which I will share my findings later in this article.
When my son was in grade 5, I noticed that he didn't understand basic math concepts.
Concerned, I reached out to his teacher who told me that she hadn't noticed.
She said she would look into it and I put my faith in her that she would get to the
bottom of the problem.
She never did and before I could follow up with her as to why nothing had been done,
the teachers went on strike until the following school year.
My son entered grade 6 and more problems regarding school began to arise.
The Move That Changed Our Lives By February of this year, school had created
a horrible rift in our home life.
When I would try to help my son with his homework, he would become extremely emotional and shut
down.
This made it almost impossible to help him.
Eventually he had an emotional breakdown.
He began by telling me that he was not going back to school.
After asking him why he felt so strongly about this, he listed numerous reasons over the
course of two hours.
The things he brought up were that he felt like school was militarized.
When asking why he felt like that he said because of the rules, the loudschools-as-factoriessound
of the bell and that they made them run outside in the winter rain and cold everyday even
if they didn't want to.
He felt like school was boring because he never had the opportunity to learn what he
was interested in.
How many of you reading this ask your children what they learned about in school when they
come home and they reply with, "Nothing" or "Boring stuff"?
My son disagreed with how the kids were treated, specifically that the teachers were above
the students and that they were like masters and the kids were like slaves (his words).
He didn't feel like what he was learning about would benefit him in any way, not now,
not ever.
He felt stupid and the pressure of "competing" with his peers was unbearable.
This incident deeply saddened me.
From what I could see, my baby was suffering and as his mother, it was my duty to find
a solution to this and I feel I have.
I had been toying with the idea of home education for years.
Every day after school, I would tutor my son on things he would never learn while attending
school which I think was the basis for him to be able to have an awareness that something
just wasn't right at that place.
I so badly wanted him to see the joy of learning and how beneficial it is to be educated but
felt with the lack of funding and set curriculum that was not possible.
After laying out my options with home education and studying the philosophies and methods
of un-schooling, I pulled my son from the school.
The Teachers Know That Public Education Is Horribly Flawed
I sent an email to his teacher explaining a bit about why I was taking my son out of
public education which prompted the teacher to call me.
We had a very long, enlightening conversation regarding the school system.
The teacher told me that he completely supported and agreed with my decision to educate my
son at home.
He knew that the system was out-dated at best and the kids are not benefiting from it in
anyway.
He stated that most kids in his class were having meltdowns at home and in school regarding
it.
He agreed with me that the system doesn't teach the kids how to be critical thinkers
and that can be very dangerous for a society as a whole.
He told me that he will not be putting his kids in public education.
That statement alone was enough to tell me I was doing the right thing.
My son was in a split class and had two teachers.
Between the two teachers, they shared 65 students.
That is unbelievable!
The teacher stated that he so badly wants to teach but it's so conflicting because
as a teacher, his hands are tied.
He has to stick to a set curriculum and can't really go outside of it.
He said that there literally is no funding.
Most teachers pay for a lot of school supplies out of their own pockets.
This morning I read a Polk county public school teacher's letter of resignation.
To me it's more proof that the teachers know that the system is horribly flawed!
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Since we started our journey of un-schooling, he now understands basic math concepts.
His mood has also improved greatly.
When I first caught wind to him being behind, I knew that it stemmed from his grade two
year and he couldn't get caught up because the teachers unfortunately don't do one-on-one
help.
He got behind in the first place because he was being bullied and his teacher at the time
was also doing questionable things like not letting him go to the bathroom.
That was a bad year for him.
I know that experience had a part in his perception of school and him falling behind.
Regardless, nothing was done on the teacher's part to rectify the problem and how could
they if they don't have the time or resources to give one-on-one help.
The principal of my son's school said that they don't offer one-on-one help at that
school and most public schools.
The change from my son while he was in public school to un-schooling is like night and day.
Now, he has complete say in what he learns about and because I know his interests, I
can incorporate them into all subjects that he's doing for that week.
For example: he is completely obsessed with Samurais.
So he completed math worksheets that had samurais on them, we explored the science of making
katana swords, the geography of Japan, the history of the Edo period (time of the Samurais),
writing assignments based on monks and Buddhism, the culture of Japan throughout history and
now, and lots more.
I couldn't believe how I could incorporate samurais into every single subject.
Eventually, he started having self-directed days where he is his own teacher.
He has the reigns and can decide what pace to go at and how much he wants to complete
in one day.
Some people have asked me if he does anything on the days when were not working together.
Through un-schooling he has learned the importance and magic of learning.
It's all centered around his interests, passions, and curiosities so of course he
does.
He has the awareness that learning can manifest in anything.
Whether it's practicing his archery, tending to the plants, cooking, travelling, engaging
in his passions and spending time with the ones he loves; he knows anything he engages
himself in can teach him.
When he was in school, he never set goals.
Since we've been working together he sets goals and achieves them all the time.
We have no set curriculum; he is in control with me as a guide.
The greatest thing that I've learned through this experience is that we must be engaged
in our children's learning.
Even if un-schooling doesn't seem like an option.
We can't expect that all their education needs will be met at school.
For example, the things he has learned through un-schooling that he could not learn while
attending public education include: cooking, the Japanese language, Nikola Tesla, how to
take notes, the power of one, philosophy, philosophers, astronomy, Gandhi (and other
greats like him), quantum physics, Buddhism, Jesus, yoga, meditation, critical thinking,
archery, how to grow food, laws of attraction, the power of gratitude, wilderness survival,
various conscious documentaries like "I Am", in depth political history and how
society was built, natural healing and medicines, knowledge of self and so, so, so much more!
As a parent and an enthusiastic student of the universe, I believe all these things and
more should be taught through public education!
We must fill in the gaps whatever way we can in our current situations.
The system is broken and the children are suffering.
The Evidence That Something Needs To Change Aside from my son's personal experience
with school, there are other reasons that pushed me to make the move into home education.
The most important one is the origins of public education.
I truly believe that if parents knew what public education was really created for, they
would never enrol their children in it.
Horace Mann
I wrote an article regarding the origins which you can view here.
I highly recommend that you read this article which highlights John D. Rockefeller's investment
of and his involvement in it (to the outcry of parents and education professionals alike)
as well as Horace Mann's ("The Father of Education") role in it and his ties to
Prussia.
A notable person I have come across who has actually taken the time to study the long
term status of the un-schoolers is Peter Gray.
He is a Boston College research professor who has studied how learning happens without
any academic requirements at a democratic school.
In 2011, he decided to conduct a study with his colleague Gina Riley regarding a question
he had that was centered around the outcome of the 10% of un-schoolers from the estimated
two million children who are home schooled.
He was prompted to conduct the study after finding no academic studies that adequately
answered his question.
"In 2011, he and colleague Gina Riley surveyed 232 parents who unschool their children, which
they defined as not following any curriculum, instead letting the children take charge of
their own education.
The respondents were overwhelmingly positive about their unschooling experience, saying
it improved their children's general well-being as well as their learning, and also enhanced
family harmony.
Their challenges primarily stemmed from feeling a need to defend their practices to family
and friends, and overcoming their own deeply ingrained ways of thinking about education.
(The results are discussed at length here.)"
Prompted by his own curiosity about how un-schooled children felt about their education experience
and how this may have impacted their ability to pursue higher education and obtain gainful
and satisfying employment, he conducted a study in 2013 in which he surveyed 75 adults
ranging in age from 18 to 49; almost all of them had 3 years of un-schooling experience.
The results and Gray's remarks on the findings of the survey are quite long.
You can read the entirety of the article and results here.
Below I will paraphrase some of the points that really stood out for me in regards to
questions I have been asked regarding my son's future (going to college or finding employment).
"All but three of the 75 respondents felt the advantages of unschooling clearly outweighed
the disadvantages.
Almost all said they benefited from having had the time and freedom to discover and pursue
their personal interests, giving them a head start on figuring out their career preferences
and developing expertise in relevant areas.
Seventy percent also said "the experience enabled them to develop as highly self-motivated,
self-directed individuals," Gray notes on his blog.
Other commonly cited benefits included having a broader range of learning opportunities;
a richer, age-mixed social life; and a relatively seamless transition to adult life.
"In many ways I started as an adult, responsible for my own thinking and doing," said one
woman who responded to Gray's survey."
""Very few had any serious complaints against unschooling," Gray says, and more
than a third of the respondents said they could think of no disadvantages at all.
For the remainder, the most significant disadvantages were: dealing with others' judgments; some
degree of social isolation; and the challenges they experienced adjusting to the social styles
and values of their schooled peers."
"What stood out, he adds, is that "many more said they felt their social experiences
were better than they would have had in school."
Sixty-nine percent were "clearly happy with their social lives," he says, and made friends
through such avenues as local homeschooling groups, organized afterschool activities,
church, volunteer or youth organizations, jobs, and neighbors.
In particular, "they really treasured the fact that they had friends who were older
or younger, including adults.
They felt this was a more normal kind of socializing experience than just being with other people
your age.""
"Three people were very dissatisfied overall.
In all three cases, the respondents said their mothers were in poor mental health and the
fathers were uninvolved.
Two of the three also happened to be the only ones who mentioned having been raised in a
fundamentalist religious home, though the survey didn't ask this question specifically.
It appeared to Gray that the unschooling was not intentional—the parent had aimed to
teach a religious curriculum, "but was incompetent and stopped teaching," he notes.
In all of these cases, the children's contact with other people was also very restricted;
moreover, they were not given any choice about their schooling and therefore felt deprived
of school."
"Overall, 83 percent of the respondents had gone on to pursue some form of higher
education.
Almost half of those had either completed a bachelor's degree or higher, or were currently
enrolled in such a program; they attended (or had graduated from) a wide range of colleges,
from Ivy League universities to state universities and smaller liberal-arts colleges."
"In the words of one woman: "I already had a wealth of experience with self-directed
study.
I knew how to motivate myself, manage my time, and complete assignments without the structure
that most traditional students are accustomed to.
… I know how to figure things out for myself and how to get help when I need it."
Added another: "I discovered that people wanted the teacher to tell them what to think.
… It had never, ever occurred to me to ask someone else to tell me what to think when
I read something.""
What Is The Solution?
I'm all about creating sustainable solutions that we can start implementing today.
I wanted to share my story about my son in hopes that it will help other parents who
are watching their children suffer in the school system and to know that there are other
options.
I believe that our children are the future and as such, it is our duty to make sure they
have not just a good education but an inspiring and enlightening one so they don't make
the same mistakes my generation and generations before me have made.
There has been a large increase on discussions regarding public education and the effect
it's having on our children.
I personally believe that the whole system needs to be changed.
It's outdated and has sinister roots.
We have the power to change things and talking about the solutions is a good start.
Recently, I read an article titled, 'Why every parent should consider un-schooling'.
In it, it states that with programs519dde98cf479_image_ like No Child Left Behind (millions of children
have actually been left behind) and Common Core (otherwise known as Common Conformity)
in the United States, parents are finding the educational climate so unacceptable that
they are willing to take a radically different path.
Upon reading that, I was reminded of another article I read regarding director James Cameron
(Titantic, Avatar) and his wife Suzy Cameron creating an innovative school called Muse.
The concept behind MUSE came about after Suzy, a global environmental activist, mother of
5, and proud wife, grew tired of watching her older children struggle in the traditional
education system, and sought an alternative and more environmentally aware option.
I definitely think creating new schools with the basis of the "un-schooling" philosophy
is what we need but for many parents that can seem like light years away especially
when our children are suffering now.
I've written many articles on how any parent can adopt the philosophies of un-schooling
or home education even if they have to work during the day.
There is always a way.
It really depends on how much work you are willing to put in.
I will list the articles below as well as some other resources about un-schooling.
I hope they are helpful for those who are considering like I was.
Above all, I think if we work together, we can create a better, happier and more sustainable
world for ourselves and generations to come and I believe the key to this is conscious
education rooted from passion and expansion with no child ever being excluded or left
behind.
You can watch their video clips for additional information.
Their link is in the article source link below in our description.
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