LEARNING TO LOVE ONESELF By Walter Riso
Audio Produced by CONSEJOS PARA SER FELIZ
Loving oneself is perhaps the most important fact that guarantees our survival
In a complex and increasingly difficult world to cope with. Curiously, our culture
And education are aimed at punishing too much love. There are times for love and decrees
About what is good taste and bad taste. If you decide to congratulate yourself by giving you a kiss, possibly
The people around you even the psychologist on duty) will evaluate your behavior as ridiculous,
Narcissus the pedant. It is badly seen that we give ourselves too much time, we contemplate or we self-
We are rebuked: "All excesses are evil," we are told. Debatable. Some
Excess remind us that we are alive. Our civilization tries to instill principles
Such as respect for the human being, sacrifice, altruism, the expression of love, good
Treatment, communication, etc., but these principles are directed to the care of
Other humans.
Self-respect, self-love, self-confidence and self-communication are often not
account. Moreover, it is considered bad taste to want too much. If a person is friendly,
Expressive, affectionate and thinks more in the others than in herself, is evaluated excellently:
Its name is "dear". If someone disguises his virtues, he denies or
Undermines their achievements, that is, lies or self-punishment, is
Accepted
Not only do we reject honest and honest self-acceptance, we do not care whether it's true or
No, but we enact and reinforce the denial of our virtues. Absurdly, the virtues
Can be displayed, but not verbalized. If you have a good body, you are allowed to use
Thong, miniskirt, or tight pants, but you're not allowed to talk about it. If people
They are self-motivated, so they are right, they produce rejection and annoyance.
This policy of not speaking well of oneself in public, of not being exaggerated in self-rebalancing,
Of not giving yourself much pleasure, of disguising, of great modesty, etc., ends up becoming
In a value that we use too often. The "virtue" of not wanting oneself
To himself in public, extends to when we are alone. When you try to leave the
Excessive selfishness, we have not allowed self-love to enter. If the human being deserves the
Respect that is promulgated for being something special, that should be extended to your own person.
To avoid falling into the insufferable pedantry of the know-it-all, we have fallen into modesty
Self-destructive denial of our virtues. For not being wasteful, we are
Petty Clinical psychologists know that this style of over-
oneself. It is the broth of the well-known and dreaded depression. You have the right
To love you no longer feel guilty about it, to dispose of your time, to discover your tastes,
To pamper you, to take care of you and to choose.
Unfortunately, our mental structure is being formed more on the basis of the evaluation
Other than in self-evaluation, and we become victims of our own invention. Self-sensitization
Has made us forget those times of childhood when everything was shocking and rewarding.
We are too "outwardly" seeking the approval of others) and not
We spend enough time self-balancing and liking ourselves.
Our system of socialization has been more oriented to prevent the affective excesses, known
By specialists as "manias" (inflated self-esteem, too much confidence, etc.), which,
To states of sadness and depression caused by insecurity, self-image and self-concept
negative. Sufficiency and excessive safety produce discomfort. The insecurity
Produces pity. Usually people tend to take sides for the weakest.
Immunity to the scourge of depression is only achieved if you learn to love yourself. As the
Better things, you need a special treatment. You can not allow yourself to be hurt or given
The luxury of self-destruct stupidly.
From a young age we are taught personal self-care behaviors: we brush our teeth,
Bathing, cutting nails, eating, controlling sphincters and dress. But what about the
Self-care and mental hygiene? We are not taught to love, to like, to contemplate
And to trust in ourselves. In addition, although some parents have this as a desideratum,
We lack adequate teaching procedures. Nor are we taught to teach.
The image you have of yourself is not inherited or genetically transmitted. As it
From what has been said so far, is learned. The human brain has a system of
Information processing that allows to store a virtually infinite number
of data. This information, which we have stored in social experience, is stored in the
Long-term memory in the form of beliefs and theories.
In this way we have information of things or objects, the meaning of words, situations,
Types of people, social activities, etc. This knowledge of the world, wrong or
No, it allows you to predict, anticipate and prepare to face what is going to happen. By
Example, if you know a person who claims to be a racist and an active member of the Ku Klux Klan,
You can predict how you will think and act on certain situations. Could you
Anticipate their behavior before a person of color, 10 who thinks about racism and
Its position in front of the traditions.
As you build an inner representation of the world around you, you also build
Theories and concepts about yourself. The relationship you establish with the world not only allows you
Know the environment, but also your behavior in front of him. These experiences of contact
With people (friends, parents, teachers) and things of your immediate material universe develop
An idea of how you really are. The failures and successes, the fears and insecurities, the
Physical sensations, pleasures and dislikes, how to deal with problems, what
They tell you who you are, what they do not tell you, punishments, etc., everything converges and is organized
In an internal image about your own person: your self or your auto-quequema. Can you think
You are clumsy, ugly, interesting, intelligent or bad. Each of these qualifiers are
The result of a previous story, where you have been generating a "theory" about you
same. If you think you are a loser, you will not try to win. You will say: "Why try,
I can not win "or" it's impossible to change "or" I'm not worth anything ".
Humans show the conservative tendency to confirm, rather than to distrust, the
Beliefs. We are conservative by nature, and this economy of thought returns us
Stubborn and taken from our opinion. Once established the belief is very difficult
Change it. We resisted looking at our way of looking at things. If you set up a
Negative autoscale, he will accompany you for a long time if you do not make an effort to modify it.
In short, what you think and feel about yourself is learned and stored in a way
Of theories called self-schemas. There are positive and negative self-schemes. The first ones will take you
To cherish you, the seconds, to hate you.
No one contemplates and cares for a person who hates. Similarly, if the vision you have
Of you is negative, you will not express affection, because you will not believe deserve it. If your self-squeeze
Is positive and you do not feed it, it will fade. Some people, instead of congratulating themselves,
Disguise their joy with a phlegmatic parco: "It is nothing" or "it was my duty". The
Denial of personal recognition is a form of self-destruction.
In the autosquemas four fundamental aspects are interlaced that, for didactic purposes,
I will try to separate. In reality, they merge into an indissoluble whole and form the nucleus
Of personal self-assessment. They can become solid foundations on
Which you can build a strong and secure self, or the main source of self-elimination
And self-price. They are: Self-concept (what you think of yourself), Self-image
(How much you like), Self-esteem self-support (how much you rewards) and Self-efficacy
(How much confidence you have in yourself). They are the four supports of a good ego, or
The four horsemen of the apocalypse. If you fail one, it will be enough for your self-squeeze
Is lame or unstable. In certain situations, if only one of the riders is disengaged, the
"Herd" can follow.
Although negative self-schemas can destroy us, humans show the inexplicable
Tendency to conserve and feed them. The strange behavior of maintaining self-schemes
At all costs can be deadly for your mental health. Depressive people, for example,
Show this tendency to confirm it bad. If they are considered ugly, they neglect their figure
To corroborate its ugliness; If they think they are unintelligent, they fail at the
Examinations; If they believe they are victims, they play the role of martyrs or seek punishment;
etc. This way of confirming negative self-evaluation, behaving as if it really
Outside true, is very common. Social psychologists have called this mechanism, general-
Unconscious mind, self-realized prophecies.
If your selfishness is irrationally structured, you will distort reality. You will feel
Stupid despite being intelligent, horrifying without being, incapable being able and, finally,
You will try to punish yourself for not believing yourself worthy of congratulations.
An interesting aspect to note is that people with problems of self-acceptance
Are too "hard" with self-criticism and "soft" when they criticize other people.
On the other hand, subjects who show good self-esteem are protected by being rather mild
At the time of self-evaluation. An act of self-sufficiency. Who said we should
Be twenty-four-hour goals "By no means am I holding an attitude
Compulsive to deceive oneself? I simply think that sometimes "turning a blind eye"
Against small and insignificant errors or personal defects is useful for health
mental. It is preferable an optimistic position of slight overestimation, a heartbroken attitude
Pessimistic with oneself and a positive attitude toward others. Love begins at home.
TOWARDS A GOOD CONCERN
"Have the courage to be wrong."
HEGEL
Culture has taught us to wear an invisible but painful club with which we are beaten
Every time we are wrong or we do not reach personal goals. We have learned to cast
Blame for almost everything we do wrong and to doubt our responsibility when
We do it well. If we fail, we say: "It depended on me"; If we succeed: "It was
pure luck". What kind of education is this, where we are taught to become
Responsible for the bad and not for the good? Self-criticism is good and productive if
Do it carefully. In the short term it can be used to generate new behaviors, but if
Uses indiscriminately and dogmatically, generates stress and is fatal to our self-concept.
The bad habit of permanently doing "inner cultural revolutions" is
A form of psychological suicide.
Some people, by having an inadequate self-evaluation system, acquire the "vice"
Of negatively speaking all over. Hanging posters with categories
General. Instead of saying, "I behaved awkwardly," they say, "I'm clumsy." They use
The "I am useless" instead of "I was wrong" in this or that thing. Self-punishment has been
Wrongly considered a way to produce appropriate behaviors.
How do you get a negative self-concept? A typical way is through self-criticism
Excessive. Humans use internal standards, that is, internalized goals and criteria
(Learned) about excellence and inadequacy. These standards emerge
Of the system of beliefs, values and needs that we possess. A high self-demand will produce
High and rigid operating standards. However, while it is important to maintain
Relative personal exigency levels, or moderately high to be competent, the "short circuit"
Occurs when these levels are irrational, too high and unreachable. The irrational idea
That I must emphasize in almost everything that I do, that I must be the best at all costs and
Which should not be mistaken, are imperatives that become unbearable. Put of
Absolute way to happiness in goals, is to remove it from your personal domain. So yes
The goal is not reached, the world is over. The poet Runbeck once said: "Happiness
It is not the season to be reached, but a way to travel. "
People who make success a value, who are extremely competitive and handle
Rigid standards of execution, travel poorly. They have mounted the wrong car.
Perhaps happiness is not to be the best seller, the best mom, or the best child,
But to try it honestly and calmly, enjoying it while traveling to the
goal. An exaggerated level of self-demand generates strict patterns of self-evaluation.
If you have strict criteria for self-evaluation, you will always have the feeling of inadequacy.
Your body will begin to secrete more adrenaline than normal and anxiety will interfere with
The performance needed to reach the goals. You will enter the vicious circle of
Who aspire every day more and have every day less.
Irrational standards will make your behavior never enough. Despite your
Efforts, the goals will be unreachable. When you feel incapable, your self-assessment will be
negative. This feeling of ineffectiveness and the inability to control the situation
You will experience stress and anxiety, which in turn will affect your performance away from you
More and more of the goals.
People trapped in this trap become depressed, lose control over
Their own behavior and unfailingly fail. Precisely what they wanted to avoid! For
High, this "no escape" situation, of frustration and uncontrollability, leads them
Self-criticism and self-punishment; They become victims of their own invention.
The consequence of this kind of short circuit blender is the loss of self-concept
And depression. The more you do of "winning" a value, paradoxically more destined
You're missing out.
Sometimes people can show rational goals for an unprepared observer.
However, exaggerated self-demand is measured in terms of the possibilities of each
one. If you do not have the skills or resources to achieve the goals, the aspiration
The simpler it becomes unattainable. In these cases, resignation and objective reassessment
And frank of your goals and resources is the solution. Unfortunately, if we do not win, we tie.
If you are too self-demanding and self-critical, you will use a dichotomous style. This wants
To say, extremes. Things will only be white or black, good or bad. You will see the
Reality with a kind of binoculars where the middle tones, the nuances and the tonalities
they do not exist. "I am successful or I am unsuccessful." Absurd. There is nothing absolute. It all depends
Of the glass to look at. If you apply this binary processing style, no doubt
The catastrophe will come. You will refer to yourself in categorical and inflexible terms,
As ever, always, everything and nothing. These words should be suspended from our
Be considered "bad words". The only thing they generate is confusion and misunderstanding.
Unsurprisingly, if you earnestly desire success, power, and prestige, you will fear
failure. This fear will make you focus more on the bad things that
The good ones, in order to "prevent" the mistakes you so fear. In other words,
You will develop a maladaptive targeting style aimed at seeing in yourself
Only bad. This will lead you to ignore the approximations to the goal, as well as the
Efforts and small ascents that you make in the staircase towards your personal achievements.
If you relate the above to the dichotomous style, then it is clear that such approaches
To the goal go unnoticed: "I arrive, or I do not arrive" "I am, or I am not in the goal".
The worst way to treat you is with impatience and contempt. For wanting to see the tree does not
You will see the forest. Negative self-observation, like self-evaluation and self-punishment,
Generates stress, diminishes performance, mistreats the ego and, in the long run, affects
selfconcept.
The use of extremely rigid, perfectionist and irrational standards increases the
Distance between your ideal self (what you would like to do or be) and your real self what really
You do or you are). The greater the distance between the two, the less likely to reach
Your goal, more frustration and more feelings of insecurity in the face of useless efforts
By approaching the supposed "happiness".
If someone courageously makes the difficult decision to "travel well", the pressure
Is inexorable and cruel. If, in addition, the goal does not coincide with the values
Of the reference group, the level of sanction can actually become intolerable.
Those objectives that distance themselves from economic production are seen as synonymous
Of vagrancy, bohemia or idealism. If we change goals, we are labeled as immature or unstable,
As if stability existed and was a symbol of intelligence. A quick look
To the people who have made the history of mankind shows that some instability
And dissatisfaction are essential conditions for living intensely. Absolute stability
does not exist. It is an invention of those who fear change. The famous "maturity", taken
To the letter, is the prelude to the decomposition. Blind blindly to your own standards
Or external is to restrict your freedom to think. You would lose the ability to make decisions and
Objective criticism. Do not be afraid to review, change or modify your goals if they are a source
Of suffering, even if your neighbors do not like it.
The important thing then is not only to discover that you are self-demanding, but to be able to modify
The standards. To achieve this you can not be too "stable" or too
"structured". You need a pinch of non-sanity (not to mention madness). People
Mentally rigid, self-critical and strict with themselves are normative persons.
They usually lock themselves in a jail made by themselves and the educational environment, whose
Bars are a set of virtues and values that are not always rational, of which they can not
escape. They struggle between good and evil. In general, these subjects are more Papist
Than the Pope. They have placed so many conditions and requirements to move in life, that
The road becomes too narrow and narrow to walk comfortably through it.
They hit with walls of self-criticism and should at every step. Others, however,
They cross a real comfortable and calm highway. The style of "beating" and
Punishment is not precisely the best ground for a self-concept to germinate and thrive
Without feet of mud. Being flexible is, without a doubt, a virtue of intelligent people.
But, as I pointed out earlier, to avoid something that we think is bad, we do
Something worse. By avoiding being a "weathercock", we define a goal and jam (some do
A kind of welding) the rudder to it. Absurdly we sacrifice the right
To change our minds and we are wrong, for the apparent safety of traveling on a route
Unchangeable We mistakenly consider that it is the only and best way to walk by
El Mundo
Like a grotesque cartoon, very self-critical people put on a shirt
Strength to not get mad, and the result, paradoxically, is the psychological imbalance.
You should definitely try to be less hard on yourself.
Saving self-concept
Let's see a guide that can serve to safeguard your self-concept of indiscriminate self-punishment.
1. Try to be more flexible, both with others and with you
Do not use the extreme dichotomous criterion to evaluate reality, including yourself.
Do not think in absolutist terms: there is nothing totally good or bad. Remember that
You must have tolerance for things to get out of the lane sometimes. If you are inflexible
In your things, you will clash violently with reality; She is not total or definitive.
Learn to endure, to personify and to understand your rigidity as a defect, not as a virtue.
Rigid things are less malleable, do not stand too much and break. If you're
Normative, perfectionist, intolerant and too conservative, you will not know what to do with
lifetime. She is not like that. The vast majority of everyday events will give you stress,
Because they are not like you would like them to be. Concentrate for a week or two on the
Nuances Do not rush to categorize strictly. Stop and think if you really
What you say is true. Check your way of pointing and pointing. Do not be drastic.
Find around you people to whom you have already cataloged and dedicate yourself to question
Your lettering. Look for evidence against, discover the nuances. When you evaluate, avoid
Use words as always, never, all or nothing. Do not label people, you included,
With totalities. As a leading psychologist said, it is not the same to say: "Robó
Once, "to say," He is a thief. " People are not "they", they simply
They behave. Intransigence generates hate and malaise. It's time for you to go back
Your rigidity.
to. Let yourself not be so normative. That will not make you a delinquent. If you have five days
To pay an account, pay the fifth, and if there is no legal risk, the sixth or seventh.
Do not always arrive early. Step on the grass Try to scream in a library. Be more
Informal one day, to see what happens.
B. Try not to be a perfectionist. Disorganize your schedules, your rites, your travels, you
Way of ordering things, etc. He lives with the disorder for a week. Fear him.
C. No rotules, nor autorrotules. Try to be benign. He speaks only in terms of behavior.
D. Concentrate on the nuances. Think more about alternatives and exceptions to
rule. Life is composed of shades rather than whites and blacks.
and. Listen to people who think differently than you. This does not imply that you must necessarily
Change your mind, just listen. Let the information enter and then decide.
Remember: if you are inflexible and rigid with the world and people, you will end up being so
with you.
2. Check your goals and the real possibilities to reach them
Do not put unattainable goals. Exert yourself according to your possibilities
And skills. If you find yourself trying to climb some Mount Everest, or change mountains
Or enjoy the ride. When defining a goal, you must also define the steps
Or the subgoals. Try to enjoy, "paladea1" the climb each step, as if it were
Of a goal by itself. Do not wait until you reach the end to rest and enjoy.
Search for intermediate stations. Lose time on this. Write your goals, review them, question them
And discard those that are not vital. Life is too short to waste. Remember,
If your goals are unattainable, you will live frustrated and bitter.
Do not self-observe only bad
If you only focus on your mistakes, you will not see your achievements. If you only see what you see
Lack, you will not enjoy the moment, the here and now. "If you cry for the sun, you will not see
The stars ", Do not be aware of your failures as a radar. Accommodate your attention
Also to the appropriate behaviors. When you find yourself focusing negatively on
Obsessive way, stops.
Do not think badly about yourself
Be more benign with your actions. Fortunately you are not perfect. Do not insult yourself or reprimand yourself.
Keep track of your negative self-assessments. It detects which are fair, moderate
And objective. If you discover that the lexicon to yourself is offensive, change it. Search for qualifications
Constructive Reduce your self-verbalizations to what are really worth it. Exercises
The right to be wrong. Humans, like animals, learn from
Trial-error. Some people believe that human learning must be trial-success.
That's a lie. The cost of growing up as a human being is to err and "screw up".
This universal law is inescapable. Saying, "I do not want to be wrong," is to make a
Tantrum and a tantrum for children. It is impossible not to be wrong, as it is that there is no acceleration
Of gravity. Mistakes do not make you better or worse, just get dressed. Just remember you
That you are human. When we talk about your Self-efficacy we will return to the fear of making mistakes.
Let's recap and clarify. Moderate self-criticism, objective self-observation,
Constructive self-evaluation and having rationally high goals are necessary behaviors.
Very possibly they have collaborated in the adaptation of the human being. These processes are not bad
In themselves, depends on how they are used and where they are aimed. Poorly used,
Rigid, hard, destructive and compulsive way, affect the self-concept. Used properly
Serve as an encouraging guide.
Socially speaking, he has not been taught to make good use of them. We are introduced
Ruthless self-criticism as a value and as the key to success; But possibly
By ignorance, we have not been alerted on its possible consequences. Avoiding
An end, undoubtedly pernicious (poverty of spirit, laziness, failure,
Being "little" and having no goals in life), has taken the pendulum toward the
Another, equally harmful and harmful.
Our culture seems to prefer psychologically disturbed but successful people,
To psychologically healthy but unsuccessful people. However, success here is secondary.
No use if you can not enjoy it. Dissatisfaction with oneself
Achievements and excessive ambition act as an engine, but, because of over-accelerated operation,
Usually burns early. You are a special machine within the known universe, no
The mistreatment Demand yourself, but within reasonable limits. Do not deny yourself.
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Thank you Mr Vice President.
The ECLJ thanks the Special Rapporteur for her Report on Non Formal Education,
and for her invitation to show more flexibility in this area.
As highlited in this Report, the right to education is enshrined in international law as belonging primarily to the parents.
This competence is based in natural law on their responsability but also on the freedom of
conscience and religion of the parents. They should be able to raise their children according to their own convictions.
The ECLJ wishes to draw the Council's attention to certain violations against Non Formal Eductation which
is considered as such as soon as the lessons are not officialy organized by the State.
Today, in Europe, several countries drastically restrict any Non Formal Education and impose
to all children the same formal education.
Parents are thus forced to register their children in public schools even if they wished to educate them themselves.
In Germany, a faillure to comply with this obligation is punished by a fine and a prison sentence.
This is a violation of the freedom of education of the parents and to the right to education of the children,
who could often benefit from a more personalized education.
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a teaching of a sufficiant quality.
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sometimes lower than that provided by Non Formal settings.
In France, while about 20% of pupils of 12 years of age who went to public schools do not know to read properly,
the State prohibits parents from setting up non formal school by gathering to educate their children.
The ECLJ invites the Council to better guarantee the freedom of parents to choose the most appropriate
form of education of their choice and to recall that responsability for a good education lies upon all actors,
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Thank you Mr Vice President.
The ECLJ thanks the Special Rapporteur for his report on the contemporary forms of racism,
but regrets that a precise contemporary form of racism be not mentioned: the "scientific racism" of eugenics.
At the origin of racism, there is the idea that some groups of people
are worth less than others because of their physical characteristics.
With scientific progress, some even developed the idea of an evolution of the human species,
evolution having resulted in the existence of individuals and human groups less evolved than others.
These theories generated racism and eugenics and the idea that humankind can be improved
thanks to the progress of genetics and through the selection and voluntary elimination of groups deemed
"inferiors" as well as through their demographic containment.
Racism today finds its justification in eugenics, and it is vain to pretend to fight one without the other.
One cannot despise a person, and refuse her the right to live because she has a different chromosome or gene, deemed "inferior".
The inherent and equal dignity of all human beings must be defended, whatever their genetic heritage.
Mister Rapporteur, you cannot mention twenty-six times the word "Nazi" in your report,
as for them eugenics and racism were but one scientist ideology, without denouncing
the contemporary eugenics which takes the form of prenatal manipulation and genetic selection of human beings.
The ECLJ urges you to condemn this eugenics, notably the new non-invasive test of prenatal diagnostic
of Down syndrome, which allows the detection and elimination of the majority of trisomic children:
yet these children can live a long and happy life.
Mr. Rapporteur, the true danger of racism in the XXIst century is not only the few neo-Nazi groups,
it is the eugenics ideology and the selection that numerous human beings endure
because of their genetic heritage, with the help of States and modern technics. Thank you.
Thank you very much.
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and organize the content of your exam into edible chunks instead of leaving everything
until the last minute.
Half of your grade translates to your organization during revision and if you divided the material
in a way that enabled you to actually study everything before the exam.
If you want to know how I usually divide my time for multiple exams you can check my video,
which will be listed on the right upper corner of the video and down in the description box.
Instead of starting with easier chapters and information which makes me feel at-ease, I
force myself to confront all of the content that I'm having trouble with first, even
if that means jumping around between different chapters.
This is a fool-proof way to make sure that, as soon as I start revising from the start,
I will never feel hindered or frustrated when I reach certain parts of my notes, since that
previous, initial effort has already been made.
That results in a smoother revision and also reinforces knowledge on concepts that may
be present throughout other chapters.
When I'm feeling rushed and pressured to cover a lot of material in a short period
of time, I always have a tendency to only scratch the surface of whatever I am studying,
not delving deep enough into the contents of the material I'm revising.
Asking questions about the information I am reading, as well as researching other sources
of evidence and having attention to detail, increases my knowledge on the subject exponentially,
and that results in an improved flow of thought and, consequently, in better results.
Although you should delve deep into the research of your exam material, it's important to
know how to condense all that information into quick, easy-to-read outlines or guides.
If you've been subscribed for a long time you know that I always mention these as a
holy grail during exam season.
Having these stripped-down notes allows you to access all information you need to know
by topics, understanding the connections between concepts and easily visualize all the content
you need to learn and explain, without having to pick up your textbooks again from page
1 and look at what you've highlighted.
Having simple guides as substitutes for larger sources of information saves you a lot of
time before an exam, since as soon as you start going through all of your content you
will find out that you have now time for multiple revisions instead of just one which implied
having to shift through endless pages, searching for the highlights.
This is my number one tip for anyone who has trouble memorizing information.
Studies show that, when people studied a list by reading half of the words silently and
the other half by saying the words out loud, the words spoken aloud were remembered much
better than those that were read silently.
That is called the production effect.
The words you speak aloud are now translated into speech and you have knowledge of producing
the items as well as a memory of hearing them.
As such speaking out loud, as if you were presenting or explaining the subject to a
friend, improves memory retention, structures your arguments and usage of concepts and overall
develops your knowledge and perception of the subject.
I hope you have enjoyed this video!
Since we are reaching Back-to-School season, I wanted to announce that I will be uploading
twice a week from the middle of July to the middle of September.
I will cover all the essentials and everything you need to know to get organized for the
next school year or college semester.
Since it was so requested, I will also be uploading various printables and a whole free
planner in a new platform during the summer so you can access various files and documents
to help you get started on the road to organisation.
If you are looking forward to that, don't forget to click the subscribe button and I
will see you next week.
Bye!
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BMW X1 2.0I SDRIVE HIGH EXECUTIVE AUT8 , Sportleer, NaviPro, Xenon, Full - Duration: 0:57.
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Odstojniki do miodu nierdzewne serii CLASSIC i PREMIUM - Duration: 2:13.
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Honda CR-Z 1.5 I-VTEC IMA SPORT , Navi, ECC, LMV - Duration: 1:03.
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"TOXIC" - Britney Spears // Acoustic Male Cover by Daniel Lowe - Duration: 4:43.
Baby, can't you see I'm calling
A guy like you Should wear a warning
It's dangerous I'm fallin'
There's no escape I can't wait
I need a hit Baby, give me it
You're dangerous I'm lovin' it
Too high Can't come down
Losing my head Spinning 'round and 'round
Do you feel me now
Taste of your lips I'm on a ride
You're toxic I'm slipping under Taste of a poison paradise
I'm addicted to you Don't you know that you're toxic
And I love what you do Don't you know that you're toxic
It's getting late To give you up
I took a sip From my devil's cup
Slowly It's taking over me
Too high Can't come down
Losing my head Spinning 'round and 'round
Do you feel me now
Taste of your lips I'm on a ride
You're toxic
I'm slipping under Taste of a poison paradise
I'm addicted to you Don't you know that you're toxic
Man, I love what you do Don't you know that you're toxic
Taste of your lips I'm on a ride
You're toxic I'm slipping under With a taste of a poison paradise
I'm addicted to you Don't you know that you're toxic
And I love what you do Don't you know that you're toxic
Intoxicate me now With your lovin' now
I think I'm ready now I think I'm ready now
Intoxicate me now I think I'm ready now
I think I'm ready, yeahhh
Intoxicate me now Intoxicate me now!
Intoxicate me now, I think I'm ready now, Intoxicate me now...
Hey guys I'm Daniel and thankyou for watching my cover of "Toxic".
If you loved what I did, please check out my other videos and be sure to subscribe,
like, comment and share.
You can also check out my Patreon page, which is in the description if you'd like to support
me there.
Thankyou so much for watching, bye!
And I will always love you I, I'll always love you...
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Iclal&Mert + Elmas&Aslan {Rockabye} - Duration: 4:10.
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agar.io Revival quest - Self feeding lag and making a large spawner cell - Duration: 3:22.
[Back to our quest to revive agar.io]
[One teamer taken down! 🙌]
[and some self-feeding kills]
[Trying to split-kill spider, but actually got eaten by ambushing.]
[4500 mass reached taking thewse teamers down!]
[funny team was ambushed by teamers. And with all my luck, he splits in 8 and I defeat ity and every nearby teamer and my mass is now 16143! 🙌]
[I attack a cell spit in 16 but he transfers his mass quckly enough to take me down.
[Self-feeding to eat the teamer...]
[Don't move the virus in my big piece!. Let it hit the teamer!]
[ANTI-~TEAMING! 😡😡, Trying to abort ASAP!
I am going to give 4500 to tjhis spawnr cell because I hate anti-teaming hitting solo players
[Feeding my self with my spawner cell, I end up with my spawner cell eaten by the teamer. This revelates me to eat the cell trapped inside a giant spawner cell with a virus]
[This is just one of our attempts to send agar.io back to life. Now just before any teamer overlaps my giant spawner cell, I will attempt to virus them, trying not to get eaten by the expansion
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Presidents Moon, Trump agree to establish peace on Korean peninsula and achieve economic - Duration: 2:50.
President Moon Jae-in, on his first trip to the U.S. since elected South Korea's president
in May, and First Lady Kim Jeong-sook joined U.S. President Donald Trump and his wife for
dinner in the White House State Dining Room.
That dinner has just wrapped up.
For details, our chief Blue House correspondent Moon Connyoung is live in Washington for us.
Connyoung, I think it's something that many around the world had been curious about.
How was the two presidents' first handshake?
Well, Mark.
Perhaps to the disappointment of many who had hoped to see a grand drama play out there
was no handshake fiasco, no bizarre photo op moment.
The very first meeting between South Korean President Moon Jae-in and his U.S. counterpart
Donald Trump took off in a pleasant manner with a warm welcome.
Mr. Trump and his wife greeted South Korea's first couple at the White House South Lawn
Entrance.
Before the closed-to-the-media dinner, the U.S. president hinted at how engaging he expects
the discussion to be... saying that "it could be very well into the evening."
And, it was.
The first intro meeting between Presidents Moon and Trump lasted over two hours, half
an hour longer than initially planned.
Another curiosity.
Was the dinner menu anything out of the ordinary?
Well, we could say that.
Over a nicely prepared course meal and definitely carefully selected menu - the main dish of
the evening being Korean traditional dish, Bibimbap made with South Carolina-produced
long grains - the two leaders agreed to together establish peace on the Korean peninsula and
achieve economic prosperity based on steadfast South Korea, U.S. alliance.
According to the South Korean president's press secretary, the two leaders exchanged
ideas on various issues ranging from North Korea's nuclear programme to economic relations.
Meanwhile,, I want to point out...
President Trump just minutes ago tweeted that he just wrapped up a good meeting with South
Korean president and that the two discussed many things including North Korea and a *new
trade deal.
I asked Mr. Moon's press team about this *new trade deal... but they avoided giving a clear
answer alluding to a possible announcement by the two leaders after their official bilateral
summit Friday morning, local time.
MArk.
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NO DEEP FRY SABUDANA/SAGO VADA WITH ROASTED PEANUTS AND SPIACH - Duration: 2:40.
hey guys welcome to cook with Nancy another episode today we are going to
make a simple and easy quick recipe it's a sabudana vada also known as a sago vada
this is no deep frying so don't be concerned
it's very minimum oil that's used it can be as a breakfast or as a snack
let's get started with the ingredients here I'm using 1 cup of sago or
sabudana that is soaked overnight 6 to 8 hours and drain the water I have 2
medium sized potato oil and finely grated you have to make sure it's finely
grated we don't want any kind of big lumps we have 2 finely chopped spring
onion 2 tbsp cilantro finely chopped and I have a 3/4 cup of spinach finely
chopped I have one tablespoon lemon juice chilli as per your taste I am just
using one chilli use as per your taste 3/4 a cup of roasted peanut that is
grounded I bought roasted peanut from store and that's just grounded it I'm using
salt as per my taste and one tablespoon of brown sugar now mix you
can also use white sugar it's okay now mix them until it comes together to make
a soft dough to form soft dough once that is done set it aside and wash your hand
let's get started with the ball now I'm just greasing my palm with little the oil and
start making a small sized ball then I'm using appa pan so I'm making the size
as per my pan continue to do this with all the mixture that you have and we go
ahead and fry this I am done with all those now this is the pan that I'm
talking about this is appa pan it's very famous In india you can find if
amazon so add little bit of oil in the cavity and then place the prepared balls
in there I'll keep flipping after every 5 minutes so that it gets nice and brown
you can see it's nice and browned it's very crisp from outside and soft from
inside once that is done just go ahead and serve in our serving plate with your
favorite chutney i am using green chutney it's the cilantro and mint chutney
so soft inside as you can see it's so simple guys and so easy if you
liked this recipe please do subscribe to my channel and please leave any comments
and likes I will see you soon in my next video with new recipe till then take
care and bye bye guys
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[ENGSUB] Let's Only Walk The Flower Road EP 4 (Idol Drama Operation) - Duration: 11:36.
[4th Episode: PICK ME] Welcome all of you to "The Five!"
Is there any member who wants to say before you start competition?
OK, Moon Byeol. Please go ahead.
From today, I will rap in the competition.
Will you compete as a rapper?
Good. Let me announce that Moon Byeol will compete as a rapper.
It's time to present you their first performance.
Let's wait and see how Moon Byeol's challenge will end.
Who will be the final members of "The Five?"
Everyone, please stay tuned till the end.
"The Five!" It's show time!
You are the next one, right?
Don't feel pressure, Sohee. Way to go!
Did you call me by name? I was born early in 1995.
I put up with it since we were a team. Now I hope you act politely.
I've been trying so hard to become one of the five.
I can't allow friendship to get in my way.
Eun-ae, sorry for giving the cold shoulder to you.
- Hey, Sohee was born early in 1995. Early in 1995? She's "quick" Sohee.
- What if she got kicked out? - She's not QUICK but KICK Sohee.
- I think she will not be able to debut. - Right, poor thing.
5, 4, 3, 2, 1!
SMS voting is just over.
They have been in a fierce competition.
What's the final result?
Let me announce the result.
Out of the seven girls, who will be the final members of "The Five?"
Let me announce it now.
The first one to join "The Five" is...
Congratulations, Seulgi!
Congratulations! You're the first one to join "The Five".
Your face looks like you can't believe this.
Let me sincerely congratulate you.
Now, it's time to announce the second one.
Who is the second one to join "The Five?"
Congratulations.
That's...
Moon Byeol!
Congratulations. Moon Byeol is the second member of "The Five".
Your performance was unique. It produced a great result.
The third member is...
Everyone is looking down and waiting for the result.
The third member of "The Five".
Congratulations! YooA!
It's YooA.
Congratulations.
It seems that she is sorry for others.
Let's move on to the fourth member.
Four of them are anxiously waiting for the result.
The fourth member of "The Five" is...
Su-Jeong!
Su-Jeong is the fourth member of "The Five".
Now we have three contenders.
Only one will debut.
From now on, I'll open this red envelope.
It has the name of the fifth member.
In front of you, I will open this red envelope.
You've done a great job.
The last member of "The Five"
is this one, out of the three candidates.
Let me announce.
The last member of "The Five" is...
Eun-ae! Congratulations!
Eun-ae is the last member of "The Five".
Five members are decided like this.
Two of you will be eliminated.
You will debut earlier than us. Congratulations, everyone.
I will continue to practice as a trainee.
But Somi decided to quit.
Sorry, Sohee.
I should have not talked to you.
It's not because of you. Don't blame yourself, Eun-ae.
Don't worry about it. I'm fine.
Somi.
I'm afraid if you can adjust well, because you don't talk much.
In fact, I tried not to talk much to prevent making mistakes.
I really wanted to quit.
But I was able to endure thanks to you girls.
But... this doesn't seem to be right.
We had to compete and survive.
I'm sick and tired of it. I will join another company.
Thank you for your help so far. Good luck.
Don't cry.
A farewell to friends. That is the hardest part.
We practiced together. We relied on each other.
We ran toward the same dream.
Now we have to forget about
our past memories and future dreams.
Girls, let's drink beer. I'll buy. What do you think?
Will you keep doing this? Chin up!
We finally made it. Let's cheer up.
We made it? Cheer up?
It seems kind of wrong to me.
- What's your point? Quit together? - I didn't mean it.
- What did you talk about with the CEO? - What?
Byeol, did you talk with the CEO behind us?
What do you want to say?
Didn't he talk you into being a rapper, promising your debut?
Cat got your tongue? Is it true?
Never.
Then what? Tell us. Why did you change your position?
Why? Why did I change? You know nothing about me.
[Episode 5 will be aired on 11AM tomorrow]
- Is this what you wrote? - Yes.
- Too old-fashioned. - I spent 3 days for this.
- Too old-fashioned. - 3 days... - Sorry.
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Going for a walk - Duration: 1:06.
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Blaise Matuidi in 'regular contact' with Man Utd, talks also held with Arsenal - Duration: 3:00.
Blaise Matuidi in 'regular contact' with Man Utd, talks also held with Arsenal - report
The Paris Saint-Germain midfielder has been heavily linked with a move to the Premier League this summer. Matuidi, 30, has just 12 months remaining on his contract at the Parc des Princes. Reports claimed this month that talks over a contract extension at PSG was verbally agreed, but they have since broken down following the arrival of new sporting director Antero Henrique. And his father Faria admitted his son will explore other options with his contract ticking down. Jose Mourinho is keen to sign a defensive midfielder as he wants to bring in a long-term replacement for Michael Carrick, who is in the twilight years of his career. Manchester United are in regular contact with Paris Saint-Germain midfielder Blaise Matuidi Matuidi could fit the bill as the Portuguese boss wants to allow Paul Pogba to venture further forward next season. And French outlet PSG United claim regular contact with United has been made. But Manchester United will face competition from Premier League rivals Arsenal as they have apparently held discussions with the former Saint-Etienne man. However, his agent Mino Raiola wants his client to sign for Juve despite Italy not being Matudis first choice. The France international was all for staying at PSG until Patrick Kluivert and Olivier Letang left the club this summer. But Matuidis father revealed his son now has mixed emotions about remaining at the club. Speaking to Le Parisien, he said: "A few weeks ago, Blaise was more interested in staying at PSG.
"Now the situation is much more mixed. PSG, and in particular their new sporting director [Antero Henrique], have been slow to reveal their intentions.
"For that reason we're listening attentively to the advances of other clubs. "There's a feeling, rightly or wrongly, that everything said [by PSG] in the past few months is now part of ancient history..
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Jaguar XF Sportbrake 2018 | Sospensioni Posteriori Pneumatiche Autolivellanti - Duration: 0:32.
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Nishkam Seva Glendale Gurdwara Open House-Glendale, AZ - June 25 '17 - Duration: 38:17.
Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fatel good afternoon everyone my name is Harkanwal Singh
and actually I'm a native Arizonan. I was born and raised here and I'm also
a Sikh American. The entire Sikh congregation would like to welcome you
to our home today. This is our place of worship and we sincerely are grateful to
you for taking the time to come here on such a hot summer day. I think what is it
110 -115 and we really appreciate the effrt that you guys made, So the Sikh
religion was founded by guru nanak in the punjab region of india and roughly
five hundred years ago his message was that all people are created equal and we should
exercise tolerance and respect for people of all backgrounds and faiths
deep exemplified true interfaith acceptance at a time and place where this
was not the convention. He did not attempt to convert followers of other
faiths but rather he urged them to explore their inner meanings of their
own religious philosophies and beliefs. In essence he felt that the various
spiritual paths are like the different spokes on a wheel and they all led to the
same Center which is a fundamental truth. He was therefore opposed to the idea
that sikhs or anyone else could consider so spiritually superior to any other
group thus it follows that sikhs do not attempt to convert adherents of other
faiths. In fact the Guru Granth sahib which is our holy book that you see us bowing
down to as we enter actually contains writings of wise thinkers of other
faiths in addition to the writings of our own leaders and spiritual leaders
For us the writings that are contained in this holy book are the
embodiment of spiritual wisdom the Sikh religious commitment to equality and
justice is cemented in our Sikh identity the turban which covers the sikhs uncut
hair is a representation of these balance as such the turban is a sikh
crown and an article of faith that represents part of the equality,
freedom, and justice for all. I'd like to share some basic information about the
sikh thing. Sikhism you may not know is the fifth largest religion in the world
and the world's third largest monotheistic faith we believe in an
omnipresent formless God whom we commonly refer to as Waheguru. We
regard men and women as equal in all spheres of life,. The concept of
gender equality is central tenet of the Sikh faith. Sikh woman can do
prayer service and participate in every aspect of life equal to men. We also
believe in equality amongst all human beings regardless of their race or caste
and the freedom to choose and practice religion freely is that the foundation
of Sikhism,. We believe there are many paths to God and many avenues to seek
truth. We are expected to perform selfless service which we call Seva and
we're expected to share with those who are less fortunate than ourselves and
just to let you know 99% of turban wearing Americans that you may see are
Sikh and it represents, the turban that is, our commitment to protect and stand
up for the values of equality and justice for all.
A little information about the gurdwara,
the prayer hall that we're sitting in today the one Gurdwara like we are
sitting in today were founded as places where the, Sangat, the Sikh
religious congregation could come together as a community to worship. We do
this worship by reciting and reflecting upon the hymns contained in the Guru
Granth sahib, our Holy Scripture book. People from all walks of life are
welcome to attend or observe our religious services in the Gurdwara. the
Sikh religious service is centered on the singing of these hymns, which we
call this kirtan and it ends with us sharing a meal together as a
community called LANGAR. As you will notice the kirtan or the singing of the
Hymns is traditionally accompanied by a harmonium, which you see here which is an
accordion like a keyboard instrument and drums, Indian drums which are called TABLAs
which you can see there,, the Guru Granth Sahib or sikh scripture is the embodiment of
spiritual authority for our faith as such we bow down to it as the Word of
God. The PALKI or canopy above the holy book signifies respect of its authority
and this practice is actually rooted in traditional treatment of kings in
India. Likewise the CHAUR or the flowing whisks that you see the gentleman waving
its waved over the Guru Granth Sahib to indicate its sovereignty and at the end
of the service before the community meals evening we also share the
KARAH PRASHAD which is the service of sweet pudding and it's offered to all
and eaten as the acceptance of the sweetness of God's work. So I'd like to
now introduce Anjaleen Kaur who's a Sikh awareness advocate and has been very
active and helping to put this event together. So I ask her to come up
please
Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh So when we first put this event in our head
before trying to put together the open house we thought maybe we'll get 20 or
30 people to attend. so I am so thrilled to see this room full of people who are
wanting to learn and experience this event. so thank you all for attending
our open house today. We're very fortunate to have many special guests
with us today as well so I wanted to take a minute to recognize that please stand
and remain standing as I call your name Paul Penzone, Maricopa County Sheriff
Ana Armendarez, Senator John McCain's staff, Kate Gallego, Phoenix
councilmember, Deborah Stark Phoenix councilmember, Ryan Winkle Mesa
councilmember, Benjamin Bratt water conservation board, Philip Mariner
special detective liasion Phoenix Police Department, Mini Hernandez
sergeant of the Phoenix Police Department
Chris detective phoenix police department, Marchelle Franklin
director of community affairs phoenix police Department, Tom Myers lieutenant
Scottsdale Police Department Chris Castle community liaison to the
Scottsdale Police Department, rabbi jeremy schneider
immediate past president of the board of rabbis grreater phoenix
lieutenant colonel Wayne Webb assistant director Arizona Department of Public
Safety and very long executive director governor's office of equal opportunity
a few guest speakers our first speaker is Phoenix Mayor Greg Stanton and the
mayor Stanton has been a big advocate for the Sikh religion last year
decided the Vaisakhi Proclamation of celebrating recognizing the contribution
of sikhs in our Phoenix community. Mayor Stanton may I please ask you
to come to the podium. thank you.
thank you so much it is my honor to be here representing myself and Councilman
Kate Gallego, I think she is in the back also to be here on this beautiful
national day of community outreach that the Sikh community has been kind enough
to invite myself and so many members of the community
this Sikh community representing the values of equality and being kind to
everyone treating everyone as equal. I think we need more sikhs run, need to
run for public office pleas with their views and values, ....We are blessed in our city, I
signed the proclamation last year because I've seen firsthand how blessed
we are to have so many in the Sikh community in Phoenix in the valley
that's five or six thousand maybe growing at a very very fast pace five
hundred thousand to six hundred thousand across the United States of America and
we are a better city and a better country because of the presence of so many in
the Sikh community. I've been blessed to see it firsthand I worked with a lot of
different people as Mayor of the City of Phoenix in when I have a chance to
interact with the Sikh community and i am inspired, because the community cares so
much not just about other members of the Sikh community but also about the
community as a whole so many charitable acts roll up the sleeves get
involved in the community knowing that on occasion too often the Sikh community
is misunderstood and people have their work sometimes stereotyped sometimes
negative stereotypes and those are handled with such dignity and grace and
class by members of the Sikh community least that's my experience and of course
after the tragic murder of Balbir Singh Sodhi
after 9/11 you know there was a lot of tension, Sikh community how would they
respond and what I saw was just incredible in terms of the grace and
class and forgiveness and love in community that was shown by the Sikh
community and it taught me and some of the other members in the community
important lessons about how we should treat our fellow human beings and I'm so
glad to be here last time I was here was unfortunately after the tragedy in the
Sikh community in Wisconsin, we had a beautiful prayer session right here and
a beautiful meal in the hall afterwards of course I have not been back since, and I'm so glad
that you invited me and leaders of the city's community to be here for this
national day of community outreach. So its incumbent upon all of us, sikh
community members or not to let our community
know what a beautiful faith this is.What beautiful people are members of the Sikh
community and that hate has no place in our community, I know the sikh community
better than anyone else understands that if they were victimized by hate and have always
responded with love and I'm inspired by that so thank you for having me here
today thank you for opening up this beautiful
building for the entire community so we can celebrate the Sikh community here in
the City of Phoenix
sorry I am vertically challenged
Thank You mayor Stanton and I also just want to add that mayor Stanton's team has been a big
advocate of the WE ARE SIKHS campaign and has been sharing it publicly,
they have it on their social media so thank you so much for that, next we have
is vice mayor of Scottsdale Suzanne Klapp to come up and speak and I
also want to share that Mayor Jim Lane of Scottsdale also cited Vaisakhi proclamation
last year celebrating the recognizing
the work of sikhs in the Scottsdale community
I'm very honored to be here representing the City of Scottsdale and the City
Council I have to admit that I know very little about the Sikh faith but I did
look up some things to familiarize myself with what you believe and all of
it is roughly where I go again so we have a lot of common ground I
understand that your major tenets are colonies and freedom and love and who
couldn't support that. so from my Christian community I feel we
always support that I know not always. I also know that you have made concerted efforts
in the last year to try to familiarize the community with your faith and
what you believe in and I think that this event ceremony here today is a good
testament to the fact that you're succeeding and so you have at least
enlighten me you help me better understand what you are about to better
be able to communicate to other people about what you're about so that is a
great learning experience for me and I'm very grateful that I'm able to be here
and understand exactly how passionate you feel about equality and community so
from the City of Scottsdale and specifically from the City Council
and here representing the mayor Jim Lane, i am so very happy that you invited me
it's a little bit of challenge for me to get up and down I have to tell you
that I missed having to sit down and get up be able to get up at moments notice but other
than that I feel very comfortable being here among you and thank you so much for
the Welcome you've given to me and I should also know that interestingly
enough the gentleman who talked to the outside and brought me in is actually my
neighbor that we have never met, same community of scottsdale moountain
and he was very very close to me so thank you - Parminder Singh
for getting me a little bit more acclimated to what would
be going on today. thank you so much
when we said come out with your neighbor
we literally meant come out and meet our neighbor. our next speaker is congressman David Schweikert
who represents the sixth District which includes most northern, includes most
of northern Phoenix Scottsdale Paradise Valley and CaveCreek, So request congressman
to come out oh and his beautiful daughter
it is a joy to be here um she is very very excited
she loves to pull on the beards and looking around the room it's full of
opportunities.
I may have someone of the unique relationship with this community
tell me if I'm about 20 some years ago four huge sikh gentlemen, I've always said
saved my life. I was in Jaipur heading to Rajasthan, i was in rajsthan, i was
heading to jaisalmer and I was being thrown out of a sleeper car and these four
gentlemen who were all military but they were going on holiday came in took pity
on me explained that I did have the ticket and
then I spent the next three days with them some of the most fun I've ever had
in my life how do I say this pleasantly the pasty white kid from Scottsdale
hanging out with these mountains,you know these officers in the Indian
military and showed me part of Rajasthan part of Jaiselmer that I would never see
until this day two of them are still my friends on Facebook and I think with
what you've had that sort of intimate personal experience when you say that
spending every day sleeping in the same room with the
number of gentlemen you become friends and you also realize that I'm really bad in tying
turbuns and try it over and over but from a policy standpoint also as a member of
Congress I am the person who introduce the legislation several years
ago to make it clear that traditional head wear can be worn in the US military
and you see how far we have come now, Can I beg of you for what you're doing right now
you're doing something incredibly important incredibly honorable the
community needs to understand the incredible love and uniqueness of your
faith and it's more than you know I see a handful of people here the
gentleman here that have been friends for a long time we all those of us who
care those of you who want to tell your story we all need to do more of this to
explain the uniqueness and the elegance because you must admit those amazing
elegance of this thing and we need to go tell that story thank you for letting me
have my wife and my little girl here
this is special for all of us thank you
Thank You congressman and thank you so much for supporting sikhs in armed forces.
next we have senator Kate Brophy McGee she represents district 28 which
includes Paradise Valley parts of Scottsdale in North Phoenix and many of
you may remember her because senator Brophy McGeen jus past April
signed and read Vaisakhi Proclamation on the Senate floor here in Arizona
good morning it is an honor and a privilege to be here a little bit of a
personal story throughout, i am third generatioN Arizonan, i grew up in Bisbee and Tucson
and moved to Phoenix 37 years ago when I met ... my husband and the Sikh
community has always been a part of our story we were bankers and found this
community to be extremely industrious hard-working bright professional
entrepreneurs always seeking to better themselves it was an honor and privilege
to work with Anjali who is indeed a lioness to put together the resolution I
recycled and read it on the floor of the Senate this last session my intention
this upcoming session is to spread that wonderful word and most impactful
message to the house and to the governor's office and tell your story it
was one of the most amazing things events I have ever been involved in in
my life as a legislature legislature your
community exemplifies the high ideals that we as Americans aspire to
love of family love of country love faith loyalty honor all the things all
those aspirations but if we just followed through on it
we truly would be the greatest country in the world even more I enjoy working
with your community I so appreciate your contributions small and large to the
tapestry that is Phoenix distinctiveness Arizona and on behalf of the Arizona
State Senate house and the governor's office I thank you thank you for this
beautful invitation
thank you senator brophy mcgee for being a big advocate of our community and
sharing our message. next up is rev Larry Fultz who is executive
directors of arizona Interfaith rev Larry Fultz
see you're wearing our colors today
Hello - I was really honored to be here today about 20 years ago I came into contact
with the gentleman by the name of dr. sachdev I knew nothing about the Sikh
religion about their faith but you cannot be around dr. Sachdev very long and not
know something and learn quickly because this is one of the greatest
ambassadors of the Sikh religion in the world there can be and then I met Rana and
his family in so many other beautiful sikh people in this community and I can
say it's been a really joy for me to be a participant in all your events
inviting me to these colorful times I'm always impressed by your ministry the
service of Seva, I watched you do this I even videotaped it but most of all
but most of all the signature event in my life is your langar meal tht you provide
for us at our moment of experience interfaith and it's always a beautiful
event I thank you for inviting me here to tonight, i agree with you mayor we are a
better community because of the Sikh community is with us and the senator I
would say that you would agree with me we're a better country because of all
the 600k plus Sikh community members that are with us you give us something that
we need desperately in this country and that's the understanding of how to
love one another talk civily to one another to respect
one another and as a member of the Arizona interfaith movement you are one
of our vibrant members that we cherish thank you for inviting me here god bless
you make this a wonderful event
thank you so much reverend to those kind words in our last speaker is Mary
Anne Weismann national chair of education at the ADL
i am also vertically challenged - thank you so much for inviting us here today
I thank my good friend Rana and Sukhi for having us and for being our friends
we've met Rana through misfortune when his brother was killed and a ADL reached
her brother and instead of being instead, of being bitter he became more of messenger of
peace and well you know if a rabbi hillel the Jewish religion had said that
if I am NOT for myself who will be for me if I am only for myself who am i, if
not now when!. I think what you're doing to me feels like you're building community
across all of us and so that I think for that I thank you so much all of you for
opening your doors and telling us about your beautiful religion and the
way that to build communities is to break down all the walls so thank you so
much again thank you to all of our hosts here and of course Rana and Sukhi and thank you all
so when I said that's our last speaker sorry, I wanted to add
Sheriff Paul Panzone so if you would like to say a few words I think our community would love to hear
from your. Sorry Sherrif to put you on spot.
Obviously my height is not vertically challanged. first my wife Veronica I would like to
thank you for allowing us to be honored with your presence today this is a
wonderful wonderful opportunity for me my first exposure to your community
unfortunately was due to tragedy I was the coordinator of a stop whisp program with
a big Police Department a member of your community was murdered and I would tell
you that in tragedy often times we build relationships and become stronger
although our hearts are heavy and we have to suffer great loss it gives us an
opportunity to truly come together to understand but during those trying time
we truly are one big community with many unique cultures so through that
experience for me in many others I had the chance to visit homes of families
good unfortunately suffered some form of crime or violence and to come here with
you today and actually our friendship really grew in 2012 and I began to run
for this office and my passion was to bring back an office that gave respect
to the community that gave service that was compassionate and that is the
friendship that you showed me from the very first day that I had a chance to to
get to know more about you as individuals as much as a community and I
don't think there's any greater show of strength than they have a peaceful
loving client part in this community displays every day so to have a chance
to to be a friend to know you better and to serve you is truly a great honor for
me and I would call you this aspect we go through this process especially from
a law enforcement perspective that you educate us that your call of us is
actually want the office that I represented to be one that is
understanding of all cultures that is supportive and compassionate that is
strong with a peaceful loving heart and there's no greater mentor for us to learn
that then through you so look forward too our relationship growing into having a partnership in
this effort to make it better for the beautiful showman we see in this room
and through other community to come from all different cultures so again me and my wife
Veronica are honored to be here with you we thank you so much but thank you for
the love compassion and that quiet strength that you display all the time
throughout your life because it is truly an example for all of us thank you
thank you so much sheriff that means a lot to us and then our last speaker will
be Phoenix Councilwoman Kate Gallego we can have you come up
thank you so much for welding all of us from the City of Phoenix but we want to
offer a specific things for the great partnership with our Police Department
Sheriff Penzone alluded to that some of these partnerships have come through more difficult times but really have gotten a lot of national
praise for our relationship and our particularly in the Sikh community
advisory board so want to thank Marchelle Franklin who leads that effort and thank
all of you for participating hopefully it has contributed to creating a safer
more welcoming community and for those who are interested in that advisory
board the next meeting is coming up on the 25th of this month on the person
note I have a lot of friends and family a lot of friends here who have helped
welcome my new baby and many of their personal milestones and I just enjoyed
you welcoming all of us from the City Council at great community events even
the arizona on the diamond backs played better when it was the Sikh community
day so people have to have that day every week maybe a really key
to success it's been a wonderful day appreciated all the educational efforts
leading up to this event the beautiful tours and just how welcoming this the
planning committee has been so thank you so much to the planning committee for
the wonderful effort
so just to conclude and the speaking part of the program I would like to
thank all of our guests for joining us here today from young to old and I'd
like to extend a special thanks to our speakers who took the time out nere to
come and spend the day with us and all the volunteers that put
in countless hours to make this open house a success.. the goal of this open house
was really to help change perceptions and for our future generations I have
two small boy clearly that's my passion for doing this making them and
I'm making the world a better place for them and they feel protected like any
other mom we want to do. so will conclude a service with the hymn called Anand
sahiib followed by a prayer called ardas for which we will all stand and and then a
reading from our Holy Scripture the GURU GRANTH SAHIB as Harry mentioned. Will then
distribute sweet pudding in called 'KARAH PRASHAD' and then we will move to the hall across the
breezeway from LANGAR so you've heard people talk about langar and people do
like the food here and so langar is the community meals serve at the end of
every sikh service. we also sit on floor side by side and receive and eat
food together and that's really a symbol of equality so that was a radical
gesture that was developed at a time when social rules kept the rich and the
poor separate from daily activities so by putting them all in a place together
the same level and being together it took away that kind of social status so
for those of you that have food allergies before you eat Parshad or Langar
please make sure you consult with a volunteer
and also for those who would like to experience what it feels like to wear
a turban, we have turban tying going on during langar in one of the rooms
and so everyone is welcome to get a turban tied on them and they get to take the
turbun home as well- so encourage everyone to join for that it's
only by taking the time and effort to get to know one another
that we learn about our neighbors and community we hope that by tending the
something else we learn more about your neighbors and then we share the
same great American values of equality and justice we sincerely thank you for
joining us here today and commend her contributions to strengthen our society
in creating mutual respect
great so what are your favorite dish I love yogurt yogurt okay I also love this
pudding pudding yes what with my diet everything was very great and rice
excellent the vegetables everything's good
what did you like most
ofcourse the pudding - it is close to you. how about you ma'am
what did he like
i liked the lentils and .. the riata to cool it out is it too spicy maybe - its good that's good
which what was your favorite food,
i will have to say th- okay and the pudding
I'm Italian so I know a lot about food yes and rice was
very good but the custard was my favorite awesome
so many wonderful people I didknow a lot about the sikh community. Scottsdale PD is welcoming to the sikh community to
learn more about us and we would like to learn more about you
and what was your favorite food - i enjoyed everything everything awesome yeah I
like you're like me
so good to have u - we do indian food atleast once a week. what do you do. i cook more southern indian.
What do u cook.i took cooking classes in Trivendrum southern india. i do more dosas. You can make dosas. ofcourse. WOW. Like do you do
the batter also yeah well I cheat sometime you get mix or raw from flour. My wife is from South India she
grew up in Hyderabad. really. oh i see up until few years ago we had certain relatives next to hyderabad
right right I grew up from Punjab so I didn't know anything about the South
Indian cuisine but now I love her food
we'll be it's very different nice nice most
Americans only have Punjabi food - right North India mostly - never had
southern yeah exactly that's that's awesome and my teacher
Krishna so she wouldn't even use garlic and onion oh yeah
so they're very strict on certain food
mam what was your favorite food what did you like most - i like the beans and rice. excellent thank you
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Hi everyone.
Today Boo and I will be posing...
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So, today's posed question is…
We have a glass that is filled to the middle,
Is the glass half empty or half full?
Okaaayyy…
Ummm Boo, do you think this is a trick question?
'Cause wouldn't it be both?
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So what Boo's saying is according to some, this question is supposedly used
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So those who are supposedly more optimistic would say it's half full.
And those who are not so optimistic would say its half empty.
In other words, because I'm feeling optimistic today, I'mma say its half full.
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5 Tips to Improve Exam Revision - Duration: 5:04.Hello everyone!
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Hello, you are on the channel Come on Let's go. Today
We will conduct experiments with Kotey and Pesey.
Baffenysh what are you doing this cheerless? You do not like
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with all sorts of scary contraption Now you should be with her and to get acquainted.
Hmm, what kind of animal it was? Well, how do I know! I f
I was in the room, and he was on the street! Oh well. Let's watch
the best commentary on the past video and I'll go to the street
I check there. About comments I love.
But now, I go, wait, no I did not see I
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So many good comments it's great.
By the way Annie today a little busy, but it transmits
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I like this video. Well, let's see, we
what a beast woke Buffy. What kind of animal it is?
I'm curious. And so it the lawn mower! Listen
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See how powerful unit It looks like a racing machine!
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Guys if you pick this video 15,000 likes that we'll
the race! In the meantime, it will experiment
her appointment. Kotja Pesya come here!
Already running! Hi guys! Vaf! Hello! soldiers Kotja
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Walter Riso -Aprendiendo a quererse a si mismo - Capítulo 1 y 2 - Duration: 31:31.
LEARNING TO LOVE ONESELF By Walter Riso
Audio Produced by CONSEJOS PARA SER FELIZ
Loving oneself is perhaps the most important fact that guarantees our survival
In a complex and increasingly difficult world to cope with. Curiously, our culture
And education are aimed at punishing too much love. There are times for love and decrees
About what is good taste and bad taste. If you decide to congratulate yourself by giving you a kiss, possibly
The people around you even the psychologist on duty) will evaluate your behavior as ridiculous,
Narcissus the pedant. It is badly seen that we give ourselves too much time, we contemplate or we self-
We are rebuked: "All excesses are evil," we are told. Debatable. Some
Excess remind us that we are alive. Our civilization tries to instill principles
Such as respect for the human being, sacrifice, altruism, the expression of love, good
Treatment, communication, etc., but these principles are directed to the care of
Other humans.
Self-respect, self-love, self-confidence and self-communication are often not
account. Moreover, it is considered bad taste to want too much. If a person is friendly,
Expressive, affectionate and thinks more in the others than in herself, is evaluated excellently:
Its name is "dear". If someone disguises his virtues, he denies or
Undermines their achievements, that is, lies or self-punishment, is
Accepted
Not only do we reject honest and honest self-acceptance, we do not care whether it's true or
No, but we enact and reinforce the denial of our virtues. Absurdly, the virtues
Can be displayed, but not verbalized. If you have a good body, you are allowed to use
Thong, miniskirt, or tight pants, but you're not allowed to talk about it. If people
They are self-motivated, so they are right, they produce rejection and annoyance.
This policy of not speaking well of oneself in public, of not being exaggerated in self-rebalancing,
Of not giving yourself much pleasure, of disguising, of great modesty, etc., ends up becoming
In a value that we use too often. The "virtue" of not wanting oneself
To himself in public, extends to when we are alone. When you try to leave the
Excessive selfishness, we have not allowed self-love to enter. If the human being deserves the
Respect that is promulgated for being something special, that should be extended to your own person.
To avoid falling into the insufferable pedantry of the know-it-all, we have fallen into modesty
Self-destructive denial of our virtues. For not being wasteful, we are
Petty Clinical psychologists know that this style of over-
oneself. It is the broth of the well-known and dreaded depression. You have the right
To love you no longer feel guilty about it, to dispose of your time, to discover your tastes,
To pamper you, to take care of you and to choose.
Unfortunately, our mental structure is being formed more on the basis of the evaluation
Other than in self-evaluation, and we become victims of our own invention. Self-sensitization
Has made us forget those times of childhood when everything was shocking and rewarding.
We are too "outwardly" seeking the approval of others) and not
We spend enough time self-balancing and liking ourselves.
Our system of socialization has been more oriented to prevent the affective excesses, known
By specialists as "manias" (inflated self-esteem, too much confidence, etc.), which,
To states of sadness and depression caused by insecurity, self-image and self-concept
negative. Sufficiency and excessive safety produce discomfort. The insecurity
Produces pity. Usually people tend to take sides for the weakest.
Immunity to the scourge of depression is only achieved if you learn to love yourself. As the
Better things, you need a special treatment. You can not allow yourself to be hurt or given
The luxury of self-destruct stupidly.
From a young age we are taught personal self-care behaviors: we brush our teeth,
Bathing, cutting nails, eating, controlling sphincters and dress. But what about the
Self-care and mental hygiene? We are not taught to love, to like, to contemplate
And to trust in ourselves. In addition, although some parents have this as a desideratum,
We lack adequate teaching procedures. Nor are we taught to teach.
The image you have of yourself is not inherited or genetically transmitted. As it
From what has been said so far, is learned. The human brain has a system of
Information processing that allows to store a virtually infinite number
of data. This information, which we have stored in social experience, is stored in the
Long-term memory in the form of beliefs and theories.
In this way we have information of things or objects, the meaning of words, situations,
Types of people, social activities, etc. This knowledge of the world, wrong or
No, it allows you to predict, anticipate and prepare to face what is going to happen. By
Example, if you know a person who claims to be a racist and an active member of the Ku Klux Klan,
You can predict how you will think and act on certain situations. Could you
Anticipate their behavior before a person of color, 10 who thinks about racism and
Its position in front of the traditions.
As you build an inner representation of the world around you, you also build
Theories and concepts about yourself. The relationship you establish with the world not only allows you
Know the environment, but also your behavior in front of him. These experiences of contact
With people (friends, parents, teachers) and things of your immediate material universe develop
An idea of how you really are. The failures and successes, the fears and insecurities, the
Physical sensations, pleasures and dislikes, how to deal with problems, what
They tell you who you are, what they do not tell you, punishments, etc., everything converges and is organized
In an internal image about your own person: your self or your auto-quequema. Can you think
You are clumsy, ugly, interesting, intelligent or bad. Each of these qualifiers are
The result of a previous story, where you have been generating a "theory" about you
same. If you think you are a loser, you will not try to win. You will say: "Why try,
I can not win "or" it's impossible to change "or" I'm not worth anything ".
Humans show the conservative tendency to confirm, rather than to distrust, the
Beliefs. We are conservative by nature, and this economy of thought returns us
Stubborn and taken from our opinion. Once established the belief is very difficult
Change it. We resisted looking at our way of looking at things. If you set up a
Negative autoscale, he will accompany you for a long time if you do not make an effort to modify it.
In short, what you think and feel about yourself is learned and stored in a way
Of theories called self-schemas. There are positive and negative self-schemes. The first ones will take you
To cherish you, the seconds, to hate you.
No one contemplates and cares for a person who hates. Similarly, if the vision you have
Of you is negative, you will not express affection, because you will not believe deserve it. If your self-squeeze
Is positive and you do not feed it, it will fade. Some people, instead of congratulating themselves,
Disguise their joy with a phlegmatic parco: "It is nothing" or "it was my duty". The
Denial of personal recognition is a form of self-destruction.
In the autosquemas four fundamental aspects are interlaced that, for didactic purposes,
I will try to separate. In reality, they merge into an indissoluble whole and form the nucleus
Of personal self-assessment. They can become solid foundations on
Which you can build a strong and secure self, or the main source of self-elimination
And self-price. They are: Self-concept (what you think of yourself), Self-image
(How much you like), Self-esteem self-support (how much you rewards) and Self-efficacy
(How much confidence you have in yourself). They are the four supports of a good ego, or
The four horsemen of the apocalypse. If you fail one, it will be enough for your self-squeeze
Is lame or unstable. In certain situations, if only one of the riders is disengaged, the
"Herd" can follow.
Although negative self-schemas can destroy us, humans show the inexplicable
Tendency to conserve and feed them. The strange behavior of maintaining self-schemes
At all costs can be deadly for your mental health. Depressive people, for example,
Show this tendency to confirm it bad. If they are considered ugly, they neglect their figure
To corroborate its ugliness; If they think they are unintelligent, they fail at the
Examinations; If they believe they are victims, they play the role of martyrs or seek punishment;
etc. This way of confirming negative self-evaluation, behaving as if it really
Outside true, is very common. Social psychologists have called this mechanism, general-
Unconscious mind, self-realized prophecies.
If your selfishness is irrationally structured, you will distort reality. You will feel
Stupid despite being intelligent, horrifying without being, incapable being able and, finally,
You will try to punish yourself for not believing yourself worthy of congratulations.
An interesting aspect to note is that people with problems of self-acceptance
Are too "hard" with self-criticism and "soft" when they criticize other people.
On the other hand, subjects who show good self-esteem are protected by being rather mild
At the time of self-evaluation. An act of self-sufficiency. Who said we should
Be twenty-four-hour goals "By no means am I holding an attitude
Compulsive to deceive oneself? I simply think that sometimes "turning a blind eye"
Against small and insignificant errors or personal defects is useful for health
mental. It is preferable an optimistic position of slight overestimation, a heartbroken attitude
Pessimistic with oneself and a positive attitude toward others. Love begins at home.
TOWARDS A GOOD CONCERN
"Have the courage to be wrong."
HEGEL
Culture has taught us to wear an invisible but painful club with which we are beaten
Every time we are wrong or we do not reach personal goals. We have learned to cast
Blame for almost everything we do wrong and to doubt our responsibility when
We do it well. If we fail, we say: "It depended on me"; If we succeed: "It was
pure luck". What kind of education is this, where we are taught to become
Responsible for the bad and not for the good? Self-criticism is good and productive if
Do it carefully. In the short term it can be used to generate new behaviors, but if
Uses indiscriminately and dogmatically, generates stress and is fatal to our self-concept.
The bad habit of permanently doing "inner cultural revolutions" is
A form of psychological suicide.
Some people, by having an inadequate self-evaluation system, acquire the "vice"
Of negatively speaking all over. Hanging posters with categories
General. Instead of saying, "I behaved awkwardly," they say, "I'm clumsy." They use
The "I am useless" instead of "I was wrong" in this or that thing. Self-punishment has been
Wrongly considered a way to produce appropriate behaviors.
How do you get a negative self-concept? A typical way is through self-criticism
Excessive. Humans use internal standards, that is, internalized goals and criteria
(Learned) about excellence and inadequacy. These standards emerge
Of the system of beliefs, values and needs that we possess. A high self-demand will produce
High and rigid operating standards. However, while it is important to maintain
Relative personal exigency levels, or moderately high to be competent, the "short circuit"
Occurs when these levels are irrational, too high and unreachable. The irrational idea
That I must emphasize in almost everything that I do, that I must be the best at all costs and
Which should not be mistaken, are imperatives that become unbearable. Put of
Absolute way to happiness in goals, is to remove it from your personal domain. So yes
The goal is not reached, the world is over. The poet Runbeck once said: "Happiness
It is not the season to be reached, but a way to travel. "
People who make success a value, who are extremely competitive and handle
Rigid standards of execution, travel poorly. They have mounted the wrong car.
Perhaps happiness is not to be the best seller, the best mom, or the best child,
But to try it honestly and calmly, enjoying it while traveling to the
goal. An exaggerated level of self-demand generates strict patterns of self-evaluation.
If you have strict criteria for self-evaluation, you will always have the feeling of inadequacy.
Your body will begin to secrete more adrenaline than normal and anxiety will interfere with
The performance needed to reach the goals. You will enter the vicious circle of
Who aspire every day more and have every day less.
Irrational standards will make your behavior never enough. Despite your
Efforts, the goals will be unreachable. When you feel incapable, your self-assessment will be
negative. This feeling of ineffectiveness and the inability to control the situation
You will experience stress and anxiety, which in turn will affect your performance away from you
More and more of the goals.
People trapped in this trap become depressed, lose control over
Their own behavior and unfailingly fail. Precisely what they wanted to avoid! For
High, this "no escape" situation, of frustration and uncontrollability, leads them
Self-criticism and self-punishment; They become victims of their own invention.
The consequence of this kind of short circuit blender is the loss of self-concept
And depression. The more you do of "winning" a value, paradoxically more destined
You're missing out.
Sometimes people can show rational goals for an unprepared observer.
However, exaggerated self-demand is measured in terms of the possibilities of each
one. If you do not have the skills or resources to achieve the goals, the aspiration
The simpler it becomes unattainable. In these cases, resignation and objective reassessment
And frank of your goals and resources is the solution. Unfortunately, if we do not win, we tie.
If you are too self-demanding and self-critical, you will use a dichotomous style. This wants
To say, extremes. Things will only be white or black, good or bad. You will see the
Reality with a kind of binoculars where the middle tones, the nuances and the tonalities
they do not exist. "I am successful or I am unsuccessful." Absurd. There is nothing absolute. It all depends
Of the glass to look at. If you apply this binary processing style, no doubt
The catastrophe will come. You will refer to yourself in categorical and inflexible terms,
As ever, always, everything and nothing. These words should be suspended from our
Be considered "bad words". The only thing they generate is confusion and misunderstanding.
Unsurprisingly, if you earnestly desire success, power, and prestige, you will fear
failure. This fear will make you focus more on the bad things that
The good ones, in order to "prevent" the mistakes you so fear. In other words,
You will develop a maladaptive targeting style aimed at seeing in yourself
Only bad. This will lead you to ignore the approximations to the goal, as well as the
Efforts and small ascents that you make in the staircase towards your personal achievements.
If you relate the above to the dichotomous style, then it is clear that such approaches
To the goal go unnoticed: "I arrive, or I do not arrive" "I am, or I am not in the goal".
The worst way to treat you is with impatience and contempt. For wanting to see the tree does not
You will see the forest. Negative self-observation, like self-evaluation and self-punishment,
Generates stress, diminishes performance, mistreats the ego and, in the long run, affects
selfconcept.
The use of extremely rigid, perfectionist and irrational standards increases the
Distance between your ideal self (what you would like to do or be) and your real self what really
You do or you are). The greater the distance between the two, the less likely to reach
Your goal, more frustration and more feelings of insecurity in the face of useless efforts
By approaching the supposed "happiness".
If someone courageously makes the difficult decision to "travel well", the pressure
Is inexorable and cruel. If, in addition, the goal does not coincide with the values
Of the reference group, the level of sanction can actually become intolerable.
Those objectives that distance themselves from economic production are seen as synonymous
Of vagrancy, bohemia or idealism. If we change goals, we are labeled as immature or unstable,
As if stability existed and was a symbol of intelligence. A quick look
To the people who have made the history of mankind shows that some instability
And dissatisfaction are essential conditions for living intensely. Absolute stability
does not exist. It is an invention of those who fear change. The famous "maturity", taken
To the letter, is the prelude to the decomposition. Blind blindly to your own standards
Or external is to restrict your freedom to think. You would lose the ability to make decisions and
Objective criticism. Do not be afraid to review, change or modify your goals if they are a source
Of suffering, even if your neighbors do not like it.
The important thing then is not only to discover that you are self-demanding, but to be able to modify
The standards. To achieve this you can not be too "stable" or too
"structured". You need a pinch of non-sanity (not to mention madness). People
Mentally rigid, self-critical and strict with themselves are normative persons.
They usually lock themselves in a jail made by themselves and the educational environment, whose
Bars are a set of virtues and values that are not always rational, of which they can not
escape. They struggle between good and evil. In general, these subjects are more Papist
Than the Pope. They have placed so many conditions and requirements to move in life, that
The road becomes too narrow and narrow to walk comfortably through it.
They hit with walls of self-criticism and should at every step. Others, however,
They cross a real comfortable and calm highway. The style of "beating" and
Punishment is not precisely the best ground for a self-concept to germinate and thrive
Without feet of mud. Being flexible is, without a doubt, a virtue of intelligent people.
But, as I pointed out earlier, to avoid something that we think is bad, we do
Something worse. By avoiding being a "weathercock", we define a goal and jam (some do
A kind of welding) the rudder to it. Absurdly we sacrifice the right
To change our minds and we are wrong, for the apparent safety of traveling on a route
Unchangeable We mistakenly consider that it is the only and best way to walk by
El Mundo
Like a grotesque cartoon, very self-critical people put on a shirt
Strength to not get mad, and the result, paradoxically, is the psychological imbalance.
You should definitely try to be less hard on yourself.
Saving self-concept
Let's see a guide that can serve to safeguard your self-concept of indiscriminate self-punishment.
1. Try to be more flexible, both with others and with you
Do not use the extreme dichotomous criterion to evaluate reality, including yourself.
Do not think in absolutist terms: there is nothing totally good or bad. Remember that
You must have tolerance for things to get out of the lane sometimes. If you are inflexible
In your things, you will clash violently with reality; She is not total or definitive.
Learn to endure, to personify and to understand your rigidity as a defect, not as a virtue.
Rigid things are less malleable, do not stand too much and break. If you're
Normative, perfectionist, intolerant and too conservative, you will not know what to do with
lifetime. She is not like that. The vast majority of everyday events will give you stress,
Because they are not like you would like them to be. Concentrate for a week or two on the
Nuances Do not rush to categorize strictly. Stop and think if you really
What you say is true. Check your way of pointing and pointing. Do not be drastic.
Find around you people to whom you have already cataloged and dedicate yourself to question
Your lettering. Look for evidence against, discover the nuances. When you evaluate, avoid
Use words as always, never, all or nothing. Do not label people, you included,
With totalities. As a leading psychologist said, it is not the same to say: "Robó
Once, "to say," He is a thief. " People are not "they", they simply
They behave. Intransigence generates hate and malaise. It's time for you to go back
Your rigidity.
to. Let yourself not be so normative. That will not make you a delinquent. If you have five days
To pay an account, pay the fifth, and if there is no legal risk, the sixth or seventh.
Do not always arrive early. Step on the grass Try to scream in a library. Be more
Informal one day, to see what happens.
B. Try not to be a perfectionist. Disorganize your schedules, your rites, your travels, you
Way of ordering things, etc. He lives with the disorder for a week. Fear him.
C. No rotules, nor autorrotules. Try to be benign. He speaks only in terms of behavior.
D. Concentrate on the nuances. Think more about alternatives and exceptions to
rule. Life is composed of shades rather than whites and blacks.
and. Listen to people who think differently than you. This does not imply that you must necessarily
Change your mind, just listen. Let the information enter and then decide.
Remember: if you are inflexible and rigid with the world and people, you will end up being so
with you.
2. Check your goals and the real possibilities to reach them
Do not put unattainable goals. Exert yourself according to your possibilities
And skills. If you find yourself trying to climb some Mount Everest, or change mountains
Or enjoy the ride. When defining a goal, you must also define the steps
Or the subgoals. Try to enjoy, "paladea1" the climb each step, as if it were
Of a goal by itself. Do not wait until you reach the end to rest and enjoy.
Search for intermediate stations. Lose time on this. Write your goals, review them, question them
And discard those that are not vital. Life is too short to waste. Remember,
If your goals are unattainable, you will live frustrated and bitter.
Do not self-observe only bad
If you only focus on your mistakes, you will not see your achievements. If you only see what you see
Lack, you will not enjoy the moment, the here and now. "If you cry for the sun, you will not see
The stars ", Do not be aware of your failures as a radar. Accommodate your attention
Also to the appropriate behaviors. When you find yourself focusing negatively on
Obsessive way, stops.
Do not think badly about yourself
Be more benign with your actions. Fortunately you are not perfect. Do not insult yourself or reprimand yourself.
Keep track of your negative self-assessments. It detects which are fair, moderate
And objective. If you discover that the lexicon to yourself is offensive, change it. Search for qualifications
Constructive Reduce your self-verbalizations to what are really worth it. Exercises
The right to be wrong. Humans, like animals, learn from
Trial-error. Some people believe that human learning must be trial-success.
That's a lie. The cost of growing up as a human being is to err and "screw up".
This universal law is inescapable. Saying, "I do not want to be wrong," is to make a
Tantrum and a tantrum for children. It is impossible not to be wrong, as it is that there is no acceleration
Of gravity. Mistakes do not make you better or worse, just get dressed. Just remember you
That you are human. When we talk about your Self-efficacy we will return to the fear of making mistakes.
Let's recap and clarify. Moderate self-criticism, objective self-observation,
Constructive self-evaluation and having rationally high goals are necessary behaviors.
Very possibly they have collaborated in the adaptation of the human being. These processes are not bad
In themselves, depends on how they are used and where they are aimed. Poorly used,
Rigid, hard, destructive and compulsive way, affect the self-concept. Used properly
Serve as an encouraging guide.
Socially speaking, he has not been taught to make good use of them. We are introduced
Ruthless self-criticism as a value and as the key to success; But possibly
By ignorance, we have not been alerted on its possible consequences. Avoiding
An end, undoubtedly pernicious (poverty of spirit, laziness, failure,
Being "little" and having no goals in life), has taken the pendulum toward the
Another, equally harmful and harmful.
Our culture seems to prefer psychologically disturbed but successful people,
To psychologically healthy but unsuccessful people. However, success here is secondary.
No use if you can not enjoy it. Dissatisfaction with oneself
Achievements and excessive ambition act as an engine, but, because of over-accelerated operation,
Usually burns early. You are a special machine within the known universe, no
The mistreatment Demand yourself, but within reasonable limits. Do not deny yourself.
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