YouTuber Riley J. Dennis has just come out with another painfully embarassing video called "Your Dating 'Preferences' Are Discriminatory."
The jist of it is that he's trying to persuade gays and lesbians not to be gay and lesbian.
Because he wants to reconcile the antithetical relationship between gender identity and sexual orientation.
It's not possible to do this without being homophobic.
Of course, he's gotta wrap that up in a bastardized form of "intersectionality" theory" and present himself as a "trans lesbian."
In order to trap the unwarey into believing that they're supporting something progressive.
Would you date someone who's trans?
The liberal's way of disguising their homophobia is to conflate sexual preference with sexual orientation.
A straight man is not interested in transwomen because his sexual orientation is heterosexual.
Whereas a bisexual man, who's not interested in transwomen, this [would be] his sexual preference.
Right? He's interested in other men, sometimes, he's just not interested in transwomen.
Would you date someone who's black?
Would you date someone who's fat?
Would you date someone who is disabled?
The reason why people will instinctively recognise someone who says "I don't do fatties"
as being objectional and rude, is because it's not actually necessary to say that.
Even if it's true. Whereas the default is heterosexual.
It's necessary for gay people and lesbian people to say "I'm not interested in people of a particular sex."
To conflate sexual orientation and sexual preference is very manipulative and dishonest.
I'll link to a couple really videos in the description about racial dating preferences.
You can link to whatever you like, Riley, but I see what you're doing.
You're conflating sexual preferences with sexual orientation.
So that you can escape accusations of homophobia.
But in this video, I want to talk about our other biases.
And by "other biases", you mean sexual orientation.
Sexual orientation specifically refers to whether you're heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual.
In countries like the UK, it's a characteristic that is protected by anti-discrimination law.
But there's still 65 countries where it's illegal to be gay or lesbian.
In 10 of them, the death penalty applies to homosexuality.
[If] Riley J. Dennis goes to one of these countries where it's illegal to be gay with his "cis" girlfriend,
he's not gonna get arrested.
'Cause they know what a homosexual is.
And it's not based on "gender identity."
Would you date a trans person? Honestly?
No, I would not date a trans person.
I wouldn't date a male transwowan, because they're male
and I wouldn't date a female transman because they want to be a man.
So the first example relates to sexual orientation.
And the second relates to sexual preference.
And both of those are valid reasons to reject someone.
Well if you said no, I'm sorry, but that's pretty discriminatory.
Well I'm not sorry, because I understand that dating is a discriminatory process.
People are allowed to sexually anyone for any reason they want.
Without being coercively guilt-tripped for it.
It's kind of a basic concept of feminism.
Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying you're a horrible person who hates trans people -
You kind of are, because when you say that sexual rejection is a form of discrimination,
you're suggesting that one group can oppress another group by sexually rejecting them.
There was probably a time in my life when I said I wouldn't date a trans person.
But since then, I've thought critically about it and changed my mind.
It's all very well and good you saying that, because you know that these "lesbian" transwomen
aren't interested in you.
Because they're heterosexual males.
There are definitely trans people who you would never know were trans unless they told you.
I'd never know you were trans unless you told me.
But I think arguing that you would only like a trans person if you didn't know they were trans is a poor argument.
It's not an argument I've never made.
Because I can't imagine a transwoman would ever trick me.
To be honest.
I just think trans women really act like men.
But they also tend to go for this kind of pornified look, with all the make up and hair and shit.
Even when women do that, I'm just not into that.
But I do find it weird that you're sitting there arguing with people about who they should be interested in
sexually. It kind of sounds like you're a bit of a bully, to be honest, Riley.
Because we associate penises with men and vaginas with women,
some people think they could never date a transman with a vagina or a transwoman with a penis.
Those people are called "homosexuals" and "heterosexuals."
People are more than their genitals!
What he's saying is really aggressive, by the way.
I think that you could feel attraction to someone without knowing what's between their legs.
And if you were to say you're only attracted to people with vaginas or people with penises,
Translation: if you were to say that you're a heterosexual man,
or a homosexual woman, or a heterosexual woman or a homosexual man.
It really feels like you're reducing people just to their genitals!
When are people gonna recognise that these fucking pricks are homophobic?
You're kind of objectifying them.
But you're thinking of them more as genitals than objects.
I have lost count of the amount of times these trans activists have called me a "vagina fetishist" for being a lesbian.
So I guess you're kinda genital-ifying them?
What will it take?
My point is, we have implicit biases that we were raised with
or that we developed over time.
Homosexuality is not an implicit bias.
Some women don't do dick!
Get over it!
And they can be hard to get rid of.
Yeah, they're really hard to get rid of.
That's why gay conversion therapy is so unsuccesful.
Why do you want to get rid of it?
And I think this can be especially prominent within the queer community.
The "~queer~" community.
Gay men often pride themselves on being disgusted by vaginas.
As shown in my last response to Riley,
he HATES gays having pride in anything.
And the same goes for lesbian women with penises.
Leave lesbians alone, you creep!
It's difficult, because some queer people have built their sexual identities on these repulsions.
The majority of the population seem to self-define as being heterosexual.
Go bother them!
But I don't think they're innate at all.
Well, you have something in common with evangelical Christians. Leave. Lesbians. Alone.
If you met someone who was extremely attractive, had a great personality,
but didn't have the genitals that you wanted, you might be suprised to find that it isn't a dealbreaker.
Yeah, I'd be suprised. Because it is a dealbreaker!
As someone who is trans and gay,
So, a heterosexual male, then?
People ask me, with a very accusatory tone,
if I would date a girl with a penis.
If you harass lesbians, demanding they include men into their dating pool,
they will tend to respond with an accusatory tone.
"Gay conversion" therapy has been proven not to work.
What? So this is gay conversion therapy version two point new-and-improved?
But you can unlearn your own prejudices.
Homosexuality is not a prejudice.
It just takes time and conscious effort.
I am so done with this shit.
And the way that we talk about potentially dating trans people
has a lot in common with the way we discuss other "preferences."
Why have you used air quotes there?
You really can't make any moral judgements on a person based on their weight.
Yet you feel like you can make moral judgements on people based on their being homosexual?
The more you work at unlearning your own prejudices,
the more you'll be able to see people from these groups as people, rather than tired stereotypes.
As shown by porn, finding people sexually attractive
is definitely the route to seeing them as full human beings!
I think it's worth it.
It's worth it for you, you fetishist.
This video is part of my "Feminism with Riley" series that I'm doing in collaboration with Everyday Feminism.
One of the reasons I think this video's a really useful one to respond to is that
RIley J. Denis is a very skillful tactition when it comes to
presenting very regressive, homophobic, sexist ideas
as being someting progressive and inclusive and forward-thinking.
It's quite interesting to cut through the bullshit.
And actually get to the guts of what he's saying.
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