Hi, everyone. In this lesson we're going to look at manners in England.
Here are the things that are considered polite, and the things that are not considered polite. So this is
a talk about the culture, things that people do here in England, and the things that traditionally
have been the most acceptable behaviour.
Let's start with the things that are very important. So, I'm sure you already know this one:
English people and queuing. "Queuing" is when you stand in a line when you don't...
When you want something. You don't just, like, run up there to the front or push. You queue
in a line. So, we queue up at the bank, for example, or we queue up when we want to get
on a bus and there's some other people already there. Now, of course, in London because there
are so many people and also not everyone is English so they have their manners from where
they came from, you won't always see people queuing to get on the bus or on the tube,
but you do generally still see people queuing up in a shop when they need to buy something.
Next we have: It's very important to bring a bottle, and that means when you go to somebody's
dinner party you take a bottle of wine when you go to the meal there. If you don't want
to bring a bottle of wine, you can bring dessert or you can bring some flowers or some chocolates,
but the general phrase and the general idea of it is bringing a bottle, as in a bottle
of wine.
Next we have RSVP. This is a term that comes from French: "Répondez s'il vous plait",
and this is a much more formal invitation that you get. If you're going to something,
a special event like somebody's wedding... Because weddings are really expensive and
they have to be organized so long in advance, people having the wedding really want to know
if you're coming. So when you RSVP to the invitation it means you're definitely going,
you will be there. So once you've RSVP'd, it's very, very impolite not to go. You must
go if you RSVP.
Next, I think that in England it's very important to be on time. We do tend to be punctual people,
attend... Attend meetings at the right time, turn up to our jobs at the right time, or
meet friends at the right time, most of us. Of course, there are those people who are
always late for everything, but most people in general do things on time or even, like
me, I always end up being 10 minutes early. I just can't help that. So I waste a lot of
time being too early.
Now let's look at table manners. Some of the things in the table manners' section are changing
as people become more relaxed about eating and eating out. But these were all... These
are all manners that people follow in more formal situations. Perhaps at home or with
your very close friends it would be different. Now, I don't mean it's different for this
first one. I'm not saying it's ever acceptable anywhere to slurp, burp-I can't do a burp
noise. Anyway, you know what a burp is-and fart. Fart is noise from the other end. These
things are never acceptable at the dinner table. Mm-mm, mm-mm. So, no eating noises
or doing that when you eat. It's not acceptable.
Elbows on the table, in a formal situation you're not going to do that, but relaxed with
friends a lot of people do put their elbows on the table these days, not such a big deal.
Drinking before... Just drinking your drink before somebody said: "Cheers" is considered
impolite, but it's also a sign of being familiar with people. If you're familiar with them
you don't have to go: "Oh, cheers for this drink and opportunity to drink with you."
So it depends who it is.
Using a mobile in the restaurant or when you're eating socially with people is considered
rude, so to be like:
"Oh, hold on. Let me just take this call. I'm so important, I've got to, you know, talk business",
or something is considered rude, or to be like all the
time texting on your phone. Of course it happens, and young people and teenagers are definitely
going to do it more than older people, but on the whole it's considered impolite.
Eating with hands, that's something that's changing, as I suppose we all get more used
to a fast food culture and different kinds of foods that are just easier to eat with
your hands, like burgers, chips, chicken wings, and some Mexican food - easier... It's easier
to eat with hands, so... It depends what you're eating, but traditionally it would be considered
rude to eat anything other than a sandwich with your hands.
Okay, let's talk about what's impolite now, what's opposite. No, it's not the... These
are more things that are impolite, but different situations. Let's imagine the situation of
being on a train. It's impolite to talk really loudly on the train, and just have your really
loud conversation on the phone that everybody can hear for hours, the whole time you're
on the train. It's impolite and it's really annoying. Also, if you haven't noticed, trains
in England, if they... Particularly ones that go long distance, they have a silent carriage,
and that means a part of the train where: "Don't talk here. Do not talk here." Nobody
wants to hear you talking. So there's always that refuge, that place you can go on the
train if you don't want to hear people, but it's only one small space, and the rest of
the train is really big.
It's also impolite to push in. "Oh, I've got to get on this train now", so: "Poo, poo, poo".
That happens all the time in London.
It's impolite to eat smelly food on the train. Now, a sandwich is okay, you get hungry.
A packed lunch that you've brought from home, maybe you've got some cold pasta left over
or whatever you made at home. It's fine. But if it stinks, it's not fine. You know foods
that stink? It's usually fast food, like McDonald's or from a fried chicken place or something.
Impolite to eat this on the train and impolite to even take it on the train because it smells
so strong. But anyway, people do it.
Impolite to sit there in your chair or all nice and comfy when the poor, old, old person
is like, with their walking stick, and you know, they're going to fall over when the
train slows down. It's impolite to leave them standing while you sit down. The same applies
to pregnant women and to disabled people. So, if you haven't noticed on the tubes...
I don't know if they're on the trains, but on the tubes there are special seats. So if
you sit in those you must get up for the elderly people or the disabled people, but if you
really don't want to give up your seat to anyone, don't sit in one of those chairs.
You can sit more in the middle on the tube, and you're very... In a very unlikely situation
anyone would expect you to get up.
Next we've got holding the door open. This isn't... This isn't something that happens
on the train. This is when you're coming out of a building, the door is heavy, and as you
come out you hold the door open and you just wait one and a half seconds so that person
behind you comes. You hold it until they come, and they take over. You don't have to... You
don't have to, like, look at them a long time, or it's not a big deal. You just hold the
door open, and then you carry on. You hold the door open for them. Not like:
"Oh, I'm so busy I can't wait one and a half seconds", "Boom" in the next person's face. That's impolite.
Next we've got not apologizing when you bump into someone. This is when you walk down the
street and you didn't mean to, but someone, you know, like walks into you. That's bumping
in or more pushing. If you don't say anything, like: "Oom", then that's rude. You're meant
to say: "Oh, sorry. Sorry about that", and carry on. It happens sometimes in a busy city,
so you're going to bump into someone, but the point is whether you are polite after
you say something.
Next, it's not polite when you have a friend with you, and you meet somebody else you know
and you talk to them, but you ignore that other person there, like leaving them to just
wait while you have a long conversation without introducing them. What's polite is to say:
"Oh, Julie, this is Sarah. Sarah, this is Julie", and then you can carry on the conversation.
Next, let's talk about things to do with the body. These are the kind of things that are
more likely to make people disgusted actually and feel sick, and like: "Ahh, that's so gross."
Starting with spitting. Spitting on the floor, spitting in public. I've even seen spitting
inside one or two times, which is pretty gross and disgusting, and pretty shocking when I've
seen it, but yeah, you see things like that around London, spitting on the floor. But
it's very, very bad manners and it's also a health hazard. Not... It's not cool, makes
people sick.
Next is body odour. Now, I'm not talking like...
There's different degrees of body odour. Right?
Some people are just really, really stinky and they don't mind. That kind of stinkiness
is considered impolite, and especially if you're kind of stinky and you're on the tube
and you've got your arm out like that, and you know, someone else is standing there having
to smell your stinkiness. It's not very nice. It's impolite.
Next we've got shoes. So, it's kind of the opposite here in England about shoes. If I
know you really well and you're a good friend, you can come in my house, take your shoes off.
If I know you really, really, really well and you're part of the family, you can
be barefoot in the house. Right? But if I don't really know:
"Please keep your shoes on. Please keep your shoes on. Do not touch my floor with your feet."
So it's the opposite
to how it is in many countries. So, from the other people's side they might find us really
gross because in English homes, not so much more now, but traditionally we always had
carpets in our houses and it's not like the carpet's always being washed and cleaned.
It's being hoovered, but not actually washed and cleaned, and we walk around it with shoes
on so a lot of people find the idea of the English floor in their house really gross
because in other countries there's a floor that's easier to clean, you know, with water
or a mop, so it'd different here. Anyway, don't take your shoes off unless somebody
offers you or... Well, it's not really an offer, unless someone invites you to take
your shoes off because that's the rule in their house. Okay? So don't... Don't just do it first.
And by the way when I... A little story here. It was one of those hard-to-handle cultural
experiences when I was living in Turkey and a workman came to fix a window or something,
and I didn't know how to say in Turkish: "Keep your shoes on." I wish I did, because he took
his shoes off and... In Turkey they're meant to give you slippers if you're not... If you're
just visiting they give you slippers to walk in the house. I'm glad I didn't give this
guy slippers either. His feet was the most stinking feet, oh, it just smelt so bad. And
he fixed the window for about one and a half minutes, and I was cleaning the floor for
about two hours to get this stinky foot smell out after. So, if I did give him slippers
they'd have to go in the rubbish bin. So, if it hadn't been their rules there, had been
the English rules, he'd have kept his shoes on, I wouldn't have smelt his stinky feet.
It would have been much better the English way, but anyway, I didn't know the language
to say that.
Next let's talk about baby changing. Baby changing... Baby changing is for in the baby
changing room in, or where the toilet is, there's normally a place to do that. And baby
changing doesn't happen around places where you eat food. Again, I'm reminded of Turkey
here because I did see a nappy, a baby's shitty, poohy... Poohy nappy being changed on a restaurant
table which I thought was really gross, and I never knew it happened before I went there.
But anyway, I haven't seen it here in England, but in the restaurant table, but point being
there are special places to change the baby here.
The next one is an issue that people... People have strong views about and people disagree,
which is breastfeeding in public, feeding your baby milk in public. Some people don't
like to see that and they consider it to be something that the woman should do with a
scarf over the baby, or they think you should do it in a quiet place, and other... Other
people say it's natural you should be able to do it wherever you want. And people argue
about this. Depending on where you are, you'll either see it a lot or you won't see it at all.
Yeah, so in London in certain... In certain areas where there's... Let's say a very middle-class
kind of area where there's lots of middle-class moms and their babies, breastfeeding you will
see, but in just the general local area you wouldn't necessarily see a baby being breastfed
in public.
Next one is noisy sex. Obviously noisy sex happens, but there's degrees of it.
I've lived in shared houses with young people, so I've definitely heard sex, but it was absolutely
not in the same league of how loud it was to what I heard when I was in Peru staying
near the Amazon... In... Somewhere in the Amazon Jungle in a hotel, and then I heard
the noisiest sex I've ever heard in my life, so it's degrees of how loud it is, I suppose.
In general, it being England, it's not, even when it's loud maybe it's not so loud as some
other places.
Next, in the toilet, when you do your business in the toilet, especially if it's a poohy
business, try and flush that away. If you do a poohy business in somebody's house but
I think anywhere, and it gets all brown in the toilet, there's the brush next to the
toilet which is to clear away the poohy stuff in the toilet. That's why it's there. Some
people, I don't think they realize that, what's... What the brush is for.
And yeah, so you might also be puzzled when you go to the toilet: "Where is the water?
Where is the water here? There's no water for cleaning myself?" There isn't in the English
toilet. I don't want to get into it, really, other than that. But if you're surprised about
where the water is, let's just say it's not there. Maybe you bring your own is a solution,
but don't leave a mess after.
Next is stinky perfume. Now, on the one hand we've got stinky people who don't make any
effort to smell good, they... They enjoy it, I suppose. And then on the other hand you've
got people who think they smell nice by putting on loads of perfume, but they put on so much
perfume they actually smell stinky so that when they walk you can smell them like two
minutes behind. That is... That's what stinky perfume is. And I guess here, because it's
such a strong smell, that's why people don't like it and don't find it that polite.
Next let's look at social etiquette. When you're meeting a friend, generally because
the arrangements, depending on the person, are made a few days in advance here in England...
We're not so spontaneous and easygoing, most people, so they plan before. And if you make
that cancellation right at the last minute, many times, unless it's a real problem that
you had, people will always think: "Fair enough, you had a big problem, it's okay",
but if you didn't have a big problem and you cancel right at the last minute the person will think
that's really rude that you did that. And if you cancel one or two times in a row with
that person, they might be angry with you and they might not want to make another arrangement
with you because they're just saying: "Uh, unreliable."
Next we have showing up unannounced. This is a... I've shortened "unannounced", here.
That means just coming to somebody's house, ringing the doorbell anytime but they didn't
know you were coming. Here, I would say it doesn't happen that much, only with friends
who have known each other a really long time and... Like, people I know who do that to
my mom, for example, her neighbour friends that she's known for years and they don't
show up and then like sit there for three hours. Maybe there was something they wanted
to say for five minutes or a short time. It's not like:
"Hey. Here I am. Now let's hang out for hours."
Generally that doesn't happen a lot, but it might happen if you're a student
or a young person. If you think it happens, let me know in the comments. But I would say
traditionally and for older people it just doesn't happen much.
Next is name dropping. Name dropping is when you're always saying about all the famous
people you know, and... Well, sometimes it isn't even about the famous people you know,
it's about when you saw the famous person or you worked somewhere where you helped the
famous person, but that's like the low level of name dropping. The high level of name dropping
is always about: "Oh, my friends are so important, and I'm always with these special people",
and they... They get a bit boring because they're always talking about these special
people they know.
Next is something that I have done a few times in my life-well, more than a few-it's called
French leave. Right? This, I don't believe is the English term for it. This is how I've
known people in other countries talk about it to me. Right? I don't believe we have an
English word for it, but this means when you've been hanging out with some people or you've
been at a party and instead of saying: "Oh, bye, I'm going now", you just leave. You don't...
You don't say you're going, you just decide to go. Now, why does such a thing happen?
In my opinion you've been at a party, the host is there, but there's so many people
there you don't really need to go and say good bye to the host because they're still
going to have this party for hours. If you go and say good bye, then other people might
try to make you stay and things like that: "Nah, leave it. I'll just... I'll just go. It's fine."
That's why I personally do it. It would be really... Doing a French, you
know, not saying good bye when it's just you hanging out with one other person, I think
that's quite a different situation. I've never done that before. I mean in a situation where
there's a lot of people there. Okay.
Next one is talking over somebody. Some people have a thing about this that if you're talking
and somebody interrupts and starts speaking at the same time, some people think:
"Oh, that's so, so terrible. Oh no. They've spoken",
and what some people do when that happens
is they just stop talking.
So you spoke over me, I cannot speak anymore. But it's not very
effective because if somebody talks over you, they don't care and they're not going to stop,
you will just be listening. So my... My thoughts on this: Okay, yeah, it's impolite. But sometimes
you never, ever get a chance to speak if you don't talk over someone because other people
don't stop. So depending on the people, how much they talk, sometimes you need to talk
over people. Or sometimes if you've got an idea that you really need to say, then you
can talk over it. That's what I think.
Next is unruly kids. This is when the parents just, like, ignore the kids and the kids are
all like: "Yay!" jumping on things, and running around, and shouting, but in a place that's
not the playground or the park. They're doing it in another public place, like a café
or a restaurant, or a train or a bus. If your kids are unruly like that then it gets annoying
to other people, really, really annoying.
When I was on the bus yesterday actually there was some unruly... Well, they... I suppose
they weren't unruly. It was just a bit odd because the mom was talking to her kids really
loudly in such an extra way, saying: "Okay, let's play I Spy now",
and: "I spy... I spy 't', oh, it's tree." But this went on for about 35 minutes on the bus, like:
"I don't care. I don't care about how much of a good parent you are. I don't care about how good
your parenting skills are." So those kids weren't really unruly. It was just more the...
You couldn't... You couldn't forget that there was some kids on the bus because it was being
made into, like, a big, big fun bus trip.
Next there's littering. Littering is when you get your garbage and you just go:
"Oh, I don't care", and you walk off and you leave it there. It's not nice to be a litterbug,
leaving your rubbish around. And especially never, ever in any kind of natural area like
a park or a beach... However, it's a very different situation in Dubai because I used
to live near the beach there and walk on the beach every day, and there the local... The
locals would come... Come to the beach with their McDonald's or whatever, eat the McDonald's
on the beach, and just leave it, just leave it there on the beach.
"Oh, we're finished eating. Let's go now. Someone will clear it up after me." Well, someone obviously did
always pick it up after them, but if you try and do that here, that's like a... That's
a sin against nature, it's terrible.
Okay, and last one is playing music loudly from your speaker, so that would be sharing
your music with everyone who doesn't necessarily want to listen to what your music is. So you
didn't ask everyone: "Oh, hey. Do you want to listen to my Dubstep or whatever, my Drum and Bass?"
You just start... You just start playing it loud, like: "This music is... This is cool, this is cool",
but everyone else is like: "I can't stand your music."
It doesn't have to be Dubset. It could be, like, pop music or even pop music that's so loud from
your headphones that other people can hear. That's pretty annoying, and that gets boring
after 20 minutes on the bus, having to listen to it or whatever.
So yeah, here are the things that are considered polite, impolite, and bear these in mind
next time you come to England, London or the UK. Now you can take the quiz on this lesson.
I'll see you again soon.
Bye.
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